Whenever you see a beautiful girl, you can't help but pick up a conversation, but you don't know where to start. Or I was picking up a conversation and had already said hello, but suddenly I found that my brain was short-circuited. My mind went blank in an instant... and other similar chat scenes can actually be summarized into one reason: I can't find the topic.
Arbitrary and natural are certainly the main theme of chatting, but if you don’t prepare some topic of conversation in advance, it will easily cause embarrassment to both of you. In addition, it is not enough to have topics alone. You must also naturally embed the topics in combination with actual scenes, locations, and characters, and enter through third parties to make a tactful conversation. Even if you are rejected, it will not be too embarrassing.
Since ancient times, there have been great differences between Chinese culture and Western culture. One of the most familiar ones is to say hello. For example, when we Chinese meet, we usually say "Have you eaten?" while Westerners generally say "The weather is good today."
Two methods also reflect the two thinking orientations of chatting.
Many novices often praise others' appearance and clothing without any concealment when they start to chat with each other. However, sometimes when they meet shy or introverted people, they will be nervous, which is not conducive to the in-depth chat. On the contrary, if you shift your attention from the other party to third-party things that you are concerned about and use it as a common topic, the effect will be completely different.
A dialogue constructed by third-party things as topics will make neither of you feel pressure, but on the contrary, it will feel very natural.
If you go to kindergarten to complete the admission procedures for your children, you may meet many parents. Although everyone is stranger, the probability of being rejected when you catch up is almost zero. This is because you all have third-party things that you are concerned about.
borrows third-party things to chat with, and you can refer to the method of third-party characters, which mainly focuses on two aspects.
On the one hand, it is a well-known celebrity deed, and on the other hand, it is a deed that is known to everyone within a certain range. For example, the recent incident of a well-known actor being detained for prostitution is a good topic. You can use this as a breakthrough point and an unfamiliar stranger to open the box of topics.
In addition, if you appear in the same social place as the other party, you can also analyze what the other party may do next and use this as a common topic point. For example, if it appears in a tourist attraction, then the attraction and tourism-related topics are your best choice at the moment.
If it appears in a catering place, then nearby food-related topics are your common points, etc...
In addition, we can also borrow well-known third-party figures to extend the topic.
A well-known person who derives things through the location and then extends from things to here, thus conducting a specific topic chat.
or you may naturally transition from the topic of the character to the objects around you. This object can be either peripheral or on the other person's body. For example, if the other party holds the latest mobile phone in his hand, then you can naturally express some opinions on it.
or a book held by the other party, can you ask who the author is? Whether the content looks good, etc...
Of course, the watches, necklaces, jewelry, etc. worn by the other party can also be infinitely extended as third-party topics...
In fact, it is a reflection of a person's inner openness and positive attitude. People who know how to chat with each other can not only have a good relationship with the opposite sex, but also beauties. You can also turn strangers around you into resources for development and use when you need them.
So, learning to use third-party entry flexibly can make yourself more flexible and have richer topics during the chat process. And the effect of picking up will be better!
