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Some visitors have heard of one of my symptoms in the lecture: If you are "dead" and live again, you find that you have been buried deep underground or placed in the furnace to be cremated, what should you do? When I asked the client, I reminded the client: "Is this symptom exactly the same as what you are worried about?"
. The client's reaction is usually: "Teacher, your symptoms are too outrageous. How is it possible? Even if it is possible, the probability is too small. What are you afraid of? But what I fear is very real, and it always feels that it is possible to happen."
When I asked TA, "Is the probability of what you are worried about? Is it true that when you state it to others, the reply you get is also, 'What you are worried about is almost impossible. What are you afraid of with such a small probability?'"
The client was silent.
We often feel that our symptoms are the most painful and difficult to treat, and we feel that our fears make sense, while the corresponding events are most likely to happen. As for others' "fear" it is quite ridiculous, "What's the reason for anxiety and fear?"
"Self-centered" is a taboo in recovery, and Mr. Morita has talked about this.
"I feel the most painful and my symptoms are the most helpless." It seems that without this special protection, I can't prove my uniqueness. Repeated defaults and emphasis on this is a typical manifestation of self-centeredness.
says it is a taboo in recovery, not because empathizes with inadequate. Instead, when you always specialize yourself and your symptoms, you can’t leave your self-centered focus. This is also why some visitors always complain, “Why am I always unconsciously paying attention to symptoms?” Is
unconscious? no. The focus of attention is more due to the long-standing "self-centered" trait.
When "self-centered", it is difficult to objectively and impartially examine the rationality of things, because subjective imagination replaces objective facts.
"I think it will happen" and "I think it is very likely" were successfully implanted into your thinking pattern.
This is the ability to control symptoms. It controls your judgment of facts and influences your discernment of truth or falsehood.
"Why do others think that it is impossible for me to fear to happen?"
"I think what I worry about is like ten thousand, why is the small probability in the eyes of others like the fact that is about to happen in my eyes?"
Why? You are controlled by your symptoms. How can
not be controlled by it? If you can't do it all at once, let's leave "self-centered" first.
only feel that your suffering is bitter, and only think that your pain is more painful. This mentality determines your state. Pay attention to the person with the most serious symptoms - yourself, fall into the most feared symptoms.
If you let everyone start a debate, I believe that every forced friend can list a large number of arguments to support the argument that "my symptoms are the most special." However, the arguments you listed are pathological, they are the product of bad thinking patterns, and they are not presented based on objective facts.
Some changes need to be achieved through active learning or being guided by a consultant.
Getting out of self-centeredness is a mentality separation, not just a simple change in consciousness like "I understand sympathy", "I learn to empathy", and "I understand other people's pain".
"will pay attention to symptoms involuntarily" comes from being trapped in a self-centered vicious circle for a long time. Breaking this vicious circle requires you to be constantly aware and draw a clear line between the symptoms through actions and symptoms again and again.
If you have learned Morita therapy, if you know how to do it, I hope you will persevere in going to a new world.
If you can’t break through the siege with your own strength, then I will help you clear the chaos and get out of the trap.
