Nowadays, wealth anxiety has become a normal state for people. Simply put, it is to worry about money. When you have no money, you have no money. When you have money, you can worry about money. When you have money, you can worry about money. In short, I worry about money, worry about it, and keep my energy in my mind at all times.
Now I should be considered to have gotten out of the state of anxiety about wealth and no longer worry about money. Wealth anxiety actually has nothing to do with having money or not. Wealth anxiety will arise. The key is to be clear about your original intention and essence of pursuing wealth.
Yesterday I recorded my original intention for wealth and what I think is the essence of pursuing wealth now?
Under this foundation, let’s talk in detail about how to get out of wealth anxiety? Yesterday's one is the first step. Today we will try to make some assumptions for wealth data.
Suppose you made 1 million last year, but this year you only made 800,000. Most people will start to feel anxious and feel stressed at this time. Why didn’t you earn more last year?
You are anxious about the difference in profits of 200,000 from last year, but you ignore the fact that you still make 800,000 yuan this year! You are not happy because you earned 800,000 yuan, but you feel stressed because you earned 200,000 yuan less.
Is this a pathological psychology?
Assuming that the first prize of the Double Color Ball is 5 million and the second prize is 300,000, you will miss a penny every time. No problem, you will be very happy to win 5 yuan occasionally. But suddenly one day you won the second prize of 300,000, and you may be sad for a long time. Why did you "only" win 300,000? Five million is a little bit short, why?
You don’t win a penny, and you will be happy if you win 5 yuan occasionally. But this year you won the second prize of 300,000,000, but you were very angry and hated yourself for not winning the first prize? You ignore the 300,000 you get, and you are sad about the 5 million that does not belong to you. You are even more sad even if you get a lot.
Is this a pathological psychology?
In the pursuit of wealth, we have been staring at what we don’t have, but we ignore what we already have.
When you are a pauper, you think about when you will make 1 million, and after you make 1 million, you think about when you will make 10 million....
It's right for people to go to a higher level, it's right for making more money. But the more money and the more anxiety you have, you are wrong. Think about why you are so happy every day when you are poor, but now you are unhappy when you have money. There is something wrong with you, which is called wealth anxiety.
I have switched to investment and financial management in the past two years. In the early stage, I wanted to refresh the market software in a few seconds to see what the price is going on. The daily mood depends entirely on the floating profit and loss of the account today.
Get up in the morning and take a look at the market. How much money did I lose today? I was in an instant. Am I really losing? Actually, there is no such thing as this. These are all floating profits and losses on the books, and the daily rise and fall are actually very normal.
Actually, I didn’t lose, but it seemed to be a loss, just like opening my eyes to tell myself, suppose I lost 300,000 today. Then how could I feel better today?
I was assumptioned by my wealth and affected my original good mood and normal life. Under this influence, you may be in a bad mood and speak very hard, which may lead to getting angry with your wife, being unhappy with friends, or even having disputes with passers-by, etc. There is a floating profit and loss above
, but it is actually not a loss. Just like you bought 100,000 yuan of iron, the market fell 2,000 yuan today, but your iron is still there, and you have not sold it and you have no actual losses. You are thinking about how I can make up for the loss of 2,000 yuan?
Your life will be affected by this loss of 2,000 yuan. Will the actual book profit and loss of 2,000 yuan have a great impact on your principal of 100,000? Not much impact. Since there is a market trend, then there will be ups and downs. Is this a normal situation? Am I affected by a normal situation? Well, too many people have been affected.
Assume again, even if this 2,000 yuan is not a floating profit and loss, your iron worth 2,000 yuan today was stolen by someone. This is a real loss, and it was stolen by someone. So what about
? A loss of 2,000 yuan may not matter to your worth of millions or tens of millions, it will not affect your actual life at all. But if you lose 2,000 yuan, you are anxious and worried and unhappy.
may hurt your body, may quarrel with your wife, may have a dispute with passers-by, etc. Once these happen, they will not be a loss of 2,000 yuan. Have you considered it?
If you insist on saying that my net worth is only 50,000 yuan. I bet on my net worth and went to a loan of 50,000 yuan. I raised this 100,000 yuan, and today I was stolen from 2,000 yuan. It affects you, to be honest, you deserve it. You are not well distributed about wealth. You don’t have such a large amount, and you force yourself to put pressure on yourself. Who is you anxious if you don’t?
When I think about these things, to be honest, I was very relaxed this year. First, check whether you have any problems with your investment allocation policy. No problem. Then just live your life well. Aren’t the rest troubled by mediocre people?
is still the iron of this 100,000 yuan. The market rose by 2,000 yuan today, and you will be in a particularly good mood today. Today, the market fell by 2,000 yuan, and you are in a particularly bad mood. Did you actually sell it? No, the iron of 100,000 yuan is still piled up there, so why are you affected by the floating losses and profits that have no effect?
The essence of wealth is what do you want money? For example, if you ask for money to improve your life, then now your life has been improved, your goal has actually been achieved. Some wear and tear on wealth is normal. Without completely affecting your life, this anxiety is imposed on yourself.
You may have some losses in business or investment for the time being, and you may have only lost a few points, and it is still a floating loss, but there is no actual loss. Even if these points actually lose these points, will it affect your life? In fact, it doesn't affect it.
Since it has not affected your actual life, why do you want it to affect your actual life? ? ? Make yourself unable to sleep, unhappy, get angry, double the pressure, and be nervous? This is the anxiety state we impose on ourselves.
If you say that the losses from these points have really affected my life, then you are not wealth anxiety, not psychological problems, and you don’t need to adjust your psychological problems, your problem is not psychological. . . It’s a physical illness, not a heart disease. You have to consider why you make such a layout in investment distribution? Put yourself in danger.
Adjust the psychological state and get rid of the burden caused by psychological suggestion, provided that the body has no other symptoms and problems, it is just a psychological problem. Just like hypochondriasis , I suspect that I am sick and I am very worried. However, after the examination, the body is not sick, so you need to adjust your mental state at this time. One is physical illness and the other is heart disease, different.
Clarify your needs and know what you want and don’t want.
I remember yesterday I went to a Thai massage and it was open from 12 noon to 2 am. For the same project, the charges vary depending on the time. It costs 158 yuan from 12:00 to 1:30 to 7:00, it costs 188 yuan, and it costs 288 yuan from 7:00 to get off work.
What are you doing? My purpose is to relax and stretch my body when I am tired from shopping. What I want is service and experience.
I made an appointment at 1:30 in the afternoon, and the time just reached the cheapest time, with few people and very good service. At this time, I was thinking that if I came in the evening rush hour, not only would I spend 130 yuan more, but I would not be able to enjoy the current service. After all, I would receive a customer at the same time, and there were several groups of customers at the same time during peak hours, your service experience would definitely be different.
staggered the peak period of merchant abortion. At this time, you may enjoy a consumption experience of 150 yuan for 100 yuan.If it is during the peak period of merchant abortion, then you can only enjoy the consumption experience of 80 yuan for 100 yuan.
What I want is the service experience, so I chose to stagger the peak of merchant flow, no problem.
My income has also affected in recent years, but this is not something I can control. I was wondering, why do I make money? One of them is to make money and go out to play. The epidemic has affected my income now, but has the reduction of this income actually affected my life? In fact, it cannot affect it.
The epidemic has affected income, but in fact it does not affect the money you have when you go out to play. In this case, instead of worrying about anxiety at home. Why not go out and play? Moreover, in recent years, I feel that the experience of travel has been better. Because the flow of people is staggered, the service experience is better.
The assumption of wealth is that the epidemic has been in three years, so I just think that I have no income in these few years. I imagine these three years as three years after retirement, and I travel around with my wife for a walk. Enjoy travel services that you cannot enjoy normally. After the epidemic is over, make money again.
Because I feel that people are alive and make money just to be happy and enjoy. Since the environment is not good in recent years, it is not suitable for making money. So can I understand it as a trip off the peak, just like I am avoiding the abortion in recent years and I am traveling with the flow? Or is God giving you another chance to rest? What about taking your wife out for fun? Thinking of this may make you much happier.
Make an assumption for wealth and let yourself get out of
staggered travel, the same principle is staggered consumption, you are traveling, you are spending, and you are comfortable. Making money is also to make yourself comfortable, and making money makes you even more unhappy. Isn’t that putting the cart before the horse?
Make yourself happier. People are happy and keep up with the fever. The gap in the long run will be obvious. Adjust your mental state, be happier, live two more years, don’t you have everything? Is it considered making two more years of money and enjoying two more years?
I just enlighten myself like this every day. Now I have gotten out of wealth anxiety, and I feel much more relaxed and in a much better mood.
