One of my classmates came to chat with me. She was quite pitiful. She didn't even go to college and had a falling out with her family just to be with her boyfriend. A few years after they got married, she gave birth to two daughters. Her husband was either rude to her or disliked her. She is 26 years old and doesn't know many skills. She found many jobs but couldn't hold them for long, so she stayed at home and lived a life of caring for her husband and raising children. Many times she is always humiliated by her husband, who curses her with bad words. She felt aggrieved, but she just dared to keep it in her heart. She has no good education, has never worked well, and has been at home after giving birth.
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She has no confidence to fight such a marriage, and in her heart, she still loves her husband. She asked me, "Why do I treat him so sincerely, but he treats me like this?"
When she usually takes care of her children, she is too busy and asks her husband to come over and help. Her husband often gets angry and yells at her: "You can't even take care of a child." Okay? "
Don't be afraid when your child sees his father posting. She also went through a divorce, but her husband did not agree. Their total monthly income is only 4,000 yuan, and they also paid off a loan to buy a car.
She said not to buy it at the time, but her husband insisted on buying it. After buying the car, they paid off the car loan of 2,000 yuan every month, leaving only 2,000 yuan left. She was particularly worried. This family of four, two adults and two children, only had 2,000 yuan per month. How would they use it?
I have heard for a long time that a woman’s first destiny is given by her parents, and a woman’s second destiny is given by her husband.
If you marry the right person, you will be happy even if your monthly salary is only four to five thousand yuan. If you marry the wrong person, you may not be happy even if it means gold and silver.
What's even worse is that even if you marry the wrong person, you don't have a husband yet, but you still treat yourself like a boss and yell at your woman at every turn.
Incompetent men always yell at their women and regard their incompetence as the woman's fault.
There is a classic line in a Hong Kong drama, "The most important thing in life is to be happy."
I think you can live without happiness, but you cannot live without happiness. Even if you are poor, you still want to be poor and happy.
If a person is already very poor and still wants to live a life of helplessness and frustration, and does not quickly find a way to change the situation, then he is destined to be depressed for the rest of his life.
Just like this classmate of mine, I asked her: "Since you can't get divorced now, why don't you think of ways to make money?" She said she wanted to, but... there would always be a but... behind her. I guessed what she was going to say before she even spoke. She said: I have to take care of my children and can't go out to work. It will be another year before my child goes to school. I plan to go out to find a job and work hard after my child goes to school.
I said, "The Internet is convenient now. You can take your children while online and find something to do on your mobile phone."
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If you have been waiting and can't make up your mind? Then do nothing before the children go to school? In addition to taking care of the children every day, you also listen to your husband's insults, and then cry when you are alone, feeling sorry for yourself?
When you shed tears, your husband is fast asleep, and your children still don’t understand anything. It is not wrong for you to feel sorry for yourself, but after feeling sorry for yourself, you must learn to stand up and make yourself stronger.
Others’ tears are in vain. Every time you shed a tear, you must make yourself stronger.
It is not our fault that we are poor, many people are born poor. The twists and turns of fate are not our fault. Many people are destined to go through hardships? But it is our fault to give in to fate and not fight.
People want to live happily, but also live strong.
If anything makes our life difficult, we must find ways to improve it. You can never change by worrying or complaining.
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But sometimes I feel that you are indeed very pitiful, but don't let your pity become the "poor" in the sentence "Poor people must be hateful".
So, every woman has three lives. The first is given by her parents, which requires innate conditions and we cannot change it. The second is given by her husband, which needs to be discovered with wisdom. The third rule is what you give to yourself. You should cherish yourself. As long as you work hard, you can change anything.
I hope every woman who encounters setbacks can stand up. You are so great, you can definitely do it,
