1: Do you have the feeling of superiority without making any efforts, thereby improving the current situation of inferiority complex?
I am very ashamed, unfortunately, the willful and arbitrary superior complex and the pretending to be weak inferiority complex have been fully revealed to me.
Inferiority and superiority are two-sided. Some people set goals to pursue superiority in terms of life and will fall into a mischief complex or route that dominates others, and use tears to attack others' inferiority complex.
When I was a child, I really wanted to get sick. I was very excited to see my mother being sick and being hospitalized. The whole family would go to the hospital to deliver food. I bought some delicious foods that my mother wouldn't want to eat. I felt that I was surrounded by love. At that time, I was determined that if I got sick, I would receive special care, and I would receive the focus of many people. There would be many benefits. I would not let you do things and would feel that I would be loved by others without any effort. So when you grow up, you often make it uncomfortable here, hurt there, don’t want to eat, etc. You use all kinds of sick physical or psychological aspects to constantly experience the education of “you can get what you want when you are sick”, and use this as a reason to reuse the same tricks to avoid facing the problems of life.
2: If you want to take a shortcut, your future will be bleak
Some people fall into a complex, and some people play the positive role of inferiority in life. The difference between the two is the difference between courage and confidence.
Courage is a feeling, that is, you feel that you have the ability to contribute to others and that you have the value of being needed. If you have courage, you are not afraid of all difficulties. If you lose courage, you are afraid of being hurt. You will avoid trying hard and pretending to be successful. Going on the wrong path of pursuing the "illusion of success".
A relatively deep impression in my work experience. My colleagues around me think I look very capable, but always feel that I seem to be missing something. There is only one brave colleague who said directly that I don’t have any professional knowledge and can’t come up with any hardcore things. At that time, I was frightened by my colleague's words, as if this sentence suddenly hit my backbone, but I was speechless. But at that time, I didn’t know that I was using the inferiority complex and superior complex to go astray in my life.
Due to the influence of my inferiority complex in this superior plot, I could feel that my child was not confident enough when he was very young. When they encountered setbacks, they always thought that they were useless and felt worthless and had no ability to do anything well. So they would choose to give up many things, because giving up may fall into the complex of relying on others to solve life problems, which would not make me think of my child. They often like to go to the hospital, and even some of me. Everyone felt that some symptoms could be overcome. Children all chose to go to the hospital. In fact, they also chose to rely on others to solve their life problems when they arrived at the hospital. When the child was approaching the college entrance examination, he had a stomachache and often called his stomachache. I knew it was the pressure of the college entrance examination, and the physiological symptoms caused by fear and anxiety. The child searched the Internet, and then she found irritable bowel syndrome and insisted on going to the hospital. I didn't agree with her approach, so she just said that I didn't give her to the hospital, and that I was reluctant to spend money on her. Then I was also worried that if I didn’t go to the hospital, I would not be able to bear the responsibility if I had something to do. I also wanted to tell her that I was not saying that she was really sick and I couldn’t bear to spend money on her to see a doctor. Then I accompanied her to the hospital. After several tossings, fasting, drinking a lot of water, emptied food, drinking medicine, enema, and taking medicine, I did the examination and filming and found out that there was no such thing.
This is undoubtedly the complex of relying on others to solve life problems when a child encounters setbacks and pressures.
One of the reasons for frustration is spoiling. During the interaction between my children and I, my children did not receive sufficient training to solve problems on their own during their growth. Any difficulties encountered will eventually be the so-called strong mother and strong woman who will do it for me.The consequences of spoiling children are extremely serious. The child himself does not have the ability to solve problems. He deliberately does nothing, but wants to constantly attract the attention and praise of his parents. At the same time, he thinks that all this is justified. After entering society, no one will pamper this child as a child? Then the child will be at a loss and start complaining about "why don't the people around me help me?" Finally, he is hated by the people around him. It's a very sad thing.
Don’t spoil your children, but help them solve problems with their own strength.
Chapter 1 "Everyone has a sense of inferiority complex" about inferiority complex and the pursuit of superiority. end.
