Life pressure and the good and evil of human nature is a big proposition, and there are various examples. I can only talk about some superficial opinions from personal experience, from the little things that happen to be around me.
I remember the writer Wang Shuo about how to choose to believe when I first met, I said, "I generally tend to believe in women, and women tend to believe in young women, and young women also tend to believe in them. Believe in those beautiful girls, and among the beautiful girls, they tend to believe that life is worry-free. Because this group of people has less social pressure than other groups, and their human nature is relatively well preserved. The environment allows them to be kind, and they have no reason to be unkind."
Obviously, Writer Wang agrees that people who have no worries in life are more likely to be kind. I have seen this passage many years ago, and have always disapproved it. After all, being rich and unkind has been quite popular for a long time. It wasn't until my friend helped my mother fight a small lawsuit with the takeaway rider not long ago that I remembered this sentence again.
My friend’s mother was in her 70s. She was hit by a fast retrograde takeaway rider on the zebra crossing and fell to the ground. The traffic police issued a certificate of the rider’s full responsibility and the hospital diagnosed her shoulder. Cracked bone. It didn't matter at all, whether it was hit or fractured, it was staged every day in life, and it could only be said that it was bad luck.
Friends said that the most unacceptable thing is the attitude of the rider. When the accident happened, there was no word of apology, no word of concern, and just stood blankly, as if it had nothing to do with him. As for the visits afterwards, it is even more difficult to take the initiative to pay. Until the time of prosecution, the medical expenses were still unpaid, and it was useless to remind them. Either the call is not answered, or the attitude is arrogant and bad. Even if the traffic police department contacted him on the phone, he ignored him, saying that he was very busy and had no time recently.
There is no way the old lady can only follow the advice of the traffic police.Hot weather and his wife went to the court to sue. Because I don't understand computer operations at all, I haven't been able to file a case after going there three times. The old lady was so angry and anxious that she almost fell ill. In the end, my friends took the time to go to the court together. In the end, the case was mediated, because the responsibilities were clear, and the mediation was successful without much effort. The rider paid on time this time.
What if there is no lawsuit? What if the old lady has no one who can help? It is estimated that it can only be hit in vain.
My friend said that he was the same as most people in society, and he was full of understanding and sympathy for the rider. But after this incident, it is obviously impossible for him to view the rider as before.
My friend also said that the biggest inspiration for him is not to overestimate human nature and do not underestimate desire. "We know the etiquette in the real warehouse, and know the honor and disgrace if we have enough food and clothing." Being rich does not necessarily have to be unkind, and poverty does not necessarily produce good. For a considerable number of people, poverty limits not only imagination, but also patterns and three views. At least the bottom line of being a human being is already the ceiling for them.
This is actually normal. Although it's just an example, it's difficult for anyone to look at it objectively and with the same mentality as before. It is estimated that Wang Shuo is also a general feeling after encountering similar things.
Not only Wang Shuo, but a famous scholar once said something similar, “Some people are not worthy of salvation at all. Salvation is a waste of taxpayers’ money. Saving them is robbing those who are working hard. This kind of people Starving to death is considered a social problem, and raising too well is also a social problem."
It’s not wrong to be poor.It's not the source of evil. Many people have encountered temporary difficulties in life. Why do some people let it go, while others treat hardships as wealth? Reading more books may be one of the important differences. Most of those who successfully walked through the quagmire of life in the end changed their destiny through knowledge.
I wonder if you remember the "Acknowledgements" part of the Chinese Academy of Sciences doctoral dissertation screened in the past few months? At that time, many people broke the defense of , which made everyone cry. After the hardships of life, the author has never given up to make himself better. At the end of "Acknowledgements", he wrote: "The ideal is not great. I only wish that I am over half a hundred years old and I am still a teenager when I return. I hope that I will have the opportunity to re-understand the world and live up to the hardships I have experienced in my life. In the end, if I can do something. The things that make other people’s lives better, you will earn it in this lifetime."
"If you are poor, you will be alone, and you will benefit the world." This is the famous saying of during the period of and Warring States, Mencius_span_span. A Ph.D. apparently complied. I hope that the rider, and more people who have temporary difficulties in life, can read more books when they have time, learn more about the principles of life, and be able to go through hardships like this doctor of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and stick to goodness and beauty. No regrets in this life, no shame in family and country.
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