Text | Zhu Shenyong Some women know that men have families, but they still establish relationships with each other indifferently. This also shows that they are very immature in their hearts. Their psychological characteristics are generally: low psychological energy, low self-ide

text | Zhu Shenyong

Some women know that men have families, but they still establish relationships with each other indifferently. This also shows that they are very immature in their hearts.

Their psychological characteristics are generally: low psychological energy, low self-identity, very fragile, large mood swings, irritable and hysterical.

Because such people are lacking in heart, they can easily be deceived by the few words of a married man.

If you want to know what Xiao Lu is trying to do, you must first understand what kind of woman will become Xiao Lu.

First, understand Xiaolu’s original family.

Xiao Lu’s family of origin cannot escape several possibilities: parents are unhappy in marriage/coldly separated/having extramarital affairs/divorced, and the father is often irresponsible and does not love his mother or children.

A client I coached, her best friend stole her husband, but she didn’t want the status. Because the couple always shows affection and has a good relationship. Xiao Lu felt that the man was so nice and warm, so he got involved.

Second, understand Xiaolu’s personal early experience and growth process.

I also have a client named Xiaolu. In the family she is involved in, the man will always affirm and encourage her, so she recognizes this man more and more. Xiaolu's parents often deny and belittle her, and she longs for recognition and acceptance in her heart.

Therefore, Xiaolu’s psychological energy is often very low, and she especially needs your husband’s attention and recognition.

There are also some little greens who have experienced unfortunate intimate relationships and sexual assaults, resulting in wounds that are difficult to repair.

Third, understand what Xiaolu wants to gain by intervening in marriage?

I have listed some situations, you can check them out.

1, please approve.

2, please respect.

3, get care and feel like a queen.

4, the love gained is expressed by men.

5, get passionate.

6, get the feeling of love and the feeling of home.

7, obtained property.

8, gain connections and career.

9, get exercise satisfaction in the bedroom.

So, if she can have these in your marriage, why should she leave your marriage? You can only break Xiao Green's profit mode by starting a war.

You have to know that the passion for extramarital affairs can last for a long time, for three years, five years, ten years, or even twenty years... They will slowly change from the freshness stage to the passion stage, but because they have been stealing There is always a sense of excitement in the middle of the state, so it is not easy to get bored.

Xiaolu will firmly believe what her husband says, because she feels that her husband really loves her and there is something unspeakable. She will not feel that her husband just wants to play with her.

I have a client whose little green plug-in has been in her marriage for more than ten years. She has experienced children in elementary school, junior high school, high school, and college. Xiaolu has been waiting for more than ten years. The man said that she should wait a little longer and wait for his. When the child gets married, two people get married, but waiting and waiting, Xiao Lu waited until she was in her twenties until she was 35. She gradually lost the initiative in the marriage and love market, and she was even more afraid to leave this man.

Xiao Lu easily over-trusts men in an extramarital affair, and the longer she stays, the greater her sunk costs will be. She thinks she has been with this man for ten years, so she might as well endure it.

There are also some Xiaolu who are unwilling to leave and trap the married man through suicide, threats, or pregnancy and childbirth.

Fourth, from the classification point of view, Xiaolu is divided into several common groups:

1, ex-girlfriend. It is easy for this kind of relationship to have unresolved old feelings.

2, colleagues around you, former classmates or your friends.

3, lady, internet celebrity.

When facing Xiaolu, wives must go to war. If you don't show off your original wife's appearance of defending the marriage, she will kick her nose in the face, make it even harder to separate from your husband, and feel that she is the "just" one. party.

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