My best friend has been secretly with my husband for 2 years, and I have no idea. One is my lifelong pillow, and the other is my inseparable and most trusted best friend. The two most important people betrayed me. I am in agony. After being found out, my husband wants to divorce me and marry my best friend. I can’t understand it. I don’t understand why?
I am 29 years old and have been married to my husband for 6 years. We were nakedly married and he had nothing. I didn’t dislike him. I valued him as a person and I just wanted to live a stable and ordinary life with him. He really didn’t give in. I was disappointed. We went out to work together. He was conscientious at work and did not aim too high. I did not envy the life of rich people and put too much pressure on him.
I usually don’t make many friends, and I only have one good bestie after marriage. Although I got married and had a husband, she is still single, but this does not affect our sisterhood at all.
The main reason is that I am afraid that she will be too lonely alone and have no one to accompany her when she goes out to play, because she has never had a boyfriend. Originally, I asked my husband to introduce some good buddies to her, but she didn’t like it at all, and I didn’t care about emotional matters. It’s hard to force it, so I can just give it up.
At the beginning, I was afraid that my husband would mind, so I took the initiative to discuss it with him. After all, it would be somewhat inappropriate to have her as my best friend when we are alone together. But my husband said that we spend so much time alone, and he doesn’t care about it, as long as I am happy.
I was particularly touched by what my husband said. At that time, I felt that I had no regrets about having a husband and a best friend in this life, and I thought that we would continue to be like this.
did not expect that I still trusted them too much and overestimated my position in their hearts. Although it was me who took the initiative to let my best friends stay with me often, which gave them the opportunity to have long-term contact.
But at the beginning, my husband and my best friend were all "vaccinated" in advance. I asked my husband not to have any evil thoughts about my best friend, and asked my best friend not to have any ideas about my husband, so I was so relieved.
My husband said at the time, how could he dare to have such thoughts when I was here? The three of us were together every day, and there was no chance even if he thought about it! I also tested my best friend and asked her how my husband was. The answer she gave me was that he was not his type anyway. She also said that maybe it was just me who fell in love with him because "beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
I thought the same way at the time. I felt that with me watching, it was impossible for them to do anything under my nose. Even if my husband wanted to have an affair, he would not dare to find my best friend. After all, the risk of being discovered was too great, but I was still too naive. They were secretly together for two years without me noticing.
If I hadn’t accidentally found photos of my best friends spending time alone on their phones, I might still have trusted them unreservedly. How much she trusts me! I don’t think I knew how to look through her phone, so I dared to keep the evidence on her phone so carelessly, or she always regarded me as a fool.
When I found out about this, I flew into a rage. I slapped my best friend several times in front of my husband. I asked my husband how long they had been secretly together. My husband said that they started two years ago. That time I went back to my parents' house, and my best friend happened to be there. When he came to our house, he couldn't resist the temptation for a while, so he did something stupid.
Confused? Not being able to withstand the temptation is really ridiculous. Two years of being together can be called temporary confusion, and even two years of confusion. My husband said that after that time, he was also worried about me finding out, but when he saw me later, he didn't notice anything unusual, so they secretly stayed together again. .
I was really heartbroken. I asked my best friend again why she wanted to seduce my husband. Didn’t it mean that my husband was not her type? She said a little unreasonably that she had been with my husband for a long time and fell in love with her, and she was also single and lonely, so she couldn't hold it back.
She was lonely, couldn't hold it back, and fell in love with each other over time. She could also say this. I thought that I was kind enough to ask my husband to introduce her to someone, but I said I didn't like it. Later, I took advantage of my husband and we were still together. For two years, this was a naked slap in my face, and it was also a slap in my face. Fortunately, I still feel that I have no regrets in having a husband and a best friend in this life.
Two of my favorite people betrayed me. I couldn't accept it. I cried in pain all day long. I thought my husband would take the initiative to admit his mistake and ask for my forgiveness, but he filed for divorce and said he wanted to marry my best friend.
I was stunned for a moment, I don’t understand why? Is this still the man who loves me? Has our six-year relationship been fed to dogs? How am I worse than my best friend? I don't agree with divorce and I don't want to fulfill them. I quarrel with him every day, but he still insists on divorce. what do I do? Do you want to fulfill them?
Conclusion:
In fact, divorce may not necessarily make them happy. It mainly depends on what you think. They have been together for two years and have feelings. Even if he looks back now and chooses to continue living with you, you can still go back to each other. Those days before? Can you accept his betrayal in your heart? Definitely not possible.
You are just unwilling to accept that the person you love the most is snatched away by your most trusted best friend. If you don't agree, you are the one who is torturing them. If you agree, it is not necessarily to help them, but to liberate yourself.
Because even if they get married, it may not last long, because your husband is not the type that your best friend likes. He is just in love for a long time, and maybe he likes the sneaky feeling that is why they are together. When they are really together, they will find out. Two people may not be really suitable for each other, and they will still have to separate when the time comes, so it doesn't mean they are fulfilled.
If you insist on not agreeing to divorce, your husband will still secretly go behind your back to see your bestie, so you might as well let go and leave him to start a new life. Anyway, you are still young and have no children.
So now you should consider how to fight for more of your own interests, and then consider whether to give him another chance when he completely regrets it and comes back to you to get back together.
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