When my grandfather died, he was in his sleep. In the morning, his mother called him to eat, but there was no response after calling several times. The mother felt something was wrong, so she approached him and put her hand to his nose, only to find that grandpa was gone. At that

When grandpa passed away, he was in his sleep.

In the morning, his mother called him to eat, but there was no response after calling him several times. The mother felt something was wrong, so she approached him and put her hand to his nose, only to find that grandpa was gone.

At that time, he was already 90 years old, which was regarded as a happy event among the older generation. In addition, my grandpa passed away without any illness or pain. Many people said that he had accumulated blessings, his children were filial throughout his life, and he did not have to suffer in his old age.

The way my grandpa passed away is the envy of many old people. He didn't have to stay on the bed for a long time, making others dislike him, and he didn't suffer any consequences.

Sometimes I can’t understand why I have children, raise them up, and then be rejected by the children when I get older? However, after experiencing my grandfather's departure and what happened to some relatives and neighbors, I finally understood the general outline.

Not everyone has someone to rely on when they grow old, and some elderly people are disliked by their children.

Neighbor Grandma Wang is over 70 years old. She has two sons and one daughter, and she is living a good life. It stands to reason that Grandma Wang should have been very happy in her later years, but she was not.

She went to her eldest son’s home to provide for her in old age. The eldest daughter-in-law said that her brother-in-law gave her so many colorful gifts when he married his wife, but she had nothing when she got married, so it was not their family’s turn to provide for her in her old age.

Grandma Wang went to her younger son’s home, but her younger son said that her child’s study was at an important stage and they both had to go to work and couldn’t spare their energy.

There was no way Grandma Wang found her daughter. The daughter was silent for a long time and said: "When I got married, you said that the water thrown by the married daughter had nothing to do with her parents' family since then, so she didn't give me any dowry."

However, after her daughter said this, she still gave Grandma Wang a thousand yuan. Although she was angry that her mother asked the man for a high betrothal gift but refused to give her a dowry when they got married, she still couldn't bear to do so.

Grandma Wang has three children, but she has no one to rely on when she gets old. In the final analysis, it is still her own problem.

She used to prefer her younger son. The older son studied less and got married earlier. At that time, she said that the money should be kept for the younger son to go to college, and she asked the older son and his wife to find a way to solve the problem on their own. The elder daughter-in-law turned her back at that.

What’s worse, when the eldest daughter-in-law gave birth to a baby, Grandma Wang didn’t even go to the hospital when she heard it was a girl. The confinement child even refused to take care of her. The eldest daughter-in-law said at that time, “You are old, don’t expect me to take care of you.” ".

Grandma Wang disagreed. Her younger son was promising and went to college and married the leader's daughter. So she asked the other party for a high bride price for her daughter's wedding, otherwise she would not agree.

The money, together with what she had saved over the years, was used to buy a wedding house for her younger son. Grandma Wang also thought about moving to her younger son's house when she gets old and can no longer work.

But after the younger son got married, he never mentioned this matter at all. When the youngest daughter-in-law was just a month old after giving birth, she was asked to go back to her own home.

In old age, old people are disliked by their children. Each has its own reasons. To sum up, the main ones cannot escape these two.

First, it is unfair to treat children.

Although the same blood bleeds in children, parents may not be able to treat them equally. There are always some children who can please their parents, and some children who make their parents look awkward.

Parents cannot treat every child equally. It may not be obvious when they are young, but when they become adults, the contradiction will be obvious.

Just like Grandma Wang, she favored her younger son and took care of everything for him. In the end, her younger son was raised to be an ungrateful person. His relationship with his brothers and sisters was not good, and he wanted to take everything into his own hands. take.

His brothers and sisters naturally looked down upon his behavior, so they blamed Grandma Wang for all these reasons.

The better Grandma Wang is to her younger son, the more her other children will feel blocked and the less willing they are to assume the obligation and responsibility to support her. The younger son, who has no sense of responsibility at all, is even more unwilling to take on this burden.

In the end, the relationship between brothers and sisters, as well as mother and son, mother and daughter, was terrible.

Second, he likes to interfere in his children’s family affairs.

Some old people do not know how to get along with their children. Even though their children have already started a family and started a business, they still always interfere in their lives and disturb the peace of the family.

Grandma Wang has always looked down upon her eldest daughter-in-law, despising her for being poorly educated and lacking in skills.

Normally, her eldest son didn’t go to school much, so he would be a good match for his daughter-in-law, but Grandma Wang likes to stir up trouble.

She disliked the fact that her eldest daughter-in-law's mother-in-law was poor and couldn't raise children... She would use everything she could think of to make excuses. Naturally, neither the eldest son nor the eldest daughter-in-law wanted to get too involved with her.

The youngest daughter-in-law liked Grandma Wang in all aspects, but she refused to give birth to a grandchild after giving birth to a granddaughter, which made Grandma Wang very upset. She did not dare to speak to her daughter-in-law, but she always encouraged her youngest son.

As a result, the younger son said, "You have to pay to support me." Grandma Wang scolded the young couple for having no conscience. With her tossing like this, some children will like to get along with her.

When you are old, you should take care of your own business and take care of your own body. For the rest, don't worry about the things you shouldn't care about, and don't ask about the things you shouldn't ask. This is the best way to live.

If you did not treat your children equally when you were young, when you are old you should see the facts clearly, understand the truth, and do not force your children too much.

If you really want to make up for it, I believe that your children will give it a chance, but you can't rely on your old age. You must force your children to do this or that, which will eventually make them feel cold.

If you can't put down your arrogance, then arrange your own life and don't easily cause trouble for your children. I believe that children will not remain indifferent seeing the elderly helpless.

Be a sensible old man, just like my grandfather. In his later years, several children's families lived in turns, and he never gossiped about any child's family. He treated all children equally, so the family was harmonious and the relationship was harmonious.

No matter who he goes to, he will be welcomed, and he will not have to worry about who he will rely on in his later years, and he will not be able to live peacefully.

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