As the old saying goes, if you cultivate in ten years, you can cross the same boat, and if you cultivate in a hundred years, you can sleep on the same pillow. In the vast sea of people, you and I become husband and wife, love each other, and grow old together. This is the luck of life and our fate. Throughout the ages, there have been many poems describing the relationship between husband and wife, which have vividly expressed the love between husband and wife in the world. There is so much affection and affection in the word "husband and wife"!
Yingnu plays the jade flute and chants the spring in the sky.
Qingluan doesn’t go alone, but joins hands with others.
The shadow is extinguished and the colorful clouds are broken, and the sound is left in the Western Qin Dynasty.
——Tang·Li Bai"Phoenix Song"
The apple of Qin Mugong's jade , loved to play the jade flute, the melodious sound of the flute made the world and heaven a lingering spring. Qingluan was reluctant to fly away, and even carried her lover Xiao Shi. Their soaring figures gradually disappeared into the colorful clouds, while the beautiful flute sounds still echoed across the land of Western Qin. This pair of gods and immortals are so harmonious and loving that the world is envious of them.
In history, there are many loving and affectionate couples, but they may not all have a happy ending, which makes people even more sad.
I would like to be a winged bird in the sky, and a twig on the ground.
As time goes by, this hatred will last forever.
——The love story of Tang Minghuang and Yang Guifei is earth-shattering and vigorous, but it is helpless that fate manipulates people, and yin and yang are separated! Even so, it cannot alleviate the strong longing in my heart. People who love each other hope to be with each other forever. They are willing to fly together like two birds in the sky, and they are willing to cuddle up with each other on the ground. Although the heaven and the earth are long, they also have an end, but the endless resentment will never end! In Bai Juyi's poems, the love between Emperor Ming of Tang and Concubine Yang is poignant and touching, and has been passed down for thousands of years. What is
couple? Maybe there are not too many eternal vows, but I hold your hand and I am willing to be with you, relying on each other, and go all the way until the day I grow old.
The agreement between life and death is broad, as told by Zicheng.
Hold your hand and grow old together with me.
- Pre-Qin Dynasty Anonymous " drumming "
The separation of life and death makes people cherish the time together more. Holding your hand, I just want to bid farewell to you. As long as you are by my side, I will not be sad that time is fleeting, nor will I feel lonely and helpless, and growing old will be full of happiness!
Regarding the relationship between husband and wife, Li Ye, a female poet in the Tang Dynasty who had never been married, explained it very thoroughly and philosophically.
From near to far east and west, from deep to shallow clear stream.
As high as the sun and the moon, as close as possible to the distant couple.
- Tang Li Ye's " eight to "
The nearest and farthest directions are east and west, the deepest and shallowest place is the clear stream, the highest and brightest thing is the sun and the moon, the most intimate The most unfamiliar relationship is between husband and wife. It is so accurate to say that there is no blood relationship between husband and wife. When things get better, they can be indifferent to each other. But if the relationship is not harmonious, or even part ways, they are worse than strangers. This is the truth of the world, and it is not pessimistic. If there is fate, then love each other well. If there is no intention, then it is easy to get together and break up, and they will not disturb each other for the rest of their lives.
Marriage is different from love. It not only requires an emotional foundation, but also relies on realistic factors. People often express emotion.
In the past, I joked about my posthumous affairs, but now I am here.
The clothes have been worn, but the needle and thread are still there.
I still miss my old love and pity my servant, and I also gave money in my dreams.
I sincerely know that everyone has this hatred, and poor and humble couples suffer from everything.
——Tang · Yuan Zhen " Two of the Three Songs of Sorrow and Sorrow "
I once joked with you about the funeral, but now that I think about it, it makes me even more heartbroken. I have given away most of your clothes, but I still have only your needlework, and I can’t bear to open it. Because of the old love, I love your old servant even more, and I burned money for you just because I dreamed of you. Although everyone will experience the grief of death, for those of us who have suffered together, we find it even more painful and unbearable. No matter how much bitterness you experience together, it becomes sweet, but without your company, the world will lose its color. This is a mourning poem. "Poor and humble couples mourn all things" originally described the deep relationship between the poet and his deceased wife, but later generations gave another explanation based on the literal meaning. In reality, couples are struggling and struggling to survive. , how sad!
It is the wish of every couple to stay together forever, but the reality is like this. If I hold you in my arms, I cannot lift bricks. If I lift bricks, I cannot hold you. This has been the case since ancient times, and it is inevitable that people will feel uncomfortable.
The young woman in the boudoir knows no worries, and goes up to the green building with makeup on the spring day.
Suddenly seeing the color of willows on the street, I regretted teaching my husband and son-in-law to find a title.
——Tang· Wang Changling "Bouise Grudge"
The young woman in the boudoir didn't know what sorrow was. In the bright spring, she dressed up carefully and climbed up to the green pavilion alone. Suddenly, I saw the green willows in the fields and the beautiful spring scenery. I couldn't help but arouse my thoughts. I really regretted letting my husband leave his hometown and make contributions! In order to have a better life, I have to endure life and death. Is it worth it?
Husband and wife can help each other and live a simple life, but they can also be happy, at least, they still have you.
Qingjiang A song hugs the village, and everything in Changxiajiang Village is quiet.
The swallows come and go from Liang Shang, and the gulls in the water are close to each other.
The old wife draws paper to make a chess game, and the young child knocks needles to make fishing hooks.
But if you have old friends to offer you Lumi, what more can you ask for in addition to your tiny body.
——Tang· Du Fu "River Village"
The winding river flows slowly around the village, and the village is especially quiet in summer. The swallows on the beams flew freely, and the gulls and birds in the water played intimately. The poet's life was quite pleasant, with his wife drawing chess pieces on paper and his youngest son banging embroidery needles to make fishing hooks. The poet was very satisfied and sighed: As long as my old friends give me some money to make ends meet, what else can I ask for? Although life is not easy, I am happy to have my family and my wife by my side.
The ancient traditional relationship between husband and wife , where the husband sings and the wife follows, is a normal state. Although it is not spectacular, it is extremely down-to-earth and warm.
There are layers of peach and plum blossoms on the mountain, and fireworks among the clouds are like home.
Silver and gold hairpins are used to carry water, long knives and short hats are used to burn rice.
- Tang Dynasty Liu Yuxi " Bamboo Branch Ci "
There are layers of peach and plum flowers blooming on the mountain. Deep in the clouds and smoke, where the fireworks are floating, are the homes on the mountain. People have no intention of watching the beautiful spring scenery. Women come down from the mountains to carry water and prepare for cooking, while men with long knives and short hats go to set fire to the wasteland in preparation for spring plowing. The lives of people in the mountains are simple and busy, and couples work together to contribute to a better life. It is similar to the song "You plow the fields and I weave the cloth" sung in Huangmei Opera .
A loving couple can be in love with each other through music and music, or it can also be reflected in three meals a day. In the details that are not noticed by people, let’s take a look at how the ancients showed their love!
Lang grows Albizia julibrissin , Nong grows Albizia julibrissin.
The dishes are good for the peasants, and the flowers are good for the husband.
——"Acacia Julibrissin" by Qu Sijun of the Qing Dynasty
Mr. Sir, you will plant the albizia flowers, and I will plant the albizia vegetables. When the vegetables grow, they can be made into delicacies for me to taste. When the flowers bloom, they can be picked and put on your head! This is such a funny wife, and she is also a real foodie. Wearing acacia flowers for your husband is so beautiful.
In ancient times, husbands and wives paid attention to respecting each other as guests, but a truly harmonious relationship between husband and wife was keen on joking. How could there be so much etiquette and politeness?
The small urn is cooked now, so there is no need to ask the restaurant.
The Double Ninth Festival is tomorrow, where are the yellow flowers?
——Song Dynasty Chen Yuyi "September 8th Play Shows Wife"
The wine in the wine jar has been brewed, and there is no need to sell wine to the restaurant. Tomorrow is the Double Ninth Festival, but I don’t know where there are chrysanthemums suitable for the occasion, so I can drink with you? There was a deep affection in his teasing tone. It seems that the poet pays great attention to the sense of ritual, and he is quite careful in order to celebrate the Double Ninth Festival with his wife.
Speaking of Shixian Li Bai, his teasing about his wife was even more exaggerated.
For three hundred and sixty days, I was as drunk as mud every day.
Although she is Li Bai's wife, she is no different from an ordinary wife.
- Li Bai of the Tang Dynasty " gives away "
The poet is still very self-aware. Three hundred and sixty days a year, I am drunk every day. Although you are my wife, what is the difference between you and Zhou Taichang's wife who doesn't care about her family? Although the poet is joking, he also reveals his guilt and gratitude towards his wife.
What is a couple? Maybe they will no longer be like a boy who falls in love. His eyes are full of stars, his mouth is full of sweet words, and his heart is full of ripples. It seems ordinary, but it is silent and affectionate. Although the gossip is commonplace, it is Keep each other in your heart all the time.
You have not yet heard of your return date, and the night rain in Bashan swells the autumn pond.
Why should we cut the candles from the west window together, but talk about the rainy night in Bashan.
——Tang · Li Shangyin " Night Rain Sends to the North "
If you ask me when I will go back, I can't tell you. It rained continuously at night in Bashan, and the pond was filled with water. When can I go back and cut candle flowers under the west window with you, and talk about the autumn rain in Bashan tonight? Not talking about love and longing, but there is deep affection between the lines.
The happiest couples often live the simplest lives. Be contented, always happy, plain but long-lasting, stay with me until we grow old, and have no regrets in this life.
The eaves are low and the grass is green on the stream.
Wu Yin is so charming in drunkenness, whose old lady is old?
The eldest son is hoeing beans in the east of the stream, while the middle son is weaving a chicken coop.
likes little scoundrels the most, lying down at the head of the stream peeling lotus pods.
——Xin Qiji of Song Dynasty " Qingpingle·Village "
Thatched hut is low, and the stream bank is covered with green grass. The drunken Wudi dialect is really nice to hear. Whose in-laws are the speakers? The eldest son is weeding the bean garden on the east bank of the stream, and the second son is weaving a chicken coop. My favorite naughty son is lying in the grass on the bank of the stream, playing with the newly picked lotus . This is a happy family!
In your mind, what is the definition of the word "husband and wife"? All I can think of are still those eight words, "hold your hand and grow old together with me." In a modern society where the pace of life is accelerating and human nature is becoming more and more impetuous, most people still have beautiful expectations, hoping to meet and fall in love with that destined person in the vast sea of people, and move from sweet love to real marriage. Even after experiencing the ups and downs of life, we still regard each other as the only one and never change our original intention. I am grateful to have such a person to accompany me through the ups and downs and enjoy the scenery along the way.
-Author-
He Yu, a woman who likes poetry, looks for beautiful details in the four seasons, hoping that time will leave warm memories.
