Suitable gifts are a very common thing that we adults are accustomed to. Suitable gifts are given between brothers and sisters, relatives and friends almost every year, and many times there is a phenomenon that it is difficult to socialize.
Relatives and friends are generally easy to deal with, but when brothers and sisters are too close, they often have poor control over the gifts.
In some places, the amount of the gift is exaggerated. Brothers and sisters are a lifelong continuation of family ties. Although the relationship is special, the etiquette cannot be careless. However, there are some etiquette rules that we need to learn and refer to, so as to avoid doing bad things with good intentions and offending others without knowing it.
01 Gifts should be tailor-made for people who are close to you.
Relationships between people can range from close to distant. Naturally, you should give more gifts to those you are close to to strengthen the relationship. There is an old saying: Don't be surprised if you treat others with courtesy.
We have four brothers and sisters in our family, and we all get along very well with each other. Now that they have already started their own families, they will naturally have their own worldly relationships, and of course there is no way to avoid reciprocity.
At the beginning, because everyone was still young and did not understand the ways of the world, when each family did their first good deed, they did not think carefully about the gifts, and the starting point was a bit too high. Because everyone's economic income was relatively optimistic at that time, they did not consider the future at all.
Don’t focus on one or two points in the courtesy between brothers and sisters. It should be like a stream flowing slowly so as not to burden others.
For brothers and sisters who are closely related, use more gifts; for brothers and sisters who are not closely related, use less gifts. This is not snobbery, but a wise way to maintain family relationships.
treats different interpersonal relationships differently. We should clearly distinguish between our relatives and friends, which ones should be treated with courtesy, and which ones only need to be maintained normally.
If we treat relatives and friends in every household equally, we will not be able to find anyone who can help at critical moments. Sometimes it is true that only family love is the most reliable.
As far as borrowing money is concerned, as long as you are not a lazy person and want to borrow money for an emergency or something, as long as you ask, you will generally not get anything wrong. It is easier to open than others. After all, they are all people who know the basics.
02 Relatives with poor moral character should avoid giving gifts
I have a cousin who used my aunt’s family ties to borrow tens of thousands of dollars from my dad when my aunt was still alive. Let's do some work around, say a few people and months, and the principal will be repaid with interest.
The result is like Liu Bei borrowing Jingzhou and never returning it. Although it is a blood relationship, after all, everyone's character is different. When we encounter such unqualified people, we can only admit that we are unlucky.
Brothers and sisters, although they are connected by blood, have different personalities. When encountering people with bad character, the best way is to stay away from them and ignore them.
Along the way, I have also been a victim of it. Everyone must remember that in interpersonal communication, the first thing to look at is the person's character, and then talk about brothers and sisters. The relatives in my own family understand it themselves, but the problem is that they also have their own families and have their own significant other. The root of the problem lies with the other half.
You can make friends with people of good character, whether they are brothers or sisters. And people with bad character, even if they are brothers and sisters, cannot be close to each other.
03 Too many gifts will put pressure on others.
Family affection is precious, but sometimes good intentions can lead to bad things. As far as the issue of following the gift is concerned, when someone from a modest family does something good, some wealthy brothers and sisters just follow the gift with good intentions and do not consider that the other person will have to return the gift when they do good deeds in the future. .
An unintentional mistake caused unnecessary burden to others. This is also a typical example of good intentions leading to bad things.
I am currently in such an embarrassing situation. At first, my sister and I were too generous with the gift, but they were filled with joy when they received it. Now when it's time to return the gift, I feel that my financial conditions are limited.
was affected by the general environment, and its own shortcomings gradually became apparent, and its income was not as good as before. Now that their respective children are at the age of discussing marriage, the expenditure on favors has just begun.
I feel powerless when things come to a close. After everyone reached consensus, the gift index was lowered. Otherwise it would be really difficult to maintain. Family affection is a lifelong thing, etiquette is just a way of expression.
In fact, this is what gifts are, just follow the trend and don’t give too much to yourself, which will bring unnecessary burden to others. Treating people with courtesy is also a skill. If you do it well, everyone will naturally get close to each other. If you don't think carefully, you may end up doing bad things with good intentions. Have you ever encountered such a problem?
