A mathematician may take you to a good job, and a bunch of friends may be with you every day, but a psychologist will teach you how to be yourself.
Love is the psychology professor holding Will and repeating over and over again: "It's not your fault." And I was moved to tears when I heard this sentence outside the screen; Love is the mathematician who wanted to give Will a good future so that Will should not waste his life by moving bricks on the construction site; Love is the friend who actually used his own strength to build a small car for Will as a 21st birthday gift.
Fortunately, when Will understood, he was only 21 years old.
Part 01
Why do you understand so many great principles but still not live a good life? Because you have not practiced it.
The author in the movie, he understands a lot of truths. He knows that Michelangelo's life was able to calculate mathematical formulas that no one else could do. He has never experienced war, but all the arguments about war are clear... He has gained a lot of knowledge from books, but he is still unhappy.
Why?
because he has no practice.
Psychology professor said: " You can make the rough arguments in the books, you also know the book about Michelangelo's life, his political ambitions, his relationship with the pope, his sexual orientation, all the works and the epoch-making significance they have; but you don't know the smell of the Sistine Cathedral, and you have never stood there to admire the beautiful ceiling, but I have seen . "
" If I ask you about women again, you will tell the fallacy of personal preferences. You may have been in bed with others a few times, but you can't tell the feeling of a woman waking up next to you. . "
" If I ask you about war, you will say Shakespeare words "Once more into the breach, dear Friends", but you have never been close to war, never held your friend's head on your knees, and watched him let out his last breath to ask you for help. "
" If I ask you about love, you will quote sonnet , but you have never seen the fragility of a woman. He can knock you down with his eyes, feel that God lets the angel descend to earth for you, He can save you from hell, you don't understand the taste of being an angel, have love for her, forever, experiencing all this, experiencing cancer, you cannot experience the feeling of lying in the hospital for two months, holding her slender hands, because you will know when you see it in your life. The rules in between are invalid for you. You don’t understand the real loss, because only by loving others is better than yourself can you understand it. I doubt you dare to love others like that. Looking at you, I didn’t see cleverness and confidence. I saw a arrogant child who was scared to death, but you are a genius, no one can deny it, no one can understand your depth. .”
psychologists also appreciate this little genius, but this genius is just a child who is scared by life. He has been guarding deep in his heart. No one can come in. Only one person can forgive him, forgive the mistakes he made when he was young and ignorant, and say to him: "It’s Not your fault.” Only then can he completely get out of the psychological shadow and find his own way forward.
Fortunately, the doctor led him out of the shadow in his heart and found the final direction to move forward.
He said, "Just tell him sorry, I had to go see about a girl."
Part 02
Thanks to my friends for accompanying me forever and letting me grow.
Will has three good friends, and these friends who smoke, drink, play cards and go to the bar every day actually make Will feel very safe. Every morning, friends come to pick him up and go to work. During the breaks, everyone drinks a bottle of beer together, stands by the road and smokes two cigarettes, and lives a happy life.
Will even said to friends: " I will live here in the next life. We are neighbors, we will be dads, and we will take them to play small alliances together. You are my best friend, so don't get me wrong with ."
A friend said, " But if you still live here in 20 years, go to my house to watch football games, and build a house, I will kill you fuckingly, because I will be fifty when I wake up tomorrow, and I will still do such things, it doesn't matter; but you have the talent that we don't have, and you stay for another 20 years is an insult to us, and I am wasting your time here . "
Will has not many friends, but it makes him feel very secure. When I was a child, Will was adopted by three foster care families. They abused him domestically, which made him very scared. He was once insecure. I think I am also a person who lacks a sense of security, and he is a person who lacks a sense of security. I have no trust in my heart, and it is very difficult for me to walk into my heart alone, but once I open my heart, I can make people move forward.
I think this is Will's inner world. My friends hope that Will will walk out of this area and realize his bigger dreams; they are still waiting for him, and give him enough security and happiness.
My friends said: " I tell you what I know. I go to your house to pick you up every day, and we go out to drink and laugh, that's great; but the best moment of my day is only ten seconds, from the parking lot to your door, and every time I knock on the door, I hope you are gone. I didn't say goodbye, I had nothing, I just left like that. I didn't know much, but I knew very well . "
These words were told by an ordinary friend. I think he may be very ordinary, but the words it tells shine and truly shine on me at some point.
At the end, my friend pieced together a broken car when he was 21 years old as a birthday gift for him; the car was broken, but the affection was deep and long, and it was long and long.
Part 03
Do what you really want to do and move forward bravely.
Will asked the professor, " If you don't meet your wife, will your life be better? "
Professor said: " Because people always have bad times, but this will also make you recall good things that you didn't care about before . ”
So Will said to the girl, “ I have been here for four years, and I didn’t find you until now, but at least I still found . "
When I was a teacher, every time I gave a lecture to students, I would tell them to draw the scene you like and the content you really like, and that's fine. Even if you don't draw well, even if your lines are not smooth enough, even if you are just an ordinary child, even if you are not so uniform when you draw, every little content in your writing is your deepest vision.
My students all add the shapes they want when they draw their schoolbags and the functions they want. It is precisely because of the addition of this function that their schoolbags become rich and colorful, their works shine, and they make them shine.
Multifunctional schoolbag
The image of her beloved Pikachu
The little girl's skirt is the schoolbag
The lower left corner is her favorite literary work
bazooka schoolbag
Because of this, the works written by students have become rich and colorful, and they have their own ideas. They don’t need to be confined. Everything they need is encouragement, support and guidance. When I see the protagonist Will, he is a gentle big boy. He needs constant guidance, affirmation and encouragement. Every child also needs encouragement, and needs parents, teachers, and friends to affirm themselves.
I think education is not about what kind of person the children become, but about what they want to become.
The affirmation of oneself is more important than anyone’s affirmation.
Part 04
In your life, are there anyone who opens your heart and touches your heart
In the movie, Will asked the professor: "Is there anyone who opens your heart and touches your heart in your life?"
I really want to say that there is, but there is no; I have been walking alone in this world, no matter how noisy I am around, I feel that I am a lonely individual, I want to find like-minded people, but I have never found it. I am looking for a home in books. The wisdom of the ancients traveled through thousands of years, gave me a little guidance to my life, and gradually became a sunny girl.
In the movie, the professor said, "It's not your fault." When I cried more painfully than the protagonist. The protagonist met someone who could open his heart, but I didn't. I was afraid that others would hurt me, even a little bit of pain.
I always hope that in my life, I can meet people who speak to me like this.
The ancients said, "Don't worry about having no friends in the future..."
? Walk forward with big strides.
