How to educate a 13-year-old boy during his rebellious period? 13-year-old children have entered the third rebellious stage in their lives - the youth rebellious period. During this period, children have a stronger sense of independence and self-awareness. When faced with interference from external uncontrollable factors, they will act for the purpose of self-protection, triggering a sense of resistance, and then perform some rebellious behaviors. Many parents find these rebellious behaviors unreasonable, but they don’t know how to educate them. Let’s discuss them today.
1. Stabilize emotions and lead by example
It is actually reasonable for parents to get angry when faced with their children's rebellious behavior. However, if you only rely on using your own authority or beating and scolding to try to make your children obedient, this kind of "education" method is doomed to fail. Parents must stabilize their own emotions first and do not educate their children in anger. Your impatience, upset, and lack of calmness will only create an atmosphere of tension with your children.
We often say that "children are a mirror of their parents." Your behavior and attitude towards your children will affect your child's character development. In fact, many of the children's problems can be answered from their parents, and the motivations for their children's rebellious behavior can also be traced back to the previous family education method.
Therefore, parents should set an example and influence their children with their words and deeds. Of course, this does not mean that we parents should do a good job. At least when we set rules for our children, we must follow these rules ourselves. If it’s troublesome even for us, why ask our children to do it?
2. Effective communication
Many parents say that when communicating with their children, they always fail to talk to each other and talk more than half a sentence. The children are tired of the parents' preaching, and the parents are dissatisfied with the children's boredom. Such communication is not only ineffective, but also triggers children's rebellious psychology. The more they communicate, the more they want to avoid you.
We should conduct "effective communication" and be able to generate effective emotional resonance after the communication is completed.
First of all, parents should put down their airs and not talk to their children in a "condescending" manner. When communicating, try to reduce the imperative tone and try to communicate with your children in a suggestive tone.
Secondly, parents should not always be "preconceived". If they are dissatisfied with certain behaviors of their children or wear "colored glasses", smooth communication will not be achieved.
Furthermore, parents should learn to listen, listen to their children's ideas with a sincere attitude, try not to interrupt their children, and do not overwhelm the children and forcefully instill their own opinions.
Finally, we must learn to give appropriate feedback. After the child has finished talking about a topic, parents can summarize appropriately and ask the child whether the summary is correct. Pay attention to the child's emotional changes and let the child know that you understand him.
