Hello everyone, I am Ajie.
I don’t know if you feel tired for no reason in your daily life and lose interest in life. It took a long time to adjust.
Think you are introverted, so will your mental insemination be serious?
In fact, there is no strong correlation between the two. The two are not causal and effectual. Introverts can also be very free and happy. The reason why
has this understanding is that some attributes just fit the introverts.
Today we will talk about internal mental friction.
1. What is mental internal consumption
There is a proper noun in psychology called internal consumption effect.
refers to the negative effect phenomenon caused by the unnecessary consumption of manpower and material resources caused by the incoordination or contradictions of groups, society and departments. This is clearly nothing to do, and more energy consumption is placed on psychological friction.
is like someone else's evaluation of us. Even if this evaluation does not have a clear derogatory meaning, it will be considered criticism and will be depressed.
2. What are the dangers?
hesitant to do things and dare not make decisions
To put it simply, if you don’t have decisiveness, you are indecisive in dealing with things, procrastinate in doing things, and inefficient in efficiency. To put it bluntly, this hesitation will miss many job opportunities and affect the future of your career.
is easily affected and leads to depression. Ups and downs. Whenever the other person shows unhappiness, he will feel tight and feel that he has said the wrong thing. He will also feel depressed together, and he will not even have a good mood all day. The more serious consequences are depression, social terror, etc.
is tired by yourself
The biggest feeling of mental internal friction is that without physical labor, it means that you feel very tired, not physically but psychologically.
dislikes yourself
dislikes yourself who are far from the perfect image in your heart. If you set a goal for yourself, be lazy or fail to achieve the tone, you will change your plan and belittle yourself even more until you give up on yourself.
3. What is the reason for mental internal friction?
is extremely unconfident to yourself
has a low self-evaluation and often belittles yourself in your heart and feels useless. One of the most prominent features is that you focus on your own shortcomings and lack of appreciation for your strengths. Therefore, such people dare not accept praise from others and dare not show themselves to others, thinking that praise is a kind of pressure. Comparing one's own shortcomings with others' strengths will lead to belittle yourself even more in your heart.
Sensitivity in the heart
Too much care about the people and things around you, and even unconsciously associate with yourself and get negative results. A look from a colleague or friend can feel a variety of emotions, and a single action can feel various meanings. If it is related to you and has relatively negative information, it will make you feel uncomfortable for a long time. In fact, sensitive people can pay attention to the details that many people do not usually pay attention to, and do things more carefully and thoroughly, but if you don’t have confidence in yourself, you will inevitably fall into a long-term inferiority complex.
Ideas fall into past or future
From time to time I think of small things I did wrong, I am extremely upset, constantly thinking about the impact and how to make up for it. I feel anxious when thinking about something I have in the future and experience, I am afraid that I will not do well, I am afraid that I will let down other people's expectations, and I am afraid that others will despise me. There are too many things to worry about, and always focus on past and future things, in a mental fight. In the end, I chose to avoid things, delay things again and again, and the more I procrastinate, the more anxious I became, and fell into a vicious cycle.
Too high demands on yourself
Set very ideal goals for yourself and force yourself to execute them every day. When should I get up and go to bed, when should I complete the tasks and achieve what goals, I am always in a busy state every day and never dare to relax for a moment. It seems that as long as there is a slight slackness, I will be immediately thrown to the ends of the world.This kind of effort lasts for a period of time. When you find it is becoming increasingly difficult to make progress, your anxiety will fill your heart. If you try various methods and still fail to achieve results, you will fall into a long-term state of self-depreciation, which will intensify your own internal mental friction.
If there is one on it, you are likely to be in mental internal friction.
You should know that the easier life of a smaller person is, the more painful it will be for people with greater mental distractions.
4. Cope with your own mental consumption
Remove your own affairs from others' affairs : clarify your own affairs
Use motivation and stimulation actions : Split too high goals into small goals, and reward yourself if you complete them
Overturn negative emotions : Don't worry too much, the world is big, so big that you are a small ant , don't worry, it's like you turn the earth.
accept yourself : It should be clear that you are not as bad as you think.
Don’t ask too much : Let yourself go, and you must admit defeat when it’s time to admit defeat. After doing it above
, you will find that you have more smiles, are full of energy, and are more confident. Whether it is work or interpersonal relationships, you have your own way of dealing with it. You know, we cannot get everyone's likes. It's someone else's business, and this matter is my business.
encourages you together.
