"The "big mistake" in the article refers to the most correct choice you think is, which is a big mistake in the eyes of others. "My beauty" means that individuals have their own freedom and right to choose, and the freedom to choose is the most beautiful." It is a common view that
people tend to agree with their own ideas.
In fact, people subconsciously think that their ideas are universal and appropriate. Although sometimes the ideas they hold are wrong, people still feel: "My ideas are not wrong, if others do, they will do that." In this way, they try to justify their wrong ideas and persuade others to agree with their ideas and behaviors. The phenomenon of thinking that one's own thoughts or behaviors are common practices is called the "false universal effect"
Especially when others are in the same environment as themselves, people are more inclined to think that others will take relevant actions with themselves.
So what is the false universal effect? An important condition for the effect of
is to be in the same environment as . For example, when cooperating with people with the same values or experience, you expect your choice to be valued and recognized, and think that the actions you make are caused by the objective environment. If others will take the same ideas as you, as the ideas that your judgment will not go wrong, and other psychological activities composed of several ideas.
The team of American psychologist Rose did an experiment: billboard experiment. This experiment says that false effects will occur when choices need to be made in real life. The experiment is probably like this. In the school, I ask the student if he is willing to hang a billboard on his chest and back to promote it on campus. After getting the answer from student A, I ask student A to guess whether other students will agree.
If Classmate A agrees himself, he will think that other students will also agree. On the contrary, if Classmate A is unwilling, he will think that other students are unwilling. This result proves that false universality is not only in ideas, but also in real life.
For example, at a class reunion, the organizers of the event believed that eating hot pot is better than eating Sichuan cuisine. I think everyone must like to eat hot pot. The wrong consensus effect of refers to the psychological phenomenon that people tend to think that their own ideas are generally mainstream, and under the same circumstances, they think that others will also do the same actions as themselves.
Why do you think your ideas are mainstream?
1. People tend to work with people who share the same values, interests and experiences.
2. People value their own choices and hope that others can agree with their choices.
3. People are prone to think that their behavior is caused by objective reasons, and believe that under the same circumstances, others will also take the same actions.
4. People tend to think that they are valuable people, and in order to maintain this view, they are unwilling to admit that their choices are wrong. In fact, it is very likely to be a "big mistake".
Due to the above reasons, people will think that their thinking and behavior are universal and mainstream, and others should also hold the same ideas as themselves.
In fact, there are some underlying thinking logic in this.
1. Think that you are observing all objective facts such as things, people and the environment from an objective perspective, and think that your attitude and belief come from a fair, calm and objective judgment of information. For example: "I definitely consider this matter from an objective perspective, without any personal opinions or prejudice", "I must say this openly and fairly", etc., are actually building a belief for myself: I know you all hate self-righteous people and unfair people, but I am not. I am judging from this objective commanding heights, and you must believe my judgment. In fact, this is your subjective idea, and you are undoubtedly "big mistakes".
2. I believe that if the other party shares the same information with you, then after careful consideration and objective consideration, the other party and you should come up with the same reaction, actions and opinions.For example, should I go to a classmate reunion to eat hot pot or Sichuan cuisine? You want to go to hot pot, so you think everyone should eat hot pot, and I thought it was very thoughtful, "Today's weather is so suitable, the atmosphere is good, the taste is good, the parking is convenient, it is close to everyone", etc. Then you must recognize my choice.
3. When the other party and himself have differences in opinions. You will think that the students do not understand the objective conditions you mentioned, the students are irrational and do not consider your decision to choose to eat hot pot from all aspects. In fact, it’s just your “big mistake” and your classmates want his “beauty”.
You don’t have to be “big mistakes” I want “my beauty”
1. When we discuss certain issues, such as parenting experience, there are often situations where the consent and opposition parties refuse to give in and finally no agreement is reached. If we consider that both parties hold the condition of "false universality", it is also understandable why the two sides cannot reach an agreement.
2. So if we are discussing a meaningful issue, we both need to fully understand that "we are right and the other party also thinks we are right." Perhaps everyone is "big mistakes" and ignoring your "beauty".
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