Hello everyone, Wednesday, we meet again!
A friend asked in the background:
Teacher, I feel that I have no "real friends" and am a bit lonely. How can I change?
Come on, let’s find a breaking point together.
When talking about friends, you have to mention the verb "to associate".
In fact, the so-called "real friends" can be regarded as a state of "deep communication".
In this way, communication is an ability worthy of our long-term cultivation.
Among the top five of my Gallup Strengths is the ability to "connect".
I usually have in-depth interactions with people I can talk to and trust, but I am not good at extensive interactions.
When I make friends, I pay special attention to the dimension of "sincerity."
When the other person makes me feel "sincere", for example, if he has something he loves and pursues, that kind of enthusiasm will touch me deeply.
Also, people who have qualities that I particularly admire are also particularly attractive to me.
I will have some friends like this in every period. They are the source of my energy and the objects of reference.
This also illustrates the mutual promotion effect in "deep communication" - it is the process of mutual promotion that builds the bridge of friendship.
When one party has doubts like "Are we true friends?", it may be that there is a lack of opportunities to "build bridges."
On the other hand, what is a "real friend"? What is the standard of measurement?
If you think that a true friend should stand up for you, a true best friend should accept complaints and emotions unconditionally.
I can only say that such a measurement standard is wrong and immature.
We sometimes overlook some tiny details in relationships. It is not only earth-shattering that is called giving.
I think a "real friend" is the kind of person we can go back to back with, who have constant trust and trust in each other, and believe that we can always find support when we turn around.
Such friendship nourishes our lives and brings us infinite warmth.
How did such a revolutionary friendship develop?
Maybe you helped him at a critical moment, or he helped you at a critical moment.
You have experienced some things together and have become each other's trustworthy friends.
In short, please remember that the screening criteria are: the other party is also a reliable person.
Let’s stop here this time.
Welcome to leave your questions in the comment area and I will answer them for you next time.
