There is a psychological phenomenon called prosthetic pain, that is, disabled people will feel that the prosthesis installed produces seemingly real pain. This common psychological phenomenon is actually related to the lack of control over the limbs and a sense of rupture in internal relationships.
Pain is a complex feeling. Many pains cannot be pinpointed and are diffuse and result from the widespread release of neurotransmitters. If you feel diffuse negative emotions that cannot be described, you will feel a radiating dull pain.
Therefore, if we can describe this feeling and even associate it with cause and effect, this emotion will weaken, our sense of control will increase, the source of the feeling will be certain, and the release of information transmitters will also move towards the negative feedback loop. Narrative therapy allows the client to provide a personalized description of the event, establishes his own sense of control, and begins to recover the lost sense of self-identity, helping us get through the painful stage.
And the rupture of the relationship is also diffuse. Relationships are important supports and penetrate into our life experience. The party who actively maintains the relationship can control its own investment, can set its own boundaries and methods through feedback, can choose the timing and method of communication based on each other's tension, can accommodate conflicts and promote the long-term relationship with patience, and can also make itself more flexible in compromises and can introduce more resources to solve the locked situation.
Therefore, they have strong resilience and control over the relationship. Without this relationship, they can limit the problem, locate the problem, and make up for the relationship without causing a diffuse sense of loss of control.
Similarly, business relationships also have an important spillover effect. They will receive feedback from outside the relationship and expand more value in the relationship. Therefore, a diversified relationship network is very important. Invest enough to gain a sense of connection and make your world richer.
There is a food delivery company in Japan, Tamagoya , which allows itself to break through among many brands by operating a stable relationship. It involves entering a person's workplace with stable customer expectations, gaining a sense of trust, and establishing support and links. On this basis, only then can one be able to treat others outside of work without causing resentment, be willing to express more detailed experiences, and dare to accept this kind of personalized satisfaction. It gradually becomes a stable expectation, and there will be a slight feeling of pain when there is an interruption. At this time, Tamagoya's phone greeting just fills this sense of lack, regains a sense of stability, and is also an important way to experience relationships.
Therefore, in the seemingly chaotic workplace, in the days of mechanical repetition, there are some stable relationships that nourish the emotional lines that we are actually very sensitive to, and bridge the gaps in the occasional interpersonal relationships in our lives.
What’s interesting is that in many relationships, the giving party is in control, and the seemingly weak one is in control. They are also more sensitive and mature in the relationship. But in fact, everyone should learn the ability to be grateful in life, which can help us experience an abstract integrity in relationships. This sense of gain can overflow into all aspects of life, and can also help us take a deep inventory of our relationship status and establish a deeper control over ourselves and the world.
