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I believe you cannot deny that many relationships are about loving each other when they are in love, but after entering into marriage, there will be discord due to various reasons.
It turns out that the lover who once had an eternal vow of eternal love will slowly drift away from each other in the little friction in the marriage, until in the end, even the back disappears.
Such situations are not uncommon. Women's wrong understanding of marriage and the rules they set when choosing a husband are all reasons for the failure of marriage.
From a secular perspective, the primary factor in determining whether a man is suitable for marriage before marriage is a house, a car, and money. With these three items, it is the real ticket to marriage.
When women choose men who meet these conditions, they take house, car and money as the primary factor. They always selectively ignore the other qualities of a man, believing that no matter how bad the other person is, she can still change him in marriage. This kind of blind self-confidence is also the reason why marriage turns into a tragedy.
It cannot be said that it is completely wrong to value a man's economic conditions. When one's own conditions are met, it is a positive attitude worthy of recognition to pay attention to the strong union of marriage and pursue better material conditions.
But if you attach too much importance to it, it will put the cart before the horse. Of course, the financial strength of the other party can determine whether the married life is rich, but the happiness of marriage is not entirely determined by finances.
Before getting married, a woman must ask for one thing from a man: respect. This is the key to a good marriage.
1: He respects your various decisions, and there are far fewer conflicts.
To be able to maintain a loving marriage, there must be respect and equality.
My neighbor Xiaoyu and her husband have been married for ten years and have been extremely loving. When people ask her about the secret to maintaining a marriage, she always says gratefully that marriage is about mutual respect and understanding.
Xiaoyu’s husband does not interfere in small matters and will discuss major matters with Xiaoyu. He will not be a macho man and ask Xiaoyu to listen to him. Every decision he makes is the best solution after consultation between the couple. .
Not making marriage a "one word" organization is the respect that husbands give women.
If he is willing to respect your various decisions, your marriage will have fewer conflicts and you will not argue about trivial matters every day, which will affect the relationship between the couple.
2: If he respects your dreams, the marriage will be harmonious.
Every woman has the need to realize herself. Even in marriage, she should retain the right to pursue and pursue independence. Once this right is deprived, it is enough to prove that this A marriage is not meant to last long.
Once the wall of marriage traps a woman's dream, sooner or later, the love between the two will be bombarded beyond recognition by the landmines planted early.
met a couple. The woman realized that she had no competitive advantage in the workplace, so she determined to improve herself. After making this decision, she discussed with her husband, hoping that he could appropriately share the housework so that she could free up some time to study after get off work.
Unexpectedly, the husband refused directly. He thought that the wife was just messing around and living a good life, so there was no need to engage in such things.
Her husband spoke grandly and even promised that he would support her for the rest of her life even if she lost her job. But in fact, all the husband's rejections were because he didn't want to share the housework.
He just wants to lie down and play games when he is off work. He does not want to tutor children in their studies, nor does he want to interfere with housework. His refusal is full of selfishness and rejects women's needs for growth. It is just related to his vital interests.
The marriage of this couple later went to pieces in everyone's prediction. Only a marriage that your husband can respect your dreams can be truly harmonious.
This situation is not unique. Even now, some people still have deep-rooted ideas that women should support their husbands and raise children, and should not have ambitious goals.
Faced with women’s value needs for growth and breakthrough in marriage, some men do not take it seriously. They stubbornly believe that a woman should be an accessory to marriage, and should revolve around the home and children, using the responsibilities of marriage to constrain her freedom.
Such a marriage is a veritable tomb of love. Under the oppression of men day after day, a woman’s love is buried, her spirit is also buried, and her pursuit of life is also buried because of her husband’s big man. doctrine, and it is difficult to continue to complete it.
Women, you must remember that before marriage, if a man cannot give you the respect you want, no matter how good the other party's conditions are, you must reject him ruthlessly.
Entering a marriage without respect means entering the sea of suffering. One day you will wake up from the pain. If you cannot escape, you can only spend a mediocre life in pain.
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