Introduction:
As people age, their social circles tend to become smaller and smaller, and life becomes boring. Especially for some single elderly people, they will feel lonely and lonely. To change this situation, finding a congenial wife becomes a good choice.
However, in real life, due to various factors, both remarriage and partnership are opposed by many elderly people, especially single women in their later years. So why are they unwilling to find a wife? Do you have any worries, or do you really like to be alone? This starts with three practical reasons.
1. I don’t want to be a free nanny.
My old neighbor, Aunt Gu, is 62 years old and has lived alone for more than ten years. Every time she talked about personal problems, she said that she had looked past them and would be alone for the rest of her life. In fact, when she first retired, she had a partnering experience.
The man's surname was Guo, and he was her boss, five or six years older than her. The two had worked together for many years and had a certain understanding of each other, so they naturally came together after retirement.
At the beginning Lao Guo said that his retirement salary was more and he would cover all the family expenses. This made Aunt Gu very happy. She felt that Lao Guo was manly enough and responsible. But within a few months, she discovered that something was wrong.
Every day after dinner, Lao Guo goes out to play cards. When he comes back, he lies down on the bed and just plays with his mobile phone. He pays no attention to the big and small things at home, let alone doing any housework.
Once, a guest came to the house. Aunt Gu cooked a table of dishes. After washing her hands, she was about to go over to eat when she suddenly heard a guest say: "Your nanny is very good at her craftsmanship. How much is her monthly salary?"
Lao Guo replied proudly: " Do we need to spend money to hire a nanny? It’s good to take care of food and housing. If she doesn’t want to do it, she can leave. There’s still a queue behind her.”
After hearing this, Aunt Gu finally understood. In people's minds, she is a free nanny. Within two days, she broke up with Lao Guo.
It is not a bad thing for the elderly to work together, but the premise is that they must help each other, be considerate to each other, and respect each other. Living together is a choice made for the happiness of both parties and cannot be taken advantage of by either party.
2. I don’t want to be criticized by others.
With the development of society, people's ideas have indeed changed a lot, but in the eyes of some people, older people will eventually have to face the state of living alone. Partnering up or remarrying are signs of restlessness, and they cannot been accepted.
Uncle Lu has a cheerful personality and likes to play cards. In his free time, he often goes to the chess and card room to play. Over time, he became familiar with everyone. In the process, he got on very well with an aunt named Zhu, and gradually developed feelings for her.
Aunt Zhu is a straight-tempered person and took the initiative to propose the idea of partnering with Uncle Lu. This made Uncle Lu very excited and he agreed immediately.
However, many old people disagreed with their decision. They said that they already had children and grandchildren, so they did not live a down-to-earth life and still thought about such unimportant things. They laughed at them as they became more and more immoral as they got older.
Faced with other people’s criticism, Uncle Lu didn’t care. He felt that he could live how he wanted to live, and if others liked to talk about it, just let it be.
However, Aunt Zhu couldn't bear it anymore. She felt that it was not worth losing her own face and the face of her children for this matter.
After thinking about it, Aunt Zhu told him that she regretted it and did not want to be looked down upon by others and treated as a joke by others because of such things.
Aunt Zhu's attitude is a bit disappointing, but after all, people's words are scary, and it is an uncomfortable feeling not to be recognized by others. I believe that if we put ourselves in her shoes, we can understand her entanglement and helplessness..
3. I don’t want to cause trouble to my children.
My colleague Aunt Shen has two children. The two children are quite promising, with stable jobs and good incomes, but they have settled elsewhere.After the death of her wife, she did not want to disturb her children and insisted on living alone in her hometown.
Aunt Shen has never been in good health. Every time she gets sick, she either asks neighbors for help or asks her sisters for help. For this reason, everyone is worried about her.
Later someone introduced her to a wife. The old man's surname was Liu. He had a house, money, and good economic conditions, but he had no children. He only had a nephew who lived not far away and would come over to take care of him occasionally.
At the beginning, the two people talked very well, but when they talked about the issue of partnering or remarriage, they had differences. Aunt Shen just wants to live together as a partner and does not want to go through the formalities, but Lao Liu feels that partnering is not reliable, and only with formal procedures can he feel at ease.
Aunt Shen believes that once two people become a real couple, they need to bear a lot of responsibilities, which will definitely cause trouble for their children in the future.
Lao Liu also has his own thoughts on this, saying that whoever provides for himself in old age will inherit his own property and should not suffer any loss.
After much discussion, the two of them could never reach an agreement, so they finally had to part ways and live their own lives.
When old people are looking for a wife, they often have to consider many things, involving not only each other but also their children; they must not only look at the present, but also think about the consequences.
is written at the end:
Why don’t single women in their later years want to find a wife? The reason is that they consider more and more detailed issues and do not want to interfere with their children's lives because of their actions.
Faced with such a choice, I think single mothers are more selfless than single fathers. Perhaps it is due to nature, or perhaps it is the influence of traditional concepts. Sometimes, for the sake of their children, women will willingly give up or even give up the life they want.
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Thank you for your reading and support, and I wish you health and happiness!
Author: Yi Diaolu, a cheerful and joking emotional narrator who is willing to accompany his mentors and friends to taste and laugh about life.
