As a high-level animal who believes that he has independent will, humans will be confused when they cannot find the goal or meaning. Humans need to face the emotion of "confusion".
Life itself is magical. When a person comes to the world, he will be confused when he grows up, he will be confused when dealing with interpersonal relationships, he will be confused when working, and he will be even more confused when facing birth, old age, sickness and death.
Of course, for modern people, the most common thing is the confusion at work. In this complex world, countless people are confused at every moment.
Confusion is a very reasonable and common phenomenon. There are many solutions, and this process needs to be understood by yourself. Here are a few suggestions, I hope you can inspire you when you see them.
01Stop overthinking
People’s feelings are very important, and to a large extent, confusion is a psychological state. Someone once said: "When a person starts thinking, troubles begin." In a sense, thinking is the root of troubles.
feels confused when working. Is it because you are thinking too much? Now that the work you have is done, you think of things that will happen ten years later and twenty years later, or even after you retire. The current external environment is changing rapidly, and no one can predict it accurately. Why do you think so far away?
Many people do not have the habit of overthinking. They pay more attention to their current state, such as how to eat healthier next meal and how to live a good life today. Are such people very failed? I don't think so. Live in the present, stop thinking, and concentrate on working, and you won’t feel confused!
You can adjust your mental state, and only care about what is in front of you every day, care about what you are doing now, how to do it well, care about what to eat for the next meal, and what clothes to wear when you wake up tomorrow morning.
Try to think about what is in front of you, don’t think so much, maybe you will find that your sense of happiness has improved. So, stop thinking too much and you will be much less confused.
02Making plans and goals
If you are a person with a strong sense of anxiety and cannot stop thinking too much, then you can take advantage of this to design a plan and set a goal for yourself. The goal of
should be that kind that is very ambitious, but can be divided into small stages and can be achieved one by one, so that your work will make sense again.
This is like when you are in school, facing boring study, the college entrance examination is the ambitious goal of many people, and their ultimate goal is to achieve good results in the college entrance examination. It is inspired by this goal that a lot of meaningless learning content becomes meaningful.
In theory, minors are the most likely group to feel confused because they bear the least pressure and are still in the exploration stage of life. However, exams and lessons fill their entire youth, and they finally send them to society, and they understand the truth.
So now after you join the work, if you are really afraid of being confused and cannot find meaning, confusion may be the result of this educational method, but you can still find solutions from the previous methods.
Set up a "teaching plan" for yourself, be a student again, complete one "exam after another", and you will no longer be confused, and you may succeed because of this!
03 Find solutions outside of work
No matter what the reason, if you have to do a job that makes you confused, then treat this prerequisite as an established fact, bear this fact, and then adjust your mental state yourself to accept the meaninglessness of this job.
There is a saying: "People don't have to work when they are born, and they are forced to work only when they are forced to do so."
Maybe to support your family or for the recognition of others, but no matter what, if you want to persevere in meaningless work, you should seek the meaning of life in time outside of work to reduce your feelings of confusion.
There are 24 hours a day. In addition to work and commuting, there are also time to sleep. At least 6-4 hours left to yourself. So let’s seek meaning from these 6-4 hours, exercise, run, read, entertainment, cultivate interests, enrich yourself, use this time as your free time, seek meaning in life during this time, and use other time to maintain your survival.
People’s feelings about time will change with their mood. If you really find something you like and are willing to give for it, the 4-hour gain will be greater than 8 hours of work, so that you can maintain your healthy mentality and no longer be confused.
04 Make changes
The above three statements are to make you compromise with your work and adjust yourself to adapt to your work. However, these are not only the ways to solve the problem, you can also change yourself and make your own choices.
For example, if you really feel confused about this job, then leave the job, and then do what you want to do, do the job you want to do, or simply stop working, and first look for the meaning of life, and then return to the workplace when you are not confused.
In short, you should find out the root cause of your confusion and then solve it! If you need psychotherapy, go to treatment; if you need to change jobs, go to work; if you need to leave your city, leave. Don’t hesitate, make changes and take action!
This action is not next year, nor after a while. Don’t feel that you are not ready. You will never feel that you are fully prepared before making such a change.
If you choose, it is now, otherwise you will never take action, but only by acting can you fundamentally solve the problem. Don’t wait until you can’t make a choice in the future and then regret not making a choice at the beginning.
Of course, you have to bear the consequences of your choices, no matter how good or bad you make. After making your choice, you may understand what you want.
In short, the ultimate meaning of life is an eternal topic worth discussing, and the meaning of work also needs to be found and experienced by ourselves. Life is like a journey, and work is just a part of it. No matter what choice you make, you should face it calmly and believe you can find the answer.
