Last time we talked about the relationship between mood and memory, and then I said that memory is better when I am in a good mood. Some people may think it is not, some people may think that I just always remember those things that are particularly unhappy. The more unhappy I re

Last time we talked about the relationship between mood and memory, and then I said that memory is better when I am in a good mood. Some people may think it is not, some people may think that I just always remember those things that are particularly unhappy. The more unhappy I remember, the more I remember, the more unforgettable it is, which is called resentment.

For example, some people have had some such unpleasant memories in marriage and love relationships before. He also told himself, "Oh, this thing that has passed, don't think about it anymore, forget these things.

" But he just can't forget it. Remember, you can get these things out every once in a while, and then quarrel again, or don't quarrel, and you will suffer again.

Some people thought this was nonsense after listening to my last class. It’s not like that. Who said that my memory is also poor when I’m in a bad mood?

Yes, this is the case, which is why I said last time there are exceptions. This is the reason. When you are in a particularly bad mood, when the degree of badness is relatively high, it is very easy for you to remember this thing that makes you unhappy.

This is actually a human self-protection mechanism . That is to say, we will instinctively remember the things that make us particularly unhappy. Slightly unhappy doesn’t count, but it’s very unhappy. If we do this, we can do it in the future, for example, avoid similar things, right? Protecting yourself from encountering similar things again, it plays such a role.

But the memory is good when you are happy, and there is a difference between the one you are talking about when you are unhappy now. He has a good memory when he is happy. He just remembers that happy thing. He is happy. He cares about everything and has a good memory. He has entered a universal state of good memory.

But when he is unhappy, he does not have a good memory of other things happening around him, but says that he only has a good memory of this unhappy thing himself.

This tendency to remember unhappy things, it brings us a lot of pain. So many people would rather hope that their memory is not so good. Forget it, but they just can't forget it. What should I do?

We can't explain exactly what to do in such a short time, but we can simply and principledly say that it is not to try to forget it, don't tell yourself that it is not possible, I must forget this matter.

Because when you tell yourself that I must forget this matter, you are actually reminding yourself that there is such a thing, and you will actually be even more unforgettable.

is actually a relatively effective method to let things go, while a relatively effective method is to do nothing. That is, "Oh, just think about it, just feel uncomfortable," and then wait for this discomfort to pass slowly, I don't have to do anything deliberately. Treat it in this way, can it be forgotten quickly? No, but he will forget it slowly. It is better to forget it slowly than not to forget it. So this might be a method available.

At this time, you should tell yourself not to be upset and always remember these negative things. Psychologically, it is a way for the body to protect itself, and a way for yourself to remember these lessons.

Then we thank the subconscious self. He would rather endure such pain than remind himself to remember these unpleasant experiences and avoid falling into the same pit again.

to thank a self in this part of your heart, and then he will endure, accept, wait, and then it will slowly pass. Do this a few more times, and the negative memory will gradually fall.

Although this is not the best method, it is a method available. When you are in a bad mood, the negative things that strong memory makes us remember will one day slowly fade away like words on stones.

(Author: Zhu Jianjun, official account: Neiming Online School)