Xiao Zhang and Xiao Yun are couples, and they have been married for two years. Young people don’t like to cook and often go out to eat. Sometimes I am myself, sometimes with classmates and colleagues.
Once, Xiao Zhang came to a friend from another place. Just as lunch time was about to come, Xiao Zhang sent Xiao Yun a message: I won’t go back to have a meal. The two of them were eating and chatting outside.
After returning to the night, Xiaoyun kept silence and ignored Xiao Zhang. After Xiao Zhang coaxed her for a long time, Xiaoyun said: Do you don’t love me anymore? Are you afraid that I will embarrass you if I am ugly? Are you still angry with me? …
Xiao Zhang was so amused and cried. Knowing that Xiaoyun was too careless, he quickly explained to her that his friend would come to see him and he would have to leave after one or two hours. He couldn't wait for Xiaoyun to get off work to have dinner together.
Have you ever met someone as sensitive as Xiaoyun? Do you always think about everything and worry about gains and losses? Why do you always care about other people’s thoughts? This is because you are too sensitive.
The book "Emotional Insensitivity" written by the famous Japanese psychologist Tesan Kato uses easy-to-understand psychological theories to interpret why people are easily sensitive and sensitive to the problems faced by people and how to get rid of them.
Sensitive people will repeatedly think about what they encounter in their hearts. Many people have a sense of victims and they long for others to care about and praise themselves. If they are not satisfied, they will be angry and will think about everything. The more they think about it, the further they are, the further they are from the actual facts they were. Many sensitive people are obviously dissatisfied with themselves, but they take their anger on them. What people like
lack is insensitivity.
The author said: Insensitivity is a talent, and you will find that among the people who have achieved success in all walks of life, many people can freely retract their insensitivity.
Insensitivity is a ability to quickly forget unhappiness. People with insensitivity are often not afraid of failure. When they fall, they can get up and continue moving forward, and they don’t care about misunderstandings, ridicule and jealousy. How to have insensitivity? As long as you do the emotional addition, subtraction, multiplication and division,
Insensitivity is not out of reach, it is originally in our lives. As long as you learn emotional addition, subtraction, multiplication and division, you will also have insensitivity.
addition is something that adds positive energy to emotions, think about everything in the best place, and add a little "sweet" to life;
subtraction, discuss things with the facts, don't think too much, don't be too slim, remove the bad emotions that can bring us negative energy;
multiplication is to start from oneself, get rid of the mentality of "seeking attention", strengthen your heart, and don't care about other people's thoughts;
division, learn to communicate, resolve misunderstandings, remove all kinds of negative emotions that affect our lives, and go into battle lightly, so that we can deal with life more easily.
When you have emotional insensitivity and can easily retract insensitivity, you have the ability to eliminate your own and negative emotions, and have the courage to face life alone. You do not rely on anyone and do not need to "attention". You can become your own sun and exude positive energy outward. In this way, "Emotional Insensitivity" will be transformed into motivation, allowing you to easily get rid of sensitivity and live easily!
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