Introduction:
The old man said that marriage is a woman’s second rebirth. Finding a good husband is a very important thing, and most women still hope that the person they are looking for has enough finances, whether it is a first marriage or a second marriage. Find a capable husband so that you can live a life without worries.
After all, everything is miserable for poor and lowly couples, especially for women who have been married for the second time. Having experienced this, they have their eyes set above others. Choosing a man with no strength is not as good as living alone. Excellent people will be better together with excellent people. Getting better and better, if two people have no money, living together will undoubtedly hurt the enemy by one thousand and hurt yourself by eight hundred.
html This is what 256-year-old Ms. Li thought, so she chose Uncle Jian, who had a pension of 6,000, but after they got together, Ms. Li regretted it and said: "His money can only be looked at, not touched, let alone spent. "
Let's take a look at what's going on?
56-year-old Ms. Li's self-report:
When she was young, she farmed with her husband. Later, he was bedridden for several years. I thought that by following him and watching him work hard, even if I wasn't rich, at least I wouldn't have to live a very difficult life.
Who would have thought that he would be ill for many years, and I would stay at his bedside day and night to take care of him. I was really exhausted mentally and physically. I had to do farm work during the day, take care of my husband, and take care of the children by myself. The expenses at home and the pressure from all aspects were weighing on me. It took my breath away.
The most hateful thing is that my husband has a bad temper when he is sick. I also know that he feels uncomfortable when he is sick, and I don’t want him to get sick, but I still have to take the medicine that should be taken. But my husband has a stubborn temper, refuses to take the medicine, and even knocks over the bowl. , saying that I didn’t send him to the hospital because I wanted him to die early.
The economy is so difficult, how can I have the money to keep him in the hospital for several years? Our family is not already wealthy, and it becomes even worse when he gets sick. I have to bear all the pressure alone, which is really tiring.
Fortunately, my husband died a few years later. When he died, I was not sad. On the contrary, I felt it was a relief. I could go out to make money. I spent the little money I earned over the years, and I didn’t have much savings.
is about to turn 50, but he is penniless. One of his daughters is married out of town. If he has no money, how should he spend his old age?
After my husband left, I served dishes in restaurants and earned 3,000 a month. I was able to save some through frugality. Since he left, I feel that my life has gotten better and better.
But after living alone for a long time, I began to feel that there are many things that I cannot do alone. Moreover, I can still earn a salary of 3,000 a month, but I am already over 50 years old. If I go out to work at this age, I am afraid that I will not be able to do it. Several bosses are willing to take it.
I am also afraid that no one will take care of me when I am sick. I also hope that in my later years there will be someone who can give me some help when I am helpless in life, who can help me bring tea and water, keep me warm and keep me warm. My relatives have always been there to help me. I introduced it, and I have been looking for it.
In recent years, due to work, I have no money, so I dare not. Now that I have some money, I feel that I have some capital. In addition, I am not very old, and my appearance is passable. While I am still young, If you look for it early, it will be really difficult to find it in your old age.
I had been suffering for many years and wanted to find someone strong to rely on, so my relatives introduced me to Wang Zhen, who had a retirement salary of 6,000 a month and his own house. His family conditions were indeed better than mine.
We decided to get together after only half a month of contact, and we even got a marriage certificate. I thought that being with Wang Zhen would make my life better. I went to work every day and got a salary of more than 1,000 yuan. salary.
The family also takes care of him. In this kind of old age, the two of us rely on each other. When he is sick, I can be by my side to take care of him. When I am sick, he can also give me medicine.
But a second marriage is a second marriage after all. During the one year we were together, except for the passionate love period of the first three months, he still cared about me. He would go to work in the morning and come back in the afternoon, and he would prepare meals and go to work in the afternoon. He never disturbs my rest in the morning.
also told me at that time: "A salary of one thousand a month is enough, don't be so tired, you still have me.""These words really make people feel warm.
But three months later, he began to say with disgust: "What can a salary of one thousand a month be enough for? I'm afraid you can't even support yourself, so you can't always count on me. After all, I still have children, and I have to leave my money to them. "
Although what he said is very heartbreaking, it is also true, but he will still pay the family expenses. I also really want to have someone to accompany me. I think it may be that our relationship is not strong enough. It doesn't matter. If I pay more, he will pay for it in the future." Naturally, he will treat me well.
I didn’t want to divorce Wang Zhen at that time. Later, I would clean the house every day when I came home. I would cook his favorite dishes before and after work. I don’t have a pension, but I With a salary, I am still much better than those old people who have no salary.
I feel really tired after we have been together for a year. His monthly pension of 6,000 yuan has never been enough for me. You can only look at it, you can’t touch it, and you can’t spend it.
I originally wanted to find someone to rely on and support each other, but we are together, no matter how hard I work, he can’t see it. I thought he would help me if I was sick. If I get some money, they will really care about me and accompany me to the hospital.
But I don’t know that when I really get sick, I go to the hospital alone and I pay the expenses myself. I cook the food myself and drink the water myself. After all, I still do the hygiene. Thinking about it all, it’s more like a free nanny than a free nanny.
Before I was with him, my salary was low, but I lived freely. After being with him, I was like a nanny most of the time. It was hard to calm down. Finally, I caught a cold and had a fever of 39 degrees, which made me realize the reality. After I recovered from the illness, I told him: "Let's get a divorce." "
" divorce? Isn't it great that we have been living together for a year? We are both happy, get along well, and have never had any quarrels. Why should we divorce? "
" You are the only one who thinks it is good, and I am like a free nanny. No matter how much I do, there is no reward. People's hearts do not become cold in a day. "
" When we were together, you would occasionally buy me clothes. Naturally, I came to you because you have a retirement salary, which can help me live a better life in my later years. Of course, I don't want to take advantage of your money. Walk. "
" Although I have a purpose, I also really want to live my life, so I try hard to do everything well, but what I am waiting for is that you dislike my low salary. When I am sick, you would rather stay The mahjong parlor also didn’t want to accompany me to the hospital. Was it because he was afraid of paying the medical bills? All kinds of things show that we still have to live our own lives because you are too selfish. "
" It's up to you, you can leave if you want. Anyway, with my monthly pension of 6,000, it's not difficult to find a free nanny. ”
Since then, I have never thought about remarrying. If my salary is less, then it will be less. Even if I don’t have a pension in my later years, I will still have some pension insurance when I am sixty years old, and I will still have no problem living on my own.
Men nowadays are so smart. , although I have a purpose and really want to find someone with good conditions so that I can live a better life in my later years, but their purpose is more clear.
I want to find someone to accompany me, but I don’t want to be alone. I want to find someone to take care of me, but I don’t want to. Spend money and let them take advantage of all the good things. If I find someone else, I don't want to be a free nanny. I'd better live alone.
Conclusion:
It is natural for people to have desires. In the adult world, when choosing a spouse, It's just that interests account for more. Maybe being together with a purpose is a wrong thing, but choosing to be together without a purpose may not necessarily last long.
If you think like Ms. Li, you think she is wrong. Is Uncle Wang’s selfish behavior suitable for living together? Welcome to leave a message
