After I put on my mask, I never laughed again. Is this talking about you?
Yes, behind how many smiles are, what is hidden is sadness, disappointment, and sadness. It's like Hu Jingjing in a TV series " I'm good in a foreign land" I watched some time ago.
On the surface, she always smiles in front of her friends, and is also a silly and happy person in front of her parents, looking optimistic and strong. However, in fact, she just used a smile to hide her inner sadness.
But even so, when a friend asked her how she was okay? She would still answer "I'm fine, it's pretty good." Until she met the last straw that crushed her to death, a call she was unwilling to answer, and finally she chose to say goodbye to this world.
No one expected that this person who is a "little sun" in the eyes of his friends around him. He always looks happy and happy, but he is a patient with moderate depression.
I wonder if you have heard the word "smile depression". The so-called smile depression means that this person is actually in a low mood, but when dealing with others, not when he is alone, he always faces others with a smile.
is like Hu Jingjing. She always looks happy when getting along with her friends and family, but in fact only he knows what his mood is behind this smile.
Just like the psychologist Jung proposed this concept, "personal mask", which refers to the side that people publicly display, that is, a mask is a personality, or a side of personality.
In layman's terms, a person will show different masks when facing different people or things. Maybe you are a humorous and positive person in front of friends, you are a sensible or rebellious person in the eyes of your parents, you are a capable or lazy person in front of colleagues, and you are a polite or cold person in front of strangers.
That is to say, under each mask is a way of expression that meets the expectations of the outside world. Of course, this is a very normal thing. The existence of a personality mask is completely necessary, because when facing different people, there will inevitably be different ways of expression according to their closeness and distantness and work needs.
It is just that under this personality mask, it is difficult for people to notice which of these masks is the real self. This is also why those who appear to be positive and optimistic will one day suffer from depression , which makes us feel incredible.
Because in front of everyone, how could he feel depressed with such a vision? However, on the contrary, the more a person can keep smiling, the more he may be full of holes in his heart.
You should know that a person’s life cannot be smooth sailing. He will always encounter some things that make him sad. If a person can always face everything he encounters with a smile, then this is probably his disguise.
As we all know, emotions need to be vented. If a person keeps suppressing his inner emotions, then problems will easily arise.
It’s like we have all heard the saying “People who love to laugh will not have bad luck.” However, in fact, this is often not the case. Laughing does not mean optimism, it may be just a concealment.
It’s like when we face our family. Even if we are sad now, we will still try our best to squeeze out our smiles and show our best side.
Just like the hero 1900 in the movie " Sea Pianist " I once watched, his experience tells us that behind the smile, there may not be happiness, positivity, and good luck. It may be inner vulnerability and loneliness.
This is why it is difficult for people to discover smiling depression, because in the eyes of others, how can he be sad if he is very positive and optimistic?
So, don’t always wear a personality mask, don’t always hide your inner sadness with a smile. We should not over-disguise and suppress ourselves, we should open our hearts, because joy, anger, sorrow and happiness are normal emotional manifestations of people.
If you are really unhappy, there is no need to force yourself to be happy.You know, laughing does not mean happiness, it may be a smile depression.
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