What we are going to learn in this chapter is the skill of using irony communication. It guides the other party to perform the opposite behavior by giving instructions that are contrary to the intention. The result is that the other party's behavior can develop in the direction we want.
just finished reading the relevant content in "Weird Psychology": high-level skills, irony communication method. The author said that when we face a person who thinks their job is very painful and has shown signs of quitting, if we persuade them that "resigning is not possible," it will intensify their desire to resign. But if we say to them, "If you feel bored, just resign." The author of
also said that if the irony communication method is used more refinedly, it can be applied to various situations. If you want to inhibit a certain behavior of the other party, you must instruct them to perform this behavior more and more frequently. If you want to promote a certain behavior, you must use language that does not involve any content related to that behavior. It's like facing a child who is only interested in chasing stars and doesn't like studying. If the mother advises the child not to study anymore, she might as well drop out of school. My daughter will start to study seriously.
This communication technique is particularly effective for those who have strong bivalency contradictions. "If you don't want to do it, just don't do it," or "If you feel disgusted, just stop it." These are often used in the past. Although it can also be considered as some kind of ironic communication method that utilizes the principle of bivalency contradiction, the intention of this way of speaking is obviously opposite to what we actually want, so the effect will be weakened.
In life, when we face people with strong bivalent contradictions, if we use irony communication method to communicate with them, we can get great results.
