My original family is very unhappy. From the moment I can remember, my parents have been quarreling all the time, from big things like buying houses and cars to trivial matters of eating and sleeping, they all have to quarrel. So I have been afraid of marriage since I was a child, and I don’t want to get married when I grow up.
Since I went to college, I started living in the school. I thought I wouldn’t hear their noise after living in the school, but I would often receive calls from my parents. On the phone, they angrily accused the other party, which made me even more disgusted with my marriage life.
After graduating from university, I went to a new energy company. The unit has a dormitory and rented a house. Without saying a word, I rented a house near the company with my colleagues. I really wanted to stay away from that home of right and wrong.
After working, some boys pursued me, and some relatives and friends introduced me to each other. But I have always been afraid of marriage, not wanting to fall in love, and not wanting to get married, so I have been alone. In my heart, I have already planted the idea of not getting married, but I have never discussed it with my family.
My marriage was dragged on like this, and my parents talked to me many times during this period. I rejected them on the grounds that there was no suitable one. Until the year when I was 32, something happened that made me think about getting married.
The parents of a colleague in the unit were hospitalized for surgery after being sick and had surgery. The colleague was an only child and had not saved much money after getting married. During this period, thanks to her husband's money and hard work, she survived such a difficult situation. After this incident, my colleague said that she would have two children in the future. If there were problems at home, it would be best if there were many people. This incident had a great blow to me. My parents were over fifty years old. If there were problems with them, how would I treat them? From then on, I thought of getting married and having children.
is over 30 years old, and it is not so easy to find a partner. After two years of picking and choosing, I finally met a man who has never been married. Actually, I don’t have much feelings for him, and his family conditions are not very good, but this is the only man I have met in the past two years to get married, so we got married.
In fact, we lived a very unsatisfactory life after marriage. We probably don’t know how to run a family, we have a short time to get to know each other and communicate less. In my opinion, we are actually living together, so after marriage, our property is used separately.
My salary is much higher than my husband, so the daily expenses at home are mainly me, because the house is my pre-marital property and my name is written, so I also pay the mortgage. I have never asked him for money, and he buys whatever he wants at home.
A year later, I gave birth to my lovely daughter. My job was two days before giving birth. After giving birth, I naturally took maternity leave at home. During the confinement period, my husband could buy some food, drinks and things for me and my children. After the confinement period, I could move around, and the food and drink cost at home became my responsibility.
When I was working, my salary was indeed much higher than my husband, but I was responsible for the expenses and mortgages at home, and I didn’t have much deposit at all. Once I didn’t work, my only deposit lasted for two months and was basically gone. I told my husband that I was taking maternity leave at home, and asked her to take care of my daughter and me during this year. Unexpectedly, my husband broke out at that time and said that he only costs four or five thousand yuan a month, so how could he manage the food and drink expenses at home, as well as the mortgage. He also said that if it doesn't work, let the elderly see the children and I will go back to work immediately, otherwise my family's life will not be guaranteed.
I really felt very ruthless when he said this at that time. Even if this family and me have no meaning to him, the children are our common ones and they should have the right to raise them. For this reason, we had the biggest quarrel since we got married.
After the quarrel, I also calmed down and thought a lot. Do I really need marriage? The answer is no! Actually, I wanted to have a child from the beginning to protect my parents and I in the future. My husband was also chosen by me in an emergency. There is no love, let alone family affection, so I think there is no possibility of our marriage continuing.
Soon, my husband and I had a second negotiation, and I still asked him to pay the mortgage during my maternity leave. My daughter and I still disagree. I knew that my marriage had come to an end, so I started to negotiate a divorce with him. He did not agree at first. I wanted to sue him to threaten him and told him that if he signs the divorce agreement now, I will not need him to pay all the expenses for the child in the future. He reluctantly agreed to sign the divorce agreement .
After signing the letter and getting the divorce certificate , I asked him why he was so cruel and didn't take charge of my life with my daughter. She just underestimated and said that a girl wanted a good life. If it was her son, it would be different.
I hehe, a man from the 21st century still prefers boys over girls like this? I am glad that I left him soon, and I am glad that my daughter left him. My daughter has me. My daughter and I will live a good life in the future.
