Think about it, whether you are classmates at school or colleagues at the company, when they first met you, were they all polite and no one would bully you right away? But why do these people who seem friendly at first slowly turn into bullies as they get to know each other better?
The result of being bullied is most likely caused by your own lack of understanding of human nature.
First, don’t let others find out your trump card
The fact is cruel. In interpersonal communication, the person who knows you better is likely to be the one who attacks you the most in the end. When a person understands that this person is no threat to him, you seem to be a transparent person in their eyes, so he will bully you unscrupulously.
So you have to remember that no matter who you associate with, never expose your own trump card, and never trust anyone without reservation, because once others think you are useless, they will fall out faster than turning over a book. This is normal.
Second, control your mouth and don’t reveal your thoughts to anyone
What we confide in is that we hope that our honesty can gain the trust of the other party, so that the other party can also treat us candidly. Of course there is nothing wrong with our thinking, but most of the time, the other party will take advantage of your trust and take a dominant position in the relationship step by step.
They will use the information you tell them to directly attack your weakest point, making you choose to retreat and compromise again and again. Then gradually it becomes more severe, going straight to your bottom line, until it eats you up and defeats you, thus forming a fixed relationship of strength and weakness. Once this strong-weak relationship is formed, it will be difficult to reverse it in the future.
And others will think that you are willing to do this, and this is the most terrifying thing. They will treat you like this habitually, and they don't think they are doing anything wrong.
Third, no matter who you get along with, you must always defend your bottom line.
When someone bullies you and touches your bottom line, you cannot retreat, you must fight back hard and win the other person's heart. . Because our counterattack must not only protect your bottom line, but more importantly, let people see your attitude, tell the people around you that you are not a soft persimmon, and let them not provoke you easily.
Please put away your excessive kindness when getting along with others. The quality of a relationship does not depend on how you treat others, but on how strong you are. You are stronger, you can get along with each other how you want, and you can express your love however you want, it doesn’t matter. Only the strong can gain the respect and tolerance of others. Tolerance over and over again is nothing but a low-level weakness in the eyes of others.
Life is only once, be brave and enjoy life, don't care about other people's eyes, when you become stronger, friends will naturally gather around you!
