The birth of her daughter brought unprecedented joy and laughter to the Peng family, and the family lived together happily.
However, such happy days only lasted for one or two years. Around 2017, my husband began to stay up at night, and then he simply moved to live with his mother.
After her husband moved away, they left mother and daughter alone in this house of dozens of square meters. She was alone with her daughter and could not work, so she relied on the small salary her husband gave her intermittently to survive. Sometimes, when a child is sick, she has to rely on her natal family for support. In the eyes of outsiders, she and her daughter look like a single-parent family.
Now, my daughter is 5 or 6 years old and has reached school age. If the couple continues to be separated like this, it will leave a psychological shadow on the child's growth.
In Peng Ying's opinion, the reason for this situation between her and her husband was that her husband's sister Cao Caijing sowed discord between them. She said that her eldest aunt was very domineering and gave orders in their home, and even her mother-in-law listened to her eldest aunt.
And the husband also obeyed his sister's words, and never had any opinions of his own. If his sister asked him to go east, he would never go west.
And she was also looked down upon and criticized by her eldest aunt because she could not achieve financial independence with her children.
But she thought that she and her husband had not yet reached the point where their relationship had broken down. She thought that her husband must have been bewitched by her eldest aunt and became like this.
So Peng Ying called the reporters from "Looking for Love" for help, asking them to help mediate the relationship between her, her husband and her aunt.
On this day, the reporter came as scheduled. Peng Ying told the reporter about her marriage situation. The reporter asked her to take them to her mother-in-law to understand the basic situation first.
A group of reporters, led by Peng Ying, came to the old residential building where her mother-in-law lived.
When she arrived at the door of her mother-in-law's room, there was no one at home, so Peng Ying called her husband on her mobile phone and told her why they were here.
After the husband received the call, he made an appointment to meet at a place.
Not long after Peng Ying and the others arrived at the agreed place, they saw Cao Liguo riding a bicycle in front of the reporter.
Cao Liguo, who looked honest and honest, greeted the reporters warmly: You are coming from Changsha, right?
After the reporter answered with a smile, he asked why he separated from his wife.
The honest Cao Liguo put his hands on his hips and said, "There is something wrong with me. I doze off as soon as I get home and snore while sleeping. I'm afraid it will affect the sleep of my children and wife, so I moved out." I used to love buying animal lottery tickets and lost a lot of money, so I stopped buying them a long time ago.
Peng Ying continued what he said, you lost money buying lottery tickets and no one said anything about you. What you said were all excuses for not sleeping at home. Your sister just looks down on me and says that I stay at home taking care of the kids all day and don’t go out to work.
Cao Liguo said, you and your sister are both impatient, talk irritably, and start quarreling after just a few words. However, I will change something in the future and treat you well.
Peng Ying saw that her husband had been protecting his sister and was accusing her of being hot-tempered and hot-tempered, so she started arguing with her husband again. She also didn't believe that the cowardly husband in front of her would burst out with manly blood to protect herself in front of his sister.
When a reporter asked him what he thought of his marriage, Cao Liguo said that their relationship had not reached the stage of divorce, and he still wanted to continue living with his wife.
Hearing this, Peng Ying also said emotionally, if I didn't live with you sincerely, I would not take the risk of being an advanced maternal age and do IVF. In order to give birth to this child, I died twice and was rescued by doctors. twice.
Peng Ying also said, if you live with me sincerely, you should draw a clear line with your sister. Don't follow her arrangements in everything. You should have your own opinions. You should not leave me alone like now. Vacant for 4 years.
In Peng Ying's view, the main culprit that caused her and her husband to live a life of separation was her husband's sister Cao Caijing.
My eldest aunt Cao Caijing not only moved into the new house bought by her husband and mother-in-law, but also called her husband to live with her mother-in-law on the pretext of taking care of her sick mother, which forced them to separate.
So, is Peng Ying's eldest aunt Cao Caijing really the culprit who instigated their household affairs as her sister-in-law said? The reporter decided to go to Cao Caijing to find out the real situation face to face.
My eldest aunt Cao Caijing works in a gas station. When she sees her brother and sister-in-law, she seems to be furious.
started to get angry. If you want a divorce, get a divorce. Why do you bring these things up every day? I have raised your children for 6 years, and what do you ask me to do?
When Peng Ying heard that her eldest aunt said that she was raising the child for them, she retorted, "I raised the child myself."
The eldest aunt was angered by Peng Ying's words. She loudly reprimanded and said: If you don't work, how can you raise your child? Aren't you still raising him on his salary card? Is his salary of two to three thousand a month enough to feed your family? I know how to borrow money every day, borrow those online loans, how much my salary subsidy will give you, do you know?
Peng Ying also said without any sign of weakness: As a husband, isn’t it his duty to support his wife and children? If you hadn’t let him When we go home, we won't end up like this.
The eldest sister pointed her finger at her brother and said, "Ask him, am I the one who doesn't let him go home?"
The middle-aged Cao Liguo held the bicycle with both hands and stood there dumbly, not daring to say a word, like a child being criticized, not daring to say a word.
He was sandwiched between the two women he loved most, his sister and his wife, and said nothing. Let these two relatives tear each other up here, and in the end both sides will be hurt.
At this time, she can persuade her sister to calm down and stop doing things that will make the family scandal public.
You can also persuade your wife to go back to take care of the children first, and then go back to vent her anger on him.
As a responsible man and husband, he did neither of the two things he should do.
The next day, Cao Caijing called reporters seeking love and asked them to have a detailed discussion about the affairs between her, her brother, and her sister-in-law.
Cao Caijing told reporters that she and her younger brother are just two sisters. Her younger brother suffered from depression at work 20 years ago. Her father died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage in 2017. He was only 50 years old when he died.
Dad once told her when he was still awake that he wanted her to take charge of the family.
She also remembered her father's dying instructions and tried her best to help her brother. At that time, she had just gotten married, and she devoted too much to her mother's family, which also caused dissatisfaction with her husband's family.
My brother and sister-in-law were unable to have children, so they went to Changsha to have in vitro fertilization, but the first two times were unsuccessful. She said her brother's blood was not good, so she drew her blood. She paid for the transportation back and forth to Changsha and other expenses. Even the cost of in vitro fertilization was paid by their family.
She said that her aunt brought Peng Ying to meet her younger brother, but her sister-in-law never returned home after she went there. After getting along with
for a while, her mother discovered that Peng Ying was very lazy and did nothing. At that time, her parents considered that her brother was already in his 30s, so they reluctantly agreed to the marriage.
Later, her parents paid for her to buy a house in Xingfu New Village for her younger brother and his wife to live in.
Unexpectedly, after having a child, he came back to live. For this reason, she threw away his brother's clothes and dismantled the bed for him, but she still could not stop him from coming back to sleep.
Cao Caijing said that she devoted herself wholeheartedly to helping her younger brother, and was often called the "little brother-helping devil." It was for this reason that her husband divorced her.
A few years ago, when her younger brother wanted to buy another house, he said he didn't have enough money and owed usury from the housing fund, so she disposed of the house she and her ex-husband shared for 60,000 yuan.
But the money was still not enough, so she took out her 150,000 yuan fixed deposit and lent it to her brother, losing a lot of interest.
Cao Caijing had no children, so she devoted her whole life to her brother. In her own words, She is an out-and-out "little brother-in-law."
The next day, Peng Ying's mother-in-law heard that she had a big quarrel with her eldest aunt, and asked her daughter-in-law and reporters to come together to persuade her daughter-in-law. .
The mother-in-law's words were full of dissatisfaction with Peng Ying's daughter-in-law. She only hoped that her daughter-in-law and her eldest sister would be united and harmonious in the future, and they would stop quarreling over trivial matters.
Peng Ying was already quite prejudiced against her mother-in-law and eldest aunt. After hearing what her mother-in-law said, she picked up her daughter and said to her mother-in-law: Okay, I'll leave, and you can find someone virtuous and harmonious.
At this time, Cao Liguo remained silent, as if he agreed with his mother to find him a virtuous and harmonious daughter-in-law.
After leaving her husband's family, 45-year-old Peng Ying was also worried that if she and Cao Liguo were really divorced, she might not be able to find a kind of man with a daughter.
The Cao family is also worried that if they get divorced, the Cao family's only blood granddaughter may have to be raised by Peng Ying, and the Cao family will have nothing. Looking at the smart little granddaughter, the Cao family's grandma is really reluctant to let go.
After weighing the situation, the couple planned to go to the hospital to check whether they could undergo in vitro fertilization surgery again.
They came to Changsha Yangtze Infertility Hospital for examination that day.
After the examination, it was learned that Peng Ying had lost the chance of having a child through in vitro fertilization. Cao Liguo still had a glimmer of hope.
At this time, a female doctor who examined them enlightened them and said: You and your wife have no principled mistakes, and there is no deep hatred. You both love your children. Therefore, you should change yourselves for the sake of your children, and it is best to give your children an original family.
Under the guidance of the doctor, both of them expressed that they would reconsider.
At this time, Cao Liguo called his sister again and asked her to give her some advice. The sister on the other end of the phone said to him, you are all adults and you have to make your own decisions. I will never interfere with your housework again in the future. It's over.
In order to completely untie their knot, the reporter suggested that they go to the local neighborhood committee for mediation.
At the mediation meeting, the mediator said earnestly: Your first marriage failed, and you finally got a second marriage in your thirties. Moreover, you still risked being an advanced maternal age and gave birth to a child. .
A woman has survived a narrow escape to give you children, and men must know how to cherish them. Everyone has a story, and everyone’s life is not easy.
If you want to divorce, according to the law, child support is paid at 20 to 30% of the basic salary. For example, if your monthly salary is 3,000 yuan, then the child support you receive will only be about 1,000 yuan.
After Peng Ying heard the mediator’s explanation of alimony, she realized that for her who had no job, the alimony of only a thousand dollars a month was far from enough, so she no longer insisted on divorce. .
In the end, under the persuasion of the mediator, Peng Ying and Cao Liguo both untied their knots in each other's hearts, put aside their previous grudges, and the two embraced each other again.
Conclusion
It can be seen from the marital disputes between Peng Ying and Cao Liguo that Cao Liguo did not do a good job as a husband as a lubricant between mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and aunt-in-law. They were unable to resolve their conflicts and grievances in time, and they did not have their own opinions of right and wrong.
Cao Liguo obeyed his sister's arrangements too much, which made Peng Ying feel that she was always an outsider and had not integrated into the Cao family and was not valued by the Cao family. Over time, there will be a lot of resentment and negative psychology of wanting to go against them.
Therefore, men must not only be able to earn money to support the family, but also learn to be harmonious in the family.
