Some people often say that loving someone means being able to block others.
However, there are also special people who find it difficult to have such abilities. In the past, a classmate was like this.
Some people call this fate, and some people call this love. People like
, from the moment they start to feel attracted to the opposite sex, there will always be two good boys around them.
They all have a part of their ideal type, which makes people uncontrollably fall in love with both of them at the same time. When my classmate
was single, it was actually okay. At least I can sort out my emotions before confirming the relationship. Sometimes after getting along for a while, you will slowly make a choice about one of them.
However, despite saying this, my classmate never had a serious relationship because he was worried that he would change his heart. But recently, she fell in love.
About half a year ago, she met a boy who changed her mind. He matched her ideal type very well, and there was no way that she could be shaken by meeting another person in the relationship.
So the two people got together.
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Although the classmate is determined to love such a person for the rest of his life. But after dating for 2 months, a new colleague came to the company. This person was more interesting than my boyfriend, and he was also easier to talk to.
At the beginning, she also felt that she would give up quickly, thinking that it was no big deal, and that she should have a good relationship and not be tempted by other people.
But a month passed in a blink of an eye, and she didn't give up, and it got worse. After falling in love with her boyfriend, they rarely see each other.
And she feels much closer to him than to her boyfriend.
In fact, the classmate loves her boyfriend and does not want to break up with him, but she cannot deny her good impression of her colleague. Sometimes she even feels that it would be nice if her boyfriend's feelings were concentrated on another person.
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Even so, most people have never felt like falling in love with two people at the same time. Loving someone is like opening a door, focusing on the person inside the door, and closing the door to the people outside.
Some people feel supportive, but they also think love is complicated. The feelings towards your classmate and your boyfriend may not necessarily be love, but it may be that you are dissatisfied with your boyfriend and have long wanted to break up.
If you think about it carefully, it makes sense.
I am not satisfied with the current person because the other person ignores me and I feel revengeful. I don’t want no one to accompany me just because he has something to do, I want the feeling of being passionately in love.
As long as you don't feel safe in your relationship, you will quickly find another one.
After all, people who can like two people at the same time always struggle with their own insecurities.
And until you can see your own insecurities clearly, you really can't develop a stable relationship.
Just two weeks ago, my classmate broke up with her boyfriend and confessed everything.
himself broke up with me to avoid his misunderstanding, but in the end he said that he wanted to change his past and asked his classmates to give him a chance. Plus my classmates really liked him, so I agreed.
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I don’t know what it turned into later, but my classmates did not choose to escape. And my classmates no longer like two people at the same time. One side is looking for one, and the other side is still loving the other person without reservation.
There is no way to control what you like, but you should be responsible if you like it.
I don’t know, until now. Do any of you friends here have the same experience as my classmate? Moreover, I very much hope that this article can help everyone understand that their own insecurities are different from those of cheating.
Emotional insecurity is mostly due to the influence of the family of origin.
Here are a few points
1. When I was young, I experienced serious illness
2. Domestic violence, poor relationship between my parents
3. My parents had the experience of cheating on their second marriage
4. My family members had the experience of mental control
5. Left-behind children, Or parents are away from home for many years
These factors all lead to excessive emotional insecurity in adulthood.
is afraid of the harm caused by intimate relationships, and is afraid of intimate relationships, but yet longs for intimate relationships all the time. After experiencing a little uneasiness,
had already planned to evacuate to make himself comfortable, but found that he became even more uneasy after evacuating.
In the end, I was eager to grab a life-saving straw and stabilize the boat in my heart.
As for themselves, this feeling is very entangled and struggling.
Various emotions such as guilt, insecurity, timidity, and humiliation were mixed together, and in the end I slowly became overwhelmed.
Let your feelings no longer overflow to the point where you feel guilty.
A good way to truly achieve safety is to face yourself, make yourself responsible for others, and make others responsible for themselves.
If you always live in a muddle, happiness will not come to your door.
can try many things that have never been done before. For example, share the experiences of childhood with the people you love and see what they think about these things, so as to determine who is more suitable for you.
I hope a happy and healthy intimate relationship will come to you soon.
