Among all personality types, you should be more sensitive when encountering problems with your personality.
When encountering the same problem, the stress response of anxious personality should be greater than that of other personality types. From a psychological perspective, it is that people who are anxious and tempered are completely unable to achieve "delayed gratification". Their first thought when encountering problems is: "Let the problem be solved immediately." Not everyone's temper is anxious and not everyone will feel anxious when encountering everything. Due to the different values, life goals, thoughts, beliefs, interests and ambitions, the things that make everyone anxious are also different.
What are the disadvantages of urgent temper compared to chronic?
is anxious and delicate and sensitive. It is easy to go to extremes when looking at problems and cannot delay satisfaction. Facing the same problem, people with urgent tempers will develop extreme behavior. For example: If a certain part of the body is sick and unable to move, he can face it calmly and actively cooperate with the treatment. The personality of an anxious temper cannot move a certain part of the body, and when you are anxious, your heart will not jump out. It is common to have cold sweats in a hurry, and more serious may make the condition worse.
In many fields and many issues, urgent temper has more disadvantages than chronic temper. Because a person with a anxious temper cannot control his emotions, he is always subject to emotions when encountering problems. For example, students who encounter academic difficulties will find ways to solve problems in a chronic manner. They are anxious and have a personality that is subject to emotions. They seem to be anxious but do not solve the problem. For example, the more generals who led troops to fight in ancient times, the more they encountered a critical moment, the more they were calm in the face of changes, they would achieve something.
The anxious temper personality has a strong desire to control. When dealing with core concerns, you can always feel the oppression from the anxious temper personality. Sometimes you don’t know what you did wrong, and the other party just insists on your point of view very stubbornly. They usually look very organized, whether it is the orderly arrangement of items or the orderly arrangement of affairs, they are manifestations of their control over their lives. In a personality with a anxious temper, you can easily see a "sense of order".
What is the psychological cause of an anxious temper?
1. An anxious temper can be regarded as an instinct
For every individual, when they feel frustrated or unpleasant experience, they instinctively desire to eliminate this experience immediately. Just like to toddlers, what they want must be obtained immediately. During the process of growing up, because everyone has different levels of education, most people will gradually become slow after self-cultivation. However, there are still some anxious tempers, which may take longer to cultivate sentiment to change. Ultimately, being anxious is a biological instinct.
2. Bad education
In a family environment, if the child always spoils his child and what he wants is immediately satisfying him, it will form a delayed satisfaction barrier. The delayed gratification barrier will encounter many problems in the future growth, including work, study, and dealing with people. You cannot calm down and be down-to-earth at work, give up when encountering difficulties in your studies, and curse yourself if you are a little unsatisfied in your life. As mentioned earlier, being anxious is an instinct, so you need good education to remove the problem of restlessness and irritability in the day after tomorrow. Bad education will lead to the formation of a personality that is anxious. How to change your anxious temper at
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Before you want to change your anxious temper, you must first clearly recognize the disadvantages of anxious temper. Whether you are sick or encountering sudden problems, the pressure you are under is far greater than that of others. Don't wait until you are anxious before complaining about your anxious temper. From a long-term plan, it will be rewarding to change your temper. Whether it is solving real problems or dealing with people, it will be greatly improved.
1. Learn to do some meticulous things
is a little anxious and personality, and cannot do some meticulous things. For example, pour out a box of thumbtips and , and let the tips face upwards. I feel a little anxious and my temper and personality will be anxious after fiddling with them for a while. The best way to get rid of your anxious temper is to gradually calm down and stabilize your temperament through this kind of training.For example, learning calligraphy, knitting, musical instruments, etc. can all train your own temperament and slowly become slow. Don’t try to be fast at the beginning. You always hope to achieve quick results when you are anxious, but you can’t do it well.
2. Keeping pets
Whether it is raising fish, dogs, or cats, it can change the temper and make the temperament more peaceful and stable. By taking care of another life, you can constantly hone your temperament. However, there is another risk in keeping pets. If you cannot change your temper with a pet, you may abuse your pet. Just like those mothers with anxious tempers and personality, they will slowly get rid of their irritability in the process of raising children, but they will also form a mother with excessive control.
3. Take out time every day to sit quietly
As said in " University ": "You can calm down after you know the stop, you can be calm after you are calm, you can be calm after you are calm after you are calm after you are peaceful after you are peaceful after you are peaceful after you are worried after you are worried after you are satisfied." You want to stop from your busy life and then calm your impetuous mood. In this way, you will gain something by looking at life step by step. Such training has no end. I always want to determine how many days it can be improved. This idea itself is wrong. If you no longer pursue it and get solved immediately, you can make it right now.
Finally, there is still a long way to go to grow. For the sake of your future self, change your temper!
