Xiao Linlin, who is in the middle class of kindergarten, always doesn't like brushing her teeth during this period. When it's time to brush her teeth, she rubs her teeth, plays with water and toothpaste, but doesn't brush her teeth properly...
If Xiao Linlin is your good child, what will you do as a mother? How will you communicate with him?
This is a real case. It is one of our psychological counseling students. After returning home from the first psychological counseling class, she applied psychological counseling techniques to her children. Then that night, her children happily brushed their teeth. What did this mother do that night?
First, she used the listening technique of psychological counseling.
Xiao Linlin was only 5 years old and could not clearly express why he did not want to brush his teeth. Then the mother listened to the child's emotions, that is, what the emotions were behind him not brushing his teeth, and then used the possibility interval technique to ask questions. Finally, he found the reason: it was because the child felt that the toothpaste tasted bad, so he asked him to change toothpaste, and finally let the child choose. So what did the child choose in the end?
Xiao Linlin squeezed his sister's toothpaste, his mother's toothpaste and his own toothpaste on a toothbrush and turned it into a colorful toothpaste... If it had been before, my mother might not have agreed. She felt that children should use special children's toothpaste and not adult ones. However, at this time, my mother used psychological counseling techniques. She understood the emotions behind the child's refusal to brush his teeth and understood what the child wanted to express, so the mother allowed it.
After Xiao Linlin used colored toothpaste for about three to five days, his mother bought him another toothpaste with the flavor he liked, and then everything returned to normal.
Before this, my mother had never thought about listening to the emotions behind her children and using possibility interval technology to communicate with them.
What my mother used to do was to present facts and reason: You must rinse your mouth, otherwise you will get cavities and your teeth will be broken...
This case tells us: Don’t just listen to the facts. Psychological counseling technology tells us that we must also learn to listen to emotions and needs. Often, behind the emotions, there are some unmet needs hidden.
To be continued ~
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