I don’t know when people’s family affection began to weaken. I don’t know whether it was after the reform and opening up, or after the urbanization of rural areas.
The interactions between the six relatives may only be limited to weddings and funerals. Even if they sit together, they may have to be introduced to each other by a relative they know among them, so that they can tell how many people there are now. Who is willing to visit relatives?
"Family love" has been the focus of the word "love" since ancient times. This kind of emotion is indescribable. Looking at it now, it may be strong, it may be talked about, or it may be neither strong nor weak.
loses a little care, loses a little concern, and no longer has the strong affection like when he was a child.
Although family love is no longer as strong as before, people still can't escape the web woven by family love, and they will all be entangled in it.
There is a saying in ancient times: "When a brother dies, his nephew will not be close to him; when a sister goes to the threshold, she will be separated; when a brother dies, his uncle will be his sister-in-law." This sentence is thought-provoking, and it almost explains the warmth and warmth in the network of relatives.
This What do these paragraphs mean? Let's break it down one by one.
Brother leaves and his nephew does not kiss.
From the literal meaning, it is not difficult to see that the meaning of "leave" is a euphemistic expression of death. The overall meaning is that if the brother dies, , it will affect the relationship between uncle and nephew, and they will become less and less close.
But after all, they are brothers and have a blood relationship. After a generation, the uncle will naturally be more affectionate to his nephew, then. Why did the ancients say that once the elder brother passed away, the relationship between uncle and nephew would become weak?
First of all, let's look at this issue from the family level. If people are alienated or have conflicts, it is nothing more than a dispute between interests and responsibilities.
From the perspective of interests: If the nephew is still young and cannot inherit the elder brother's inheritance for the time being, such as fields and houses, then it is inevitable that the uncle will manage it on his behalf, but the uncle also has a family, so as time goes by, When the nephew reaches adulthood, there will be disputes over inheritance. This is human nature.
Even in this situation, it is not uncommon. The uncle believes that he should get a portion of his brother's inheritance if he has done meritorious service in taking care of his nephew over the years. It is natural for him to inherit, and these are common things nowadays.
Nanyang uncles and nephews fight because of the uneven distribution of poplar trees.
From the perspective of responsibility: This starts from the age of the nephew. If the nephew is older. The elder brother is gone and the grandparents are still alive, so there will be a certain responsibility dispute in terms of taking care of the elderly. The uncle thinks that the nephew should take care of the elderly for the deceased brother, while the nephew thinks that the uncle, as a son, should take care of the elderly.
The uncle-nephew dispute led to a fight, the police fine-tuned the final statement and
There is another situation, the brother left, the sister-in-law remarried and took the nephew away directly, let alone the word "closeness"
Sister went to the threshold to break the sentence
. The meaning is easier to understand. If the sister dies, the brother-in-law's family will be closed.
In fact, it is not difficult to find that the link between relatives is often a few centers with blood relationships. The characters, the married sister and the younger sister are just two people involved in the network of relatives.
If the central point of maintaining kinship is broken, then the meaning of visiting relatives will be gone, just to see who, for whom, etc. As time goes by, it gradually disappears, that is, the threshold is broken.
Although it seems a little sad, the fact is that all foreign relatives are a network of relatives woven by the marriage of the elder sister and the younger sister. It is easy to leave, especially when the brother-in-law remarries, let alone family ties.
After the death of the brother, the sister-in-law becomes the sister-in-law.
This sentence means that if the brother dies, the brother and sister-in-law will live together and take care of each other.
can be understood as, the younger brother and the eldest brother are the father, so the sister-in-law will take care of their daily life in the future.
can also be understood as, if the elder brother dies and the younger brother is old and not yet married, he can marry his sister-in-law. This will not only allow the younger brother to marry a daughter-in-law, but also save a lot of betrothal gifts, and he can also take care of his older brother as his own child. Being a widow was a way to kill two birds with one stone in ancient times.
It is unbelievable today, but it was indeed like this in ancient times. You can not only marry a wife, but also take care of the family's descendants. Of course, now men and women are equal , and everyone has the right to choose their own life.
These few sentences describe the warmth and warmth of relatives. Relatives are inherently divided into close and distant relatives. In fact, they also warn us that there is no need to be too demanding because of these trivial matters. Just try your best to maintain a relationship with relatives. If you are too careless and too demanding, Counterproductive.
Have you ever experienced the grievances of closeness and distance between family members?
