Today, I have been arguing with a netizen for a long time. Regarding this issue, no one of us has convinced anyone. Let me share my opinion!
During the Spring Festival last year, I talked about this issue with a friend in my hometown. His financial situation is considered acceptable in our village. He is 35 years old and does not want to get married. His parents are anxious. I tried to persuade him, but he did not. Moved.
At that time, I gave an example that was not very appropriate. I said, this is like playing a game. It has been played like this for thousands of years. Now the baton is in your hand. You two hug each other and keep shaking your head. , saying that I don’t want to play anymore, is this a bit unreasonable, right? Admittedly, he didn't agree to play this game, but in the eyes of his parents, if you didn't object early on, that means you agreed!
In fact, there are many young people who are lying in bed without getting married or having children. Analysis of the reasons is nothing more than the following two points: First, getting married and having children is too expensive and troublesome. Isn’t it good to live alone? ? It is definitely more than enough to earn and spend your own money. You don’t need to buy a house and be a house slave. As long as you have money when you get old, you can just find a nursing home and end your remaining life. Isn’t it cool and happy?
Secondly, is that I have been very tired in this life, and I don’t want to extend this suffering to the next generation. I don’t want them to live as hard as me and become a leek of capital!
Now, let me briefly talk about these two situations:
Before explaining, let me first declare that I fully understand their thoughts and their practices. I am not qualified to criticize them. That is their freedom, after all. What they do is reasonable, reasonable and legal!
I still understand the first approach. After all, now, the price of getting married and having children is too high! Buying a house in an average city requires 1 million, right? It takes about 1 million to give birth to a child and raise him to graduate from college. This is on the basis that there is no serious illness. The average monthly salary of an ordinary person is only about 6,000, and it takes 34 years without food or water to cope! If you don’t get married and have children, you can get 6,000 per month. You can use it by yourself, be filial to your parents, and save some by yourself. There is no pressure! It can be said with certainty that for the same person, the quality of life and life pressure are completely different between those who are married and have children and those who are not married and have children! Even in terms of life span and physical health, they are not on the same level. Those who get married and have children will at least live about 10 years less than those who do not get married and have children!
I also understand the second approach very well. Yes, it cannot be ruled out that the children of us ordinary people, in the absence of accidents, will still be mediocre and become leeks in the eyes of others! Under the current circumstances, it is very unlikely to counterattack, successfully break down class barriers, and join the upper class! Instead of leading the poor to wealth, the rich who once operated legally through honest labor closed off the channels to wealth and set up class barriers to ensure their current status!
So, are low-income people really not suitable for getting married and having children?
I don’t think so. In fact, low-income people are often the main force in giving birth! If they want to get married and have children, it’s not a bad idea!
In a sense, the most valuable thing in life is to face the bleak life and face the dripping blood! As a man, it is important to analyze current events calmly and make objective judgments.But more importantly, do it even though you know you can’t do it! Even if there are many difficulties in the future, we must still raise our heads and face it bravely! We do our best, obey fate, and do our best. As for the results, we don't care too much, just do our best!
If you don’t get married or have children, it’s a good idea for your descendants not to live as humblely as you do. However, how will your descendants live? First of all, you have to have descendants. You haven’t given them life, and you haven’t given them time to come. Opportunities on this earth are all empty talk! Don't we blame our parents if we are not living well now? I think people with real conscience would not do it. The same goes for our descendants. They have not been given a chance to come into this world. If you think about it so far, will you be a little bit deprived of food because of choking? ?
Let me reiterate again, I respect anyone's choice, and I don't morally kidnap anyone. I just express my own opinions. If any friend has a different opinion, you can leave a message for discussion, but I refuse to slander, abuse, personal attacks, etc. !
Thank you everyone for coming to criticize and correct me!
