Before a woman marries, she must first look at the man’s family. Three details are very important.

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Freud once said that the native family determines a person's personality to a large extent.

When Xiaolan first got married, she and her girlfriends complained about her parents-in-law every day.

She said that her father-in-law never does housework at home, and even the breakfast needs to be brought to his bed by her mother-in-law. When the mother-in-law is busy, the father-in-law sits on the sofa and watches TV, never helping, and he doesn't care about family affairs.

But the conversation between Xiaolan and her girlfriend gradually changed from complaining about her in-laws to complaints. She said that her husband is now more and more like her father-in-law.

He refuses to do housework. He always waits for Xiaolan to clean up. The child is also brought by Xiaolan, and he never bothers. After coming home from get off work every day, he lay down on the sofa, playing games, or watching TV, and he became a full replica of his father.

And Xiaolan's parents-in-law think there is nothing wrong with it. When Xiaolan complains, her mother-in-law will say that she has been here for decades, so Xiaolan can bear it too.

Xiaolan is miserable. She quarrels with her husband every day. She regrets that she did not carefully observe her husband's family before getting married, and now she is in trouble.

But Xiaolan’s best friend Bai Ping is the one with better luck. She has been very affectionate with her husband and got along well with her in-laws in the years of marriage.

back then,When Bai Ping and her boyfriend were talking about marriage, the parents of both parties met for a meal.

At the dinner table, Bai Ping observed that her boyfriend's parents are very affectionate, which can be reflected in various details.

The man's father would quietly put a cape on his wife, fearing that she would catch the cold, he would also help her with the dishes he liked, pour hot water for her, and take good care of his wife. The man's mother will also talk to Bai Ping very gently, speaking and behaving very decently, which makes people feel good.

Bai Ping’s parents are very satisfied with Bai Ping’s boyfriend’s family.

Her mother believes that parents are role models for her children. The husband's parents are very affectionate and reasonable, especially his father loves and respects his wife, so this must have been passed on to the child, and Bai Ping will be loved in this way in the future. Such a harmonious family makes her very relieved.

Because the communication between the parents of the two parents is very smooth, Bai Ping's marriage has not been hindered or setbacks. So far, she and her husband are still loving and living in harmony.

After marriage, both men and women have to face many problems in marriage. Women always admire Bai Ping's marriage, and they don't want to meet a family like Xiaolan's in-laws.

Therefore, before a woman marries, she must go to the man’s house as a guest and observe the other’s family to see if it meets her own expectations.

01: The correct three views

Many people consider money first when they mention marriage.But in fact, the most important thing is whether the three views of a family are correct.

A family with three views of righteousness will focus on family harmony, and will also be very tolerant and warm. Male parents will never excessively interfere with their son's private affairs, but will respect his son's choice first.

They do not have the feudal ideology of patriarchal patriarchalism, and they will always take into account the feelings of their family members. There is no such thing as relying on the old to sell the old or moral kidnapping.

Family members who have three views of righteousness have a very upright character. Therefore, they will give you a sense of peace at the beginning, they will know how to respect everything about you, and you will feel very comfortable in this home.

Families with three wrong views will make you feel that they are not easy to get along with, or they are calculating everywhere. At this time, you really have to think about it, maybe you will be wronged because of his family.

You must choose a family with the correct three views and treat your marriage carefully.

02: Harmonious family atmosphere

The relationship between men and families is also an important point to be investigated.

The mode of getting along with the original family will largely affect the mode of getting along with the reborn family. Therefore, before a woman gets married, she must go to the man’s house to see if the family atmosphere in their home is harmonious, and whether it is what you expect in your heart.

First of all, you need to check whether the marriage of the other's parents is stable. If one of you has an affair frequently and the whole family is used to it, then you must be careful.

Secondly, we need to see if the parents get along well.If they quarrel every day, then maybe your future family will continue this pattern.

Finally, look at the dominance of the other's parents. If his father is a machismo, and his mother obeys her husband, then your man may also require you to obey him in everything in the future, and you can't refute it.

Although there are no absolutes in the world, we still have to keep a distance from those bad native families.

Native families with happy emotions can carry this happiness to the next generation of families, and vice versa.

03: Lifestyle

As the saying goes, you don’t enter a family if you are not a family.

It is difficult to change the living habits of a family. If two people are very different in family habits, it is difficult to get married.

Don’t ignore the many small things in life, whether you can eat the same food, whether you can agree on the time to get up and going to bed, whether you can bear the sloppy and messy habits of the other family’s family, etc. It’s all you are getting married Need to investigate and think before.

Although due to cultural background and geographical factors, the living habits of the two families will be more or less different. But if the gap is too big, you may have a dispute after marriage, which will affect the relationship between both parties.

Therefore, you must think and consider to see if the gap between the two sides is within the degree that you can tolerate. If not, you can discuss with your boyfriend how to improve these differences so that both parties can reach a satisfactory level.

Marriage needs to be run-in, but sometimes, if the difference in living habits is too large, it will be difficult to run-in, and even lead to conflicts or contradictions, so the seemingly trivial things should be paid more attention to by women. of.

carefully analyze the differences between the families of the two parties and calmly treat their marriage decisions.

is written at the end:

Marriage is not the same as love, it involves two families. Therefore, before a woman gets married, it is very necessary to inspect each other's family.

Whether you have the correct three views, a harmonious family atmosphere, and acceptable living habits are the three details you need to investigate. After you have observed it, consider your own marriage events. Be responsible for yourself.

In order to protect your marital happiness, please be sure to observe the real situation of your partner’s family up close. A long-term marriage requires the concerted efforts of both families, and cannot be maintained by one party alone.

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