Preface
For most people, the most painful thing is that when they are young, they have to contact others and often do things and say things that are against their will. Even if they are reluctant in their hearts, for the sake of career and Families have no choice but to keep trying to please each other. However, in old age, all these things have become a foregone conclusion, and those so-called pleases are no longer necessary. We no longer need to say some annoying things without conscience. There is no need to socialize, you can follow your heart whatever kind of life you want.
Some old people are also smarter, and they also know that after reaching old age, there is no need to squeeze into some unnecessary circles, and it is time to stay away. Only by withdrawing from meaningless social circles can life be meaningful and can you live your own life. The life you want, but even if you say so, there are really not many people who can actually achieve it. Some people ruin their happiness in their later years for their own selfish interests. It is precisely because of this that they often feel unhappy.
So what should people do in their old age to have a good body? And he can still live happily. A 92-year-old old man said: "After retirement, avoid these three kinds of circles, so that you will be happy and comfortable in your later years." Which three kinds are they? Next let us take a look at the following story.
Narrator: Uncle Zhong is 92 years old
No. 1: Don’t touch the circle of square dancing in the park
I am 92 years old. Since I retired, I have been able to receive a pension of 3,500 every month. Because when I was young, I had I have to pay other social security and pension insurance, so I can have about 7,000 yuan a month. Having this money is quite good for me as an old man. I didn’t think about saving money at the time. Just in case you need it, you just have to play with it. Anyway, there is a lot of money. If you don’t spend it in vain, you won’t be able to take it with you when you die. So during that time, I went to have fun every day, and my wife saw me. She was very angry like this and felt that I was no longer who I was before. I made her look very corrupt now. She even said that if I continued like this, she would divorce me. As soon as I heard that my wife wanted to divorce me, I Everyone was scared, and from then on, he rarely went out.
But it was really boring at home, and there was nothing fun. I couldn’t play mahjong, and I didn’t want to play because I was gambling. Later, my wife told me to let me go square dancing and exercise like her. At the beginning, I was reluctant to go. After all, square dancing is a woman's business. As a grown man, I would not go anywhere.
Later, my wife said: "Don't deny it so quickly. You can come with me for a few days and have a look. Besides, many men go dancing now, and others don't think it's anything. You just have too many things to do." My wife is like this. After saying that, I went with her. On the first day I went with her, I stood aside and watched her. I didn’t think there was anything interesting to dance. On the contrary, my wife danced very happily. The next day I followed her. When she went there, I was happy and a little wary, because some of the songs played were my favorites, and I saw people looking happy after dancing. I was also eager to go up and give it a try, but in the end I endured it.
When my wife and I went there for the third time, she invited me to jump up. This time I was no longer awkward, so I followed my wife up. I didn’t know how to jump, and I didn’t skip. But after following my wife’s steps and jumping down, I I found it quite easy and easy to get started. Gradually, I no longer had to dance with my wife, and could dance by myself. From that day on, I began to fall in love with square dancing.
After dancing with my wife for a while, my wife can no longer accompany me. She has to help her daughter take care of her nephew, so I can only dance by myself. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Even if she’s not around, I can still dance well. I went to dance on time every day, and I met a woman during the dance. She was Xiaohong. She was very enthusiastic. Every time she came over, she would say hello to me and often chat with me. Slowly , the two of us also became friends who talked about everything, which was quite interesting.
I like to make friends, but I have never thought that making friends would lead to scandals. Since the two of us are relatively close, others think that I have a relationship with her, so these gossips spread to my wife. My wife was very angry when she found out about it. My nephew stopped taking care of me and ran back directly and scolded me. She said, "You old man, you are simply going too far. For my sake, This family is so tiring, you don’t even know how to cherish me, but you go out to be casual with other women, don’t you miss me?”
I have never thought about divorcing her. I know that she has sacrificed a lot for this family, so it is impossible for me to divorce her for someone else. Seeing her so sad, I also knew that I did something wrong, so I comforted her. I broke up with her and told her that I was innocent. I also promised my wife that I would never dance in the square again and stay away from this place of right and wrong. If I stayed for a long time, it would be easy for others to misunderstand me. I had better leave as soon as possible to prevent my wife from being misunderstood. I'm sad. Although square dancing is good, it can easily cause family conflicts. In serious cases, it can prevent our relationship from breaking up. So for the sake of my family, I have to leave the place of right and wrong.
Second: Stay out of the circle of fair-weather friends
After I stopped dancing in the square, I stayed with my wife at home for a long time. My wife saw that I had corrected my mistakes and forgave me, and no longer restrained me. Now, she occasionally goes out with me for a walk to relax. I know my husband very well. He has a sharp mouth and a soft heart. As long as she coaxes her, she will be fine. She won’t be angry with me for a long time. , I also know that she has sacrificed a lot for this family, so I also want to spend more time with her during my lifetime.
But God is not as good as man. After I retired, my former friends and colleagues often came to me to play. I didn’t want to deal with it. After all, I was old, but I couldn’t be sure. They came directly. When they came to my house and asked me to come out, they were all my good friends. They had stood up for me when something happened before, so it was hard for me to refuse.
However, every time I go out with them, it’s very boring because they drink alcohol. I don’t like drinking very much. Drinking a little wine will make me blush and bloated, so I don’t want to drink, but they do it every time. It annoys me to make me drink. I won’t let go until I vomit. As soon as I go out, I will definitely get drunk. It doesn’t matter if I get drunk. When I get home, I have to trouble my wife to take care of me. He scolds me and gives me I make sober tea and drink it. Every time I wake up, I regret that I always come back in the middle of the night and disturb my wife from having a good sleep. But there is really nothing I can do to stop the party.
Until one time, I drank until my stomach started to bleed, and I was taken to the hospital on the spot. At that time, everyone present was frightened. My wife was crying and holding me there, listening in a daze. My heart aches when my wife cries. She is so worried even though she is so old. I am really not a good wife. Fortunately, I sent her to the doctor in time, otherwise I would have been in big trouble. From then on, I will never drink again. , I just listen to my wife at home and exercise.
Third: Stay away from your children’s life
My wife loves her children very much. I have told her many times to tell her to stay at home honestly. When others don’t need you, don’t go. They have their own ideas about disturbing the lives of our children. Since they have not come to trouble us, there is no need to interfere in their lives. We can just live our own lives.
But my wife never took my words to heart. When my daughter-in-law gave birth to her eldest grandson, no one said she needed her care, so she volunteered to take care of her. However, no matter how good she was, no one appreciated her, and After the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been together for a long time, there will be endless conflicts. It is really difficult for the son to be a good person in the middle.
My wife’s ideas are relatively traditional. When it comes to taking care of children, she still retains the way she used to take care of her son. However, times have changed a lot, and taking care of children is no longer that simple. We no longer pursue exclusive breastfeeding, but mixed feeding. You can do whatever you like. However, my wife always believes that exclusive breastfeeding is good for the child and reduces colds and fevers. This is also because the two of them are taking care of the child. The disagreement led to the two of them quarreling every day, which was annoying them to death. Finally, my son called me and asked me to pick up my wife.
Although I know that my wife also wants to take care of her grandson and help her son and daughter-in-law, but they don’t need us to participate in the matters between the children, so we can just take care of ourselves. It doesn’t mean that I don’t want my wife to take care of me, but I don’t want my wife to take care of me. I have an opinion. I am worried that there will be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so I don’t let them live together. But my wife doesn’t understand this and always complains to me that my daughter-in-law is unhappy with her, looks down on her, and other issues.
I thought for a while, and then said to my wife: "My children are married and have a career, so we should take less care of their affairs. As the saying goes, children and grandchildren will have their own blessings. When they need us, they will naturally ask us. No." If you need us, we just stay here, don't disturb them, and just live our lives well."
I think being less exposed to these three circles will help us live longer. Now I am 92 years old. My life is comfortable and comfortable, and I have nothing to worry about. It is also very good. At the same time, I have also figured out a lot. Some circles If you can't help it, don't go. If you have that time, it's better to exercise more at home and spend time with your wife, so that your old age will be happy and fulfilling.
