Many powerful people have light in their eyes.
has been making money on his own in recent years and has seen a lot of worldly things. Especially when it comes to dealing with interpersonal relationships, I see that really good people often master these 12 high emotional intelligence skills when dealing with interpersonal relationships. It’s worth learning!
01. Speak through your brain and be careful in your words and deeds.
The mouth is just a big speaker. You must pay attention to controlling the tone and volume, otherwise it will bring you a lot of trouble.
Decades of friendship can sometimes be ruined in just one sentence. Only those who have suffered in this regard can truly understand.
Don't just talk for a moment and talk endlessly. You think that people give you smiles because they like to listen to you. Then you will endlessly say all the things that hurt your heart. As a result, people will completely find out your family background, not only for you. If you lose interest, you will laugh secretly behind your back that you are too stupid.
02. Don’t rush to conclusions when encountering something.
Even if you have the answer in your mind, don’t say it right away. You might as well wait. Maybe others have better solutions. Say it earlier. What if you make a fool of yourself? Especially when you encounter something. When you are in trouble, try to learn to wait and take it easy. In many cases, not only will the trouble be resolved, but good luck may also come.
03. If someone asks you for help, if you can't help them to the end, politely refuse.
Try not to agree and end up not helping, unable to do it, or quitting halfway due to various reasons. Doing this will not only ruin the favors you have paid in the past, but will also lead to the reputation of being unfaithful and unloyal, and will even delay other people's important events.
04. There is no love without reason in this world, and there is no hatred without reason.
There is a reason for others to be good to you, and there is a reason for others to be bad to you. And many situations are your own fault, so don’t get too entangled, don’t openly antagonize others, just be aware of it. The so-called tactful behavior means that you can see through many things without telling them, and you can still smile when you see people you hate to the core!
05. Treat villains as long as you can tolerate them, take a step back and the sky is brighter.
If you can't, give them a little space of your own. It doesn't matter, just do your own thing with peace of mind and let them indulge themselves.
As the saying goes, adults are generous and don’t take small things to heart. If you mess with a villain, you are in trouble. If one villain fights, countless villains will stand up. The villain has plenty of time to talk to you. Dealing with it, until now I haven't come up with a better way to defeat the villain.
The only thing I know is that try not to offend villains. Either a fatal blow or keeping a distance is a good way to treat villains. It's best not to get entangled with villains, as the gains outweigh the losses.
06. If you know the person who praises you behind your back, you should treasure it in your heart
because there is little water in it. Some people who praise you in person are sincere, but most of them are flattery. You can smile, but forget about it afterwards. Maybe they will fill you with ecstasy soup and you will ask for your help soon.
Be wary of people who praise you in public. Maybe you turn around and poke you with their fingers behind your back. There is one principle to follow in interpersonal communication: : laugh at yourself more (depreciate yourself) when meeting others, praise others less in front of others, and praise people behind their backs more often. Don’t worry that it won’t reach the ears of the person involved.
Of course, when selecting the best ones, remember to recommend yourself, and when it’s time to recommend someone, don’t be stingy with your words of praise.
07. Don’t be cynical all day long and pretend to be aloof.
Look down on those second-generation rich and second-generation officials. If their parents are capable, they don’t owe you anything.
You think that people are just losers and playboys. In fact, after you get in touch with them, you will find that their academic qualifications and abilities are better than yours!
Therefore, if you have the opportunity, contact and make more friends with the second generation of rich people and officials. It is much better than making friends with you who eat and drink every day and call each other brothers and sisters!
08. As the saying goes: hearing is false and seeing is believing, it may not be correct.
In fact, in reality, what the eyes see may not be true, and life is like a play. Rely on acting skills.
Some people who look pitiful to you actually have a much higher income than you. People who look miserable to you are actually just showing it to you, fearing that you will be envious, jealous, or afraid that you will ask others to borrow money.
Therefore, some people like to say that they are not good here or what is not good about them. Just laugh when they hear it. Don't be stupid and believe it. It's like people crying in a BMW car while you laugh on a bicycle.
09. Don’t worry too much about people who are used to taking advantage.
Some people are used to taking advantage. You can do whatever you want with these people. As long as it doesn’t hurt your core interests, you should let him/her take advantage. Just take advantage and don't fuss over trivial matters. These people often take advantage and suffer big losses.
As the saying goes: If you take advantage of yourself, you will suffer big losses.
There is no free lunch in the world, and there is no free advantage for you to take advantage of. In the same way, small favors given to you by others will become a big hole if you save them too much. As long as you accept them, you must find opportunities to repay them. Remember: connections are, to put it bluntly, an exchange of interests. They are all looking for a balance of interests. Only a balanced game can continue to be played.
10. Don’t simply criticize people who have done something wrong.
When others do something wrong, if you cannot give reasonable suggestions and correct improvement methods, please do not simply criticize them. Everyone knows the principle of
, the key is how to do it. If you want to criticize others, avoid criticizing others in an emotional way. Pay special attention to discussing the matter as it is, and do not involve other people's personality, character, personality, family upbringing, etc.
Don’t criticize blindly. When criticizing, don’t forget to affirm the strengths of others first. For example: Although you did this..., but.... If you can be more humorous when criticizing, the negative effects will often be less.
11. In social situations, you should also pay more attention to friends who have inferiority complex
In situations where friends of different social statuses are present, don’t just pay attention to those prominent people, but pay attention to considerately greeting those with lower status, introversion, and introversion. Be careful, friends who may have an inferiority complex.
Helping the disadvantaged in society will be especially appreciated by these people. "Thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi ", the situation is changing, maybe some of the losers you have greeted and admired will counterattack, and the first one that comes to mind will definitely be you! This is what is called: is in poverty Who are you when you are not around? Who are you when you are not there? You look like you have nothing, but when you are on the rise, you will not be forgotten!
12. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
When dealing with others, you must put yourself in the right position. You can’t always treat yourself as a character or take yourself seriously. Son, I always feel good about myself.
Even if you are really a person who makes a difference and has outstanding achievements, you must be cautious, be low-key, and be wise and foolish. In fact, the final outcome of people is the same. It’s just that you think of yourself in a complicated way, so the world is also complicated. .
As the saying goes: Don't take yourself too seriously. In fact, you are not the same thing. When you have this state of mind, you really become a thing!
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