■ Author: Uncle Nanshan
■ Original work, plagiarism will be investigated
01, preface.
Some people say: Parents who are partial, parents who favor sons over daughters, from the moment they are partial, stop expecting fair treatment! Parents' partiality often becomes an invisible fuse for discord among their children; parents' partiality can cause indelible damage to the children's souls. Many people think that when faced with eccentric parents, it is unnecessary to worry about it, because she will not change anyway. However, as a person involved, I don’t care, but I feel sad and aggrieved.
In real life, we will find that eccentric parents tend to favor the weak one, because the weak will worry more, and money and emotions will be biased towards that side. On the contrary, those who are more independent, more sensible and capable are often not taken seriously. I definitely don't have to worry about it. Of course, among these factors, parents' preference for sons over daughters cannot be ruled out, and even parents may have a preference for one of their multiple children. However, such partiality often brings great harm to the harmed children. Some children will even choose to stay away from their parents and choose to be unfilial when they grow up. This is really sad.
02, I am an older young woman. I only married Chen Danian when I was nearly thirty years old.
Dear friends, my name is Ali, a native of Jiangbei City. I grew up in Jiangbei City, and I have long been familiar with the streets and alleys of Jiangbei City, especially the surging Jiangbei River in Jiangbei City, which is like a stream of blood flowing in my body and has become my life. something indispensable. So, after graduating from college, I gave up the opportunity to work in a big city and returned to this quiet third-tier small city. I found a private company in Jiangbei City. With my English major level 8, I became a senior executive of the company, earning a monthly salary of tens of thousands of yuan. Although the salary is not very high, I am satisfied.
Because I know that in this third-tier small city, with a monthly salary of tens of thousands, I can live a life of ample food and clothing. Perhaps because I was busy with work, or perhaps because I had high ambitions but low abilities, I didn’t meet Chen Danian, a young man from a public institution until I was nearly thirty years old. Chen Danian came from the countryside. With his own efforts, he passed the examination in Jiangbei City and became a public servant. I have a good impression of Chen Danian, but Chen Danian sees me as highly educated and doesn't care that I am older. After knowing each other for half a year, we became boyfriend and girlfriend. A year later, Chen Danian and I got married, and I became Chen Danian’s bride.
03, Chen Danian comes from a remote rural area. His parents are partial to him but he works hard.
Chen Danian comes from a remote rural area. When we were in love, I knew that there were shadows in Chen Danian’s childhood. Because his parents were partial, they did not give much love to Chen Danian when he was sensible, but they loved Chen Danian's younger brother Chen Xiaonian in every possible way. The reason is that Chen Danian was too sensible when he was a child. He did a lot of housework and didn't like to talk. Nowadays, some parents are a little strange. The more children they have, the more sensible they are, and the less loving they are. On the contrary, parents tend to favor children who are coquettish or weak. Maybe, this is human nature that likes to sympathize with the weak.
However, his parents' partiality made Chen Danian work harder. Whether in elementary school, middle school or high school, Chen Danian's academic performance was good. With his hard work, he finally got into a good university. In college, he relied on his work-study program to earn a lot of living expenses. After he went out to work, he also knew how to live frugally and try not to ask his parents for money. After several years of hard work, he finally bought a small house. Although the monthly payment was very difficult, he finally had his own small home in Jiangbei City. I am very satisfied with him.
04, the mother-in-law asked her husband to give her money every month, saying that it is only natural to honor your parents.
However, although Chen Danian and I have a good monthly salary, the monthly payment still makes us feel a little difficult. What makes us even more worried is that our mother-in-law in the countryside called and asked us to send her two thousand yuan a month. It is said that when children grow up, it is natural for them to honor their parents. I know that when I married Chen Danian, my parents only asked for a symbolic gift of 100,000 yuan, and my parents later returned the 100,000 yuan to me as a down payment. Chen Danian bought a house, and his father-in-law and mother-in-law didn't pay a penny. Now they have to pay them two thousand a month. To be honest, I'm still a little unhappy.
But when I saw Chen Danian insisting on giving, I stopped nagging. After all, it is not easy for parents to raise a child. In this way, we not only have to pay the monthly payment every month, but also pay money to my mother-in-law on time. As a result, our living expenses are not so generous. I am worried that when our children are born in the future, our money will really I won’t be able to make ends meet. Chen Danian also thought about this problem, but he said that the house in his hometown is going to be demolished, and he will probably lose a sum of money, and then he will be relaxed.
05, her hometown in the countryside was demolished, but her mother-in-law left all her property to her brother-in-law.
Sure enough, half a year later, Chen Danian encountered demolition in his hometown in the countryside. Because it is an old house, my mother-in-law’s family received a resettlement house and a compensation of 500,000 yuan. After learning the news, we were very happy. I thought to myself: My parents-in-law will definitely leave the house to my uncle and the money to us, right? However, what we never expected was that the parents-in-law not only left the resettlement house to the brother-in-law, but also left 500,000 yuan to the brother-in-law Chen Xiaonian.
At this time, my husband Chen Danian was a little anxious. He went home and wanted to chat with his parents. Unexpectedly, he was severely scolded by his father-in-law and mother-in-law. His mother-in-law taught him a lesson and said that Chen Xiaonian was his biological brother and had no abilities. Now he was getting married. What was wrong with giving him a house and money? It’s good that they didn’t ask us for money. Now that we have jobs and a house in the city, the money will naturally be left to Chen Xiaonian. After listening to his parents’ lessons, Chen Danian could only return in frustration.
06, I asked my husband to stop sending money, and my mother-in-law wouldn’t let us go home during the holidays.
After Chen Danian came back, he told me about the decision of his father-in-law and mother-in-law. I was very angry after hearing this. I think our life is not easy. My father-in-law and mother-in-law even left their property to my uncle. Then we can stop sending money to them. Because the brother-in-law has gained so much property, he must bear the responsibility of honoring his parents. In this way, we stopped giving money to my parents-in-law every month, which annoyed my parents-in-law.
They called us to blame us and threatened us not to go home during the holidays. My husband and I were also anxious, and my husband fired back on the phone: "You all left your property to your brother, what's wrong with me stopping sending money to you? Besides, we have to pay the monthly payment every month, and it's not easy to live." . If you don’t let us go home for the holidays, we won’t go home!” After finished speaking, Chen Danian also slammed the phone.
07, my father-in-law passed away three years later, and my brother-in-law refused to support his mother-in-law in her old age.
Just like that, during the holidays, we don’t go home. However, three years later, my father-in-law fell ill and passed away, and my husband and I had to go home for the funeral. After the funeral, we stayed in our hometown for seven days. After the first seven days, we returned to the city. During this period, my mother-in-law was very indifferent to us and did not say a word to us. We know that in my mother-in-law's heart, she already harbors a grudge against Chen Danian and me. However, what I can't figure out is that Chen Danian is also her son and a piece of flesh that has fallen from her body. Why is she so partial?
What surprised me even more was that after my father-in-law passed away, my brother-in-law married a daughter-in-law. In her hometown in the countryside, her father-in-law and mother-in-law still have an old house, but her mother-in-law is very lonely living alone, so she often goes to her uncle's house for dinner. Now, my sister-in-law was a little annoyed. This sister-in-law is very fierce and likes to eat everything in. She doesn’t like her mother-in-law living with her brother-in-law’s family, so she encourages her brother-in-law to send her mother-in-law to us for retirement.
08, the mother-in-law has no one to support her, so she comes to the city to cause trouble: she married a daughter-in-law and forgot her mother.
Under the instigation and encouragement of my brother-in-law and sister-in-law, my mother-in-law came to the city to find us, carrying her luggage. When she knocked on our door, I was stunned. I never thought that what my cousin from the country told us on the phone was all true. A few days ago, Chen Danian's cousin in the countryside called Chen Danian to tell him that his mother-in-law might come to live in the city. We didn't believe it at the time, but we didn't expect that my mother-in-law would actually come now.
I was very surprised to see my mother-in-law suddenly come to our house. I asked: "Mother-in-law, what are you doing here?" My mother-in-law glared: "I came to your home to provide for the elderly. Let me in quickly. Right." I was not happy when I heard this: "Why are you coming to my house if you don't stay in the country?" At this time, Chen Danian also came out of the house. When he saw his mother-in-law, he said, "Mom, you are doing well in the country. Can't you stay? We don't have any extra room for you to stay in the city." Seeing that Chen Danian was unwilling to let her in, her mother-in-law started making a fuss: "Okay, Chen Danian, you really want to marry her. You have forgotten your mother!”
When I heard my mother-in-law scolding my husband, I felt angry and retorted loudly: “Mother-in-law, it’s wrong for you to leave all your property to me.” Brother-in-law, it’s his job to support you in your old age. You didn’t give us anything, but you asked us to take care of you in your old age. We’re not that great!” After saying this, I was about to close the door.
09, my husband and I are willing to be unfilial and only want to provide a pension of 2,000 per month.
Chen Danian felt so sorry that he said to his mother-in-law: "Mom, let's do this. We used to give you two thousand a month, but now we continue to give you money. You can go back to the countryside. This city is not suitable for you. Life is not that we are unfilial, but our house is really small. You will live more happily in the countryside." When my mother-in-law saw that we insisted on letting her go back to the countryside, she turned around and left bitterly. As she walked away, she scolded: "You can't help your mother when you grow up. When you marry a daughter-in-law, you forget about your mother." We listened to the mother-in-law's scolding, and we felt all kinds of things in our hearts. We didn't know what to say.
10. Conclusion.
Friends, my father-in-law and mother-in-law left all the resettlement housing and demolition compensation to my brother-in-law. Isn’t this too biased? Later, her brother-in-law and sister-in-law refused to provide for her in old age, so she came to us to provide for her in old age. Was she overthinking this? My husband and I refused to support her in her old age and only promised to give her two thousand a month. Are we being too unkind and unfilial? please leave a message in the comment area and give us a good suggestion. Thank you all.
[About the author]: Uncle Nanshan focuses on writing original emotional stories, folk tales and emotional beautiful articles. He has published 6 emotional , beautiful articles and story books. All major self-media platforms have original authors plus V. Each major platform has accumulated millions of fan authors, and the accumulated clicks on each major platform have exceeded 500 million times. Uncle Nanshan aims to give you more positive stories through simple words, tell you some principles of life, and realize some beautiful little blessings in life.
