My best friend and I work in the same work unit and lived in the dormitory for about a year when we were single. Looking back now, it was a time when we were extremely free and happy. It's a pity that we didn't understand at that time how much we needed to cherish our time at tha

My best friend and I live in the same work unit and lived in the dormitory for about a year when we were single. Looking back now, it was a time when we were extremely free and happy.

It’s a pity that we didn’t understand at that time how much we needed to cherish our time at that time. We were all busy falling in love, focusing on sex over friends, and being sentimental. Our emotions also changed with the big pig’s hooves that we would be in the future. .

After getting married and having a baby, my life is full of chaos and chaos. I usually say hello in a hurry when I meet at work, exchange a few words, and then go on to go their separate ways.

She has a passion for life but is easily disturbed by the external environment. I have a calm temperament and it is difficult to be particularly passionate about anything unless I am happy from the bottom of my heart. But the advantage is that I am not easily disturbed by the outside world.

She is chirping and full of energy every day, while I am leisurely and calm every day.

But this does not affect the two of us being best friends.

She jokingly calls me her Dinghai Shenzhen [laughing]

She is hard-working and motivated. After working for more than ten years, she became a head nurse and became busier every day.

I don’t like to worry. I only do things within my own business scope. I am only responsible for patients and focus on the main relationships in work and life. As for other messes, ignore them. If the sky falls, the tall guy like the director will hold it up. After all, he is over 1.8 meters tall. It would be a waste if he can't hold up the sky! [laughing]

Because she is also a middle-level leader, she knows more about certain things, which are often inconsistent with her three views, so she is often hit hard.

She has also had some troubles in her life in recent years. She found out that her trusted husband is not that tall (don't make blind guesses, he is just using power for personal gain [呲呲]).

She felt that her parents would always be her dependants, but they did not make selfless contributions at critical moments. The mother is cowardly, the father favors sons over daughters, and puts his son's family first.

When his daughter is doing well, of course his father will be happy, but when his daughter is not doing well, he feels like a burden and will not go all out, work hard, or die like he did for his son.

remembers that when I lived in the dormitory, my best friend’s salary was enough for living expenses, and almost everything else was left to her parents. She was half a mother to her younger brother. At that time, their family was happy.

After getting married, because she and her husband made a lot of money, her brother made less, and her sister-in-law didn't work, so she didn't have to pay less.

But when she needed help the most, her father was no longer as gentle to her as before.

She feels sad and helpless. Her temperament has changed a lot in the past few years. She is no longer as talkative, laughing and energetic as before. She feels that people's hearts are unpredictable and that family, love and friendship are all fake.

She had to take care of her two children and go to work, but she couldn't find anyone to rely on, so she became anxious, irritable, and stressed. Her son entered a rebellious phase, and the emotions of mother and son repeatedly spiraled downwards.

I understand everything she has gone through. Except for my son, a little angel who repays her kindness, I am better than her. I am not much better than her. I have experienced her current emotional state.

has learned a painful lesson. If you can't change others, change yourself. You must not let yourself get stuck in the mud.

Unlike me, she doesn’t have a sister to talk to, so every once in a while she comes to me to recharge her batteries.

Insignificant words of comfort cannot solve the problem. Every time, I put myself into her environment and put forward practical solutions based on my own previous psychological journey.

For example, she was worried that her father did not love her as deeply as she thought, and would not love her more than his own life.

I jokingly said to her that although we are dealing with life and saving lives, we cannot rise to the level of life easily.

Why do you have to ask your father to do that? You are an adult now, and you have to solve your own affairs by yourself. It is a courtesy for your father to help you, and it is not against the law if he does not help you. He has already fulfilled his responsibility in raising you, so let this one go and don't take it to heart anymore.

The second worry is that you feel that your brother and sister-in-law are selfish and have failed you.It turned out that you were kind to them voluntarily, and no one forced you. Who stipulates that if you are kind to the other person, the other person must be kind to you? It's their child's birthday, why do you have to pay for the banquet? You've gotten to the point where you're embarrassed not to pay.

You yourself have encouraged their greed and made them so annoying. They haven't asked you for mental compensation yet, and you are still wronged here.

My best friend laughed and tried to pinch me, haha, don’t hide away, you are so weak, pinching me is just a tickle [laughing]

I have had all these troubles about her, and my father is also patriarchal. Female, although he is okay with me on the surface, it is all because he knows that I have a strong temper and is not easy to deal with.

My father is lazy, no more than her hard-working father.

My father attaches great importance to my work. As long as I ask him to help, otherwise my work will be affected. Even if he is reluctant in every way, he will never let me go at the critical moment. My father is better than her father in this regard.

I used to help my brother a lot, but after I found that he was becoming more and more greedy, I stopped the car in time. Fortunately, my sister-in-law is hardworking and easy to get along with, which is much better than her lazy, cunning and stupid sister-in-law.

Our mothers are the same. The women of their generation have something in common: hard work, selfless dedication, nagging, pampering their sons without any bottom line, and despising them in every possible way.

's character is not lovable at all. My daughter thinks she works too hard, so she should feel sorry for herself more. She will not learn to feel sorry for herself, but will only feel sorry for her son. The white-eyed wolf son she raised is ungrateful, and they are heartbroken. , ran to complain in front of her daughter.

Every time this happens, my best friend gets angry with my brother and my sister-in-law.

My solution is to either let my mother stay where she is to cool off, and don’t ruin my good mood. Or find an excuse to take her to my house from my brother and serve her as the Empress Dowager Cixi for two days.

After Cixi was no longer suffering from the torture, she began to worry about sending her back when her giant baby was hungry and not frozen.

Therefore, the concept of one generation after another cannot force others to live according to your thinking. If you let yourself go, let others go. When your mother cries to you again, pretend to listen, comfort her more and don't take it for her.

Any other worries? Husband? As an adult, doesn't he have a clear idea of ​​what he's doing? Don't worry about him. Killing and stealing are regulated by law. Smoking and drinking make him feel uncomfortable. Are you too busy to worry about him?

As for children, we have no choice. As long as they are healthy and of good quality, everything else is fine. You don’t want your child to be healthy and you ask him to be obedient. If he behaves well, you ask him to study well. If he scores first in the class, you ask him to rank first in grade.

Is his rebelliousness making you uncomfortable? His rebelliousness shows that he has normal intelligence, saving you money to have his IQ tested.

My best friend laughed so hard: "Everything in your idiot mouth will become a good thing."

Come on, it’s tight. Is there anything else you need to ask for help?

A high-ranking leader cannot do his job well?

Excuse me, who told you that people in high positions must be of high moral character, have a breeze on their sleeves, and pray for the people?

Otherwise, when would the words "unworthy of moral status, sanctimonious, and dressed like a beast" be used?

You haven’t managed the three-thirds of an acre of land in your home yet. You, a weak woman, want to conquer the world without being inferior to men?

's best friend looked at her phone: It's been ten minutes since she left. Corey and I told her to go pick up the items and I had to go back quickly. You fool, you will wait for me to marry you in the next life [呲ya]

This little woman left in a state of disbelief.

Alas, I was just joking with her to make her laugh. She has indeed been at a low point in her life in the past few years. I am already impressed by her that she has not collapsed.

I hope she can get through this trough and have a prosperous life in the future!

We all talk about physical and mental health, but sometimes this mental health is more difficult to achieve.

My approach is to build my own belief and constantly improve it.

For example, I believe that people's hearts are open to the sun, and those who love to go out love to return, so I will love flowers, grass, and rainy days, and will not lose the entire distrust of the human group because of some occasional bad events.

I believe in martial arts, and love is the only thing that cannot be broken, so being able to give love is a kind of happiness, and being loved by others is even more happiness!

I believe that the evil will not suppress the good, so the temporary success of a treacherous person cannot make me envy or imitate him. This may need to be seen in the long river of time.

I believe that no one is perfect, so I treat myself and others with tolerance. I don’t ask others to treat me how I want, nor do I ask myself to exist like a saint.

For example, don’t ask me this: If your son and your nephew fall into the river together, who will you save first?

Isn’t this redundant? I will definitely save my son first.

But let’s just say, why don’t you go for a walk by the river when you have nothing to do [face covering]