01 Many people always think about this and that when they sleep at night, their brains are excited and it is difficult to fall asleep. There is a trick in this: when we think, we will frown involuntarily. Before going to bed, focus on our eyebrows and pay attention to whether we frown. This can suppress our thoughts and make it easier to fall asleep.
02 The reason why I mentioned the above example is to say that only by finding the problem can the problem be solved.
In real life, some people tend to think too much, and similarly, some people are more sensitive and easily explode when they touch it.
03 The reason why there are many sensitive points is that is because you lack enough understanding of your true emotions .
This situation is somewhat similar to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Many soldiers who have experienced cruel struggles are prone to falling into this situation: in a battlefield where life is at risk at any time, they may die if they are not careful. In order to survive, soldiers must be vigilant at all times, and some soldiers' states do not ease after they are discharged from the army (hearing some sounds or seeing some pictures will cause excessive reactions). In the eyes of others, it is naturally a pathological phenomenon.
04 Emotional people also face the same dilemma.
For emotional people, ta and the world are not a state of peaceful coexistence, but a state of confrontation. believes that others are always full of maliciousness, condescending, perfunctory, ungrateful, relying on others' power, not distinguishing right from wrong, looking down on others, etc.
It is obvious that emotional people are scanning the "negative" signals from the outside world at any time, constantly comparing with their own experiences. Once they find "abnormal signals" (think this is a signal that is an attack on themselves), they will immediately become furious.
Some people will find it difficult to control themselves after falling into emotional state, and may even punch and kick the trash can that trips over. To outsiders, this is already pathological.
05 People who are prone to emotional always feel that others are doing the wrong with him, but they do not realize that they are also part of the confrontation. Even if others have left, they are still indignant.
Of course, this does not mean that we have to endure bad people, but that we should not torture ourselves, quickly withdraw from this environment, reconcile with ourselves, and exit from an emotional state.
06 To avoid emotionality, first need to find your own sensitive point : Others ask about my grades to laugh at me; others ask about my child's grades to show off their children; others criticize my behaviors to look down on me; some of my steps to go to the line; parents teach me a lesson, making me begin to doubt myself; others do the same thing repeatedly and make me angry, etc.
When these things that stimulate us happen, we must be stunned and clear these stimulus sources from our minds. This is not an ostrich mentality, but to avoid intensifying contradictions. After all, dealing with problems in an emotional situation is 99.99% of the possibility of messing up.
07 In addition, we should pay attention to ourselves as much as possible, not others.
When others speak ill of bad things, if our focus is that I am unhappy/I am hurt, not that the other party looks down on me/attacks me, then we may not have the idea of retaliating immediately.
