Hello everyone, I am a senior family education instructor tomato mother!
My father is an educator. He gave us full freedom to decide our future. He only gave a little guidance from the side and replaced the crackdown and punishment with encouragement. ——Roland
Dad is a mountain and is an indispensable growth partner for children. However, many families cannot do it. My college classmate Huihui recently divorced. As an educated young man with a high degree of education, she became a housewife after getting married. A few years later, her husband said that she had no common language with her. The two of them were not on the same frequency and agreed to give her and her child support in the future, so she was divorced.
Huihui is a child of a single-parent family . The mother and father divorced when she was very young. My mother has experienced two failed marriages one after another, and she has always followed her mother like a "little tail". Dad is a strange word to her.
When they were in love during college, they had a vow of success and got married after graduation. Huihui thought she could hide behind her husband for the rest of her life and be a happy little woman, but now she is in such a situation. Maybe she will continue to look for another man, , like her mother, , and , rely on .
Most of the time, the mother takes care of her children more often, but psychologists believe that it is important that children are influenced by their parents. In the family, mothers have a greater influence on the child, while in relationships outside the family, children are more influenced by their fathers. The influence of fathers on children is reflected in all aspects such as personality, ability, career, etc. It can also be said to determine the future and destiny of children .
Dads influence boys' temperament and determine their personality
Boys in the family should play with their father more often. We often hear some parenting knowledge say this, and I think this is also the most sincere advice.
Some phenomena in society nowadays have to make us wary of, that is, boys' lack responsibility and courage , and batches of "mama's boy" have appeared. The little boys in kindergartens cry when they encounter something. There are very few boys in elementary school who are class cadres, and there are many boys in college who cannot take care of themselves.
What's wrong with our boys? The physiological characteristics of a boy should be masculinity. The reason why they are like this is closely related to the division of labor structure of our family.
After the child is born, the mother takes care of the child, and the father is only responsible for making money to support the family. The child and the father are in contact with the father for too short . Mothers take care of their children in a meticulous way due to their feminine nature, which leads to their strong dependence and weak personality, and lacks the strong and brave qualities that boys should possess.
Psychological research shows that children are at the age of 1 to 3 , dad is crucial to the children's companionship. Dad is an important guide for boys to get rid of the track set by their mother and move towards the outside world. The company of a father for his children is very important, whether it is a boy or a girl. Of course, work is very important, but being properly with your children is also a responsibility that a father should fulfill.
Dad's decision to have a profound impact on his daughter's marriage
The growth of a girl is also inseparable from her father's company. If your child lacks the company of his father in childhood, it may affect her future marriage and career.
Someone once did an experiment like this, mixing photos of some women's husbands and fathers together, and then letting some strangers combine them. The amazing result is that many people's fathers and husbands are wonderfully divided into groups.
People often say that your father looks like now, probably the way his daughter looks like his husband in the future. In other words, if a girl has a father, , it is likely that she will find a husband . It sounds a bit amazing, but it makes sense. Dad is the first male image in her daughter's life impression. In her concept, men should be like this. They will unconsciously look for their partner according to their father's image from the bottom of their hearts.
After getting married, the girl will gradually move closer to the pattern of getting along with her husband. For example, if your father never does housework at home, the girl will also take on all the family labor. Slowly cultivate your husband to do nothing.
Dad affects the girl's career development and decides what kind of person she is to be
Columbia University did a follow-up survey. If the father and mother share the housework in the family, when the girl grows up, the career planning will be less limited by gender limitations.
Mom and dad are the two biggest factors that affect children in the family. If the mother takes care of all the housework, the father only makes money when working, and the girl imitates her mother deeply, she will feel that she and her mother are both women. tend to be a housewife .
And those families where fathers and mothers share housework and parenting work, their daughters have a deeper concept of gender equality and have less gender limitations.
★If you want your child to live a happier future, your father must be in place for company
Dad has a broad knowledge and a big picture. If you want your child to live a happier future, your father can see further. Therefore, when your father has time, he must spend more time with his children. Tell your children about their own experiences and how they are. Tell your children how to see and recognize people, so that their children’s future will be better and their paths will be straighter and smoother.
has a kind of pride called "I have a good dad" . Everyone’s success is inseparable from the influence of the family and the common care of father and mother. If you have become a father, you must shoulder this important mission, so that your children can have the common love of their parents, accompany, care, and guide them, and participate in every step of their children’s growth.
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