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The people who taught us literacy when we were young and shared the joy and anger are our parents. When we were young, we left our family and went to school to receive education. In the more than ten years of reading career, we have met countless people, perhaps including our close friends.
The school carries the youth of countless people, the joys and sorrows of countless people, and also carries countless stories. Therefore, after we were born in society, we still look back at the lush years of and stop and watch.
After leaving school, when we met again, it was already at a class reunion. Those once immature and ignorant classmates have already become parents and propped up their own homes. Although the class reunion seems to have changed its taste, it has become " Comparing game".
Countless people wear all kinds of personality masks to show their value. In this kind of changed class reunion, only the former schoolmaster and the student with the worst grades in the class remain silent. If you observe carefully, you will find that the two extremes in the class are often mixed better than the others, and even the classmates you once looked down on have become the most promising people in the class.
There are comparisons in the class reunion, but also human, and there are more successful people that you can't predict.
For the first place, it is not difficult to become the best in the class with excellent learning ability and cognitive ability. They have always been blessed by the halo effect.
and the " halo effect (Halo effect)" in psychology,As for , it means that when an individual has a certain trait that is significantly better than that of ordinary people, the job trait is too prominent, which causes others to regard this trait as the only benchmark for evaluating his overall ability.
is like, we always have a lot of kindness and appreciation for good-looking people, because inherent thinking fixed position will make people one-sided treat a person and think good-looking people , Is a smart person, but also a capable person.
For a person with good academic performance, he has more ardent hopes from his family since he was a child. It also carries the ardent hopes of the teacher and even the appreciation of his classmates.
Therefore, under the effect of this expectation, they become dragons and phoenixes among people, and it is reasonable for them to become talents in society. However, there will always be countless people who refute this view and think that they are the first in the class. Rarely will do much.
It’s that you are too narrow. The greater the expectations a person bears, the higher the probability that he will be successful, because it is not only his own ideals and life pursuits, but also the external environment. expect.
Expectation effect makes people become talented is not uncommon. In psychology, this is the "Pygmalion effect". The expectations of others will directly affect the psychology and behavior of students.
The experimenter selected any number of students in a class,Then claimed that this is a very talented student in the class, a student with high intelligence, so after a period of time, the experimenter observed that these randomly selected children had a significant improvement in their performance and became more confident. , More diligent.
It can be seen that when the outside world gives people reasonable and appropriate intervention, a person's behavior will be affected, will be shaped, and become as good as countless people expect.
This is exactly in line with the viewpoint of the behaviorist psychology genre (Behaviorist psychology), human behavior has great plasticity, and the influence of the external environment will have a great impact on human psychology and all aspects of development. Big impact.
Those who have grown up in countless people's ardent hopes since childhood can naturally become dragons and phoenixes among people. Most people with good academic records have no doubt their intellectual and cognitive abilities, as long as they persevere in doing one. It’s not difficult to succeed.
In the process of chasing their dreams, they will get more affirmation and encouragement. If they have great ability to withstand stress, then it is not difficult to be the kind of person that others expect. On the other hand, those poor students who have not had excellent academic performance since childhood, will face more doubts in their studies and life. In this country where academic performance is particularly important, countless Chinese families also regard their children’s academic performance as The only standard for judging the quality of children.
Only children with good grades will have good prospects, and they will be considered good children. They will also receive preferential treatment from their parents and teachers. Those students with poor grades, especially the last one, really have intellectual problems NS? Obviously not. Not only do they have no problem with their intelligence, they are also smarter, they may be keen on video games, keen on things that have nothing to do with learning,People's attention and distribution are limited, so they care about one and lose the other, and their academic performance is the bottom of the list.
During their growth, they also suffered countless discrimination and contempt due to unsatisfactory academic performance. People who did not learn to follow the rules since they were young, how can they be bullied when they grow up.
Countless students with the worst grades, because they have been hit more, they become stubborn, wanting to compete with their own destiny, and their unwillingness and unwillingness to admit defeat make them another A person who mixes well.
Human potential is often burst out after countless strikes. The change of fate either comes from unwillingness in the bones, or from excessive discrimination and strikes.
And those naughty and mischievous students are also the most sentimental students. If students with good academic performance have excellent learning and cognitive abilities, then most students with poor learning have excellent interpersonal skills .
In a country that places such emphasis on human relationships and relationships, "the world is full of knowledge, and human relationships are learned," and their excellent interpersonal skills can also help them find their role in the crowd. , Do a great job.
Whether it is learning ability or interpersonal ability, it is very important in this society. Any kind of outstanding ability can bring certain benefits to its own development.
is the first and last place in the class. They just have different interests in different things. Not everyone is good at learning, and not everyone is good at communication. So those who mix the best must It is someone who has outstanding ability in a certain area.
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Author | Tang Mida
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