In life, we often unconsciously perform some behaviors, such as suddenly increasing the amount of cigarettes and alcohol, losing temper for no reason, doubting others without any basis, becoming less organized in conversation, making mistakes often, and often dazed...
Why?
This is our emotional reaction when facing stress.
from Chenwei Muyang
Stress has various effects on us, not only manifested in emotions, but also in the body.
For example: headache, insomnia, fatigue, excessive diet, poor appetite, constipation, back pain, early awakening...
Your body will tell you honestly and truly: I am under a lot of pressure!
Then...
What is the pressure?
- stress is the personal feeling when the environment requires you to make a choice or change
- stress is the result of a pessimistic explanation of unknown events. Some people may think that a vague and unpredictable world is unsafe, and wasting a lot of energy on worrying about possible disasters in the future will also prevent you from investing in your current work and life. Pressure is continuous energy consumption.
- . Pressure is an instinctive reaction when facing threats.
. The cumulative effect of pressure
. People have desires, and we desire better things and a better life.
Do you want to buy a better car? Your girlfriend urges you to get married, and you still have to buy a wedding house, right? You want to change to a luxurious house... Your child is always not as obedient, obedient, and good grades as others... Your wife is not as understanding, gentle and kind as other people's wives... I haven't finished what I've done today, and I have to work overtime... Will Lao Zhang think about what I said today?
We face the pressure coming from all directions, like a camel moving forward with a load.
It carries the burden forward, bears the pressure, shoulders the responsibility, and is exhausted both physically and mentally.
One day, it had new pressure (a straw). In fact, this matter was very small compared to the other pressure it was under, but it had reached its limit. It could no longer bear all the weight on its body and fell down.
In the past two or three years, there have been reports of sudden deaths from overwork, and it happened around everyone here, all of which are fresh and young lives...
About Stress source
Everyone's source of stress may be different. The general summary is These aspects: Long-term overload work, high tension, work fatigue leads to "heart fatigue", social discomfort, negative social impact, interpersonal relationship tension, family members not understanding and complaining, etc.
We need to note that everyone has different situations, different personalities, and different social support. Even when facing the same thing, the pressure they feel is different.
Is pressure absolutely a bad thing?
We are under so much pressure, what if there is no pressure? Imagine...Is it a very happy feeling?
Well, I'm really happy. I saw the smiles on everyone's faces...
However, I still have to ask: Is it an ideal state of life without stress and relaxation and happiness?
Of course, I was not alone in asking this, and some scientists also asked this, so they conducted a research. What kind of research is it?
This study is feeling deprivation experiment . In the experiment, the subjects were put on translucent goggles, , so that it was difficult to create vision; the monotonous sounds made by the air conditioner were used to limit their hearing; the arms were worn with paper sleeves and gloves, and the legs and feet were fixed with plywood to limit their sense of touch.
gives you money every day, and you don’t do things, and it feels very enjoyable to listen to it, right?
So what are the results of the experiment?
No one can stick to it for 72 hours.
Why?
After being deprived of the feeling, it will cause unbearable pain, and various psychological functions will be damaged to varying degrees. Some people even have symptoms such as illusions, hallucinations, distraction, anxiety, and fear.
No changes and challenges are themselves a kind of pressure, and vacuum life does not exist.
maintains life activities to a certain level of external stimulation. In our daily lives, the various stimuli that we accept carelessly and the various feelings that come into being are very important.
people's growth and development are the process of constantly adapting to environmental pressure. Pressure is necessary, everywhere, and inevitable. The individual's lifelong development needs to cope with new requirements at every stage.
Without pressure, there will be no growth
U. It seems that pressure is not a bad thing, we still need it.
So, what about working? What impact will stress have on job performance?
It turns out that if we give moderate pressure, our work performance will be improved.
stress is not only not a bad thing, it is also a good thing...
But our feelings of bad emotions and physical discomfort are very real. Will my body still deceive me?
of course not. We have said before that the body is very honest...it reflects our feelings honestly...
Note, reflects our feelings. What do you feel about
? It is the biochemical reaction produced by everyone's perception of external things from the individual.
Everyone has different feelings and their impact on them is also different.
Stories about pressure
Two scholars
In ancient times, two scholars went to take the exam, and they all got a coffin on the way.
A said: It’s so unlucky. When I encountered the coffin, I was determined to be dead in this exam.
B said: Coffin, get promoted and make money. It seems that my luck has come, and I will definitely pass the exam this time.
When they answered the questions, the two of them worked differently, and B passed the exam. After returning home, they all told their wives that the coffin was so effective!
We can see that when encountering the same thing, people will have different ways of dealing with it, some are positive, some are negative...
is obvious. For us, positive ways of dealing with it benefit us more.
Then why don’t we choose to respond actively? Which way do you want to choose to deal with it?
Hooded pumpkin
Emoster College in Massachusetts, USA once conducted a very interesting experiment.
experimenters used a lot of iron wire to wrap a small pumpkin , and then observed how much pressure the pumpkin can withstand the iron ring as it grows gradually. Initially, they estimated that the pumpkin could withstand about 500 pounds of pressure at a maximum.
In the first month of the experiment, the pumpkin was under pressure of 500 pounds;
When it was under pressure of 2000 pounds, the researchers had to tie the iron ring tighter to prevent the pumpkin from spreading the iron ring open.
After they opened the pumpkin, they found that it could no longer be eaten because in the process of trying to break through the encirclement of the iron ring, its flesh turned into tough and strong layers of fibers. In order to absorb sufficient nutrients to break through the iron ring that restricts its growth, its roots even extend more than 80,000 feet, and all the roots stretch in all directions. Finally, this pumpkin took over the soil and resources of the entire cultivation plantation alone.
If pumpkins can withstand such huge pressure, then how much pressure can humans bear in adversity?
It is conceivable how much pressure people will encounter during their growth process. Most people don’t know how strong they are.
Therefore, we came to a conclusion
Most people can bear the pressure they often exceed their expectations. Is
? Put it in the refrigerator and it becomes power ( frozen pear ).
Paradise and Hell
God led a man to hell. This person found that the people in hell were all skinny. They all used a special spoon to drink porridge. The handle of the spoon was very long, the head of the spoon was very small, and the porridge was sprinkled on the ground and could not drink it at all. In the end, there was no porridge in the bucket. Everyone complained and hated each other.
God led this person to heaven again. He found that the people in heaven were all chubby and smiled. They used the same spoon and ate the same porridge, but they scooped out the porridge and fed others, you feed me and I feed you, and everyone ended up eating the porridge.
The heart can create heaven and hell.
Pressure is the game for the smart people
We say that pressure is the game for the smart people. Do what you do today, without delaying, not doubting, and not guessing, and tomorrow will naturally not be too bad.
Smart people will choose a happy lifestyle.
, right? People who climb mountains sing the scenery along the way, enjoying joy and sorrow, and the so-called pressure can actually be left to those who sigh at the mountains.
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