is like this is because in the subconscious of most people, home means safety, trust, tolerance, love and unpreparedness to us. No matter what shortcomings we have, as relatives, you will always tolerate you. No matter whether you have achieved success in your career or have a good or bad temper, he or she will continue to love, spoil you, and feel sorry for you. It is precisely based on this mentality that when we suffer grievances and setbacks outside, we regard our home as a place to expel negative emotions and an outlet to release pressure. Having grievances to go to the home to express and vent, it is a deep reflection of the mutual acceptance and understanding between relatives. In fact, there are also good ways to release emotions and relieve stress.
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Timely adjusting cognition When we cognitively dissonant , we will fall into endless disputes. Therefore, as parties, we should learn some skills and methods to balance emotions and self-decompression. Once we realize that bad emotions have affected the people around us, we should stop immediately, and then calm ourselves down, divert our attention, go out for a walk, or chat with good friends, relieve the worries in our hearts, and wait until the worries are relieved, and after calming down, you will feel enlightened. At this time, when you look back and think about the things that made you depressed before, you will feel that those things are nothing, and you will get angry and hurt your closest person, which is not worth the loss.
Learn humor Humor is a seasoning for life and a lubricant for family members' relationships. A person with personal charm must be a person who makes good use of humor. If one of the two parties can be humorous just right in the quarrel, it will not only ease the tense relationship, but also "turn the sword into the jade" and "strangle the conflict in the cradle". Because there is no intention to hurt the other party deliberately, there is no principled problem. It is just that the other party temporarily loses control due to pressure, endures temporary grievances, and then patiently comforts them later, and often achieves the miraculous effect of harmonious and intimate relationships.
First treat the symptoms and then the root cause Don’t worry too much between families. You should find ways to cleverly resolve the tension in the family and calm the emotions of your family with love and tolerance. When your emotions gradually stabilize, you will understand the advantages and disadvantages and guide them step by step. Understand more, care and considerate. Over time, under the nourishment of love, the bad temper will be cured without medicine.
Author: Qian Qi
Intern Editor: Liu Wenwen
Review: Qiao Huilin Planning: Li Jia Coordinator: Guo Qun
