Whenever a person speaks and does things that make people feel comfortable, he is considered to have high emotional intelligence.
People with high emotional intelligence are often popular, and becoming a person with high emotional intelligence has become the pursuit of many people.
But not everyone can have high emotional intelligence. Some people not only have no chance of high emotional intelligence, but also show low emotional intelligence everywhere.
A person with low emotional intelligence often has the following three signs in his personality.
1. Likes to brag
Ms. Xiao is a person who always thinks she is very powerful. She always praises herself in front of others about how strong she is at work, how capable she is at home, and how good her interpersonal relationships are.
In fact, those are just her words.
The actual situation is that she was dismissed because she openly contradicted her boss. Because her personality was too strong, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been tense. She likes to have her own way and has few friends.
Whether a person is great or not does not depend on self-promotion.
The more a person lacks something, the more he likes to show off.
To judge what a person is like, it’s not about what she says, but what she does.
A person who likes to brag will not only reveal his ignorance, but also be annoying.
The better the person, the more low-key he is, rather than self-promotion.
2. Likes to poke people's sore spots
There is a boss who thinks she has high emotional intelligence, but her behavior makes employees extremely uncomfortable.
The company has a new salesman, an older leftover woman. The boss often laughs at the new salesman in the company. He is so old and has accomplished nothing and can only be a salesman. At the same time, he also laughs at the new salesman. I haven't gotten married yet at my old age.
Because she was the boss, the employees did not refute her prejudices.
But over time, the company's employees could not accept such a boss and chose to leave.
Having a high emotional intelligence does not mean that you are not willing to mention certain things, nor does it mean that you want to slander other people's self-esteem or poke people's pain points.
Real high emotional intelligence means having empathy, respecting others, and treating others equally.
3. Likes to argue with others
I once met a colleague who would argue endlessly whenever he communicated with others.
At work, if someone raises objections to her, she will refute and completely refuse to listen to the suggestions given to her by others.
Later, no one wanted to deal with her.
A person who only thinks that he is right sees the world in a small way and his understanding is one-sided.
And self-righteous people are often disgusting.
When dealing with people, there will inevitably be conflicts of opinions, but we should not be blindly confident across the board.
No one is perfect. The more knowledgeable a person is, the more he understands that in the vast world, he actually knows very little, and the more humbly he becomes.
Having a high emotional intelligence does not mean being cunning, tactful, and all-rounded, nor does it mean arguing with others about everything, but it means treating others calmly, not being impatient or impatient, and being happy with each other.
No one is born with high emotional intelligence.
High emotional intelligence can actually be learned.
If a person has such a personality: he likes to brag, likes to poke people's pain points, and likes to argue with others at every turn, you might as well change it, as that will bring you closer to becoming a person with high emotional intelligence.
hopes that everyone can grow into a person with high emotional intelligence and live the life they want.
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