The word "Emotional Intelligence" is everywhere.
video site barrage, bookstore best-selling shelves, and even the elders’ nagging will appear.
The most common EQ emoticon pack recently is this sister who changed her EQ after changing clothes:
Look at the photos vs. I can help you see your face for free
I can’t sell it at all vs niche brands
However, the ridiculous use of "high emotional intelligence" in the online world has been significantly different from the use of elders or bosses when you are required to "talk".
In the context of the elders, emotional intelligence is actually a "social lubricant", which wraps up one's true meaning in language buffers, and speaks no sinners.
For example, "You are a little fat", in the mouth of a person with high EQ, it will become: "You are not obviously thin".
What are the characteristics of people with "high EQ"
People with "high EQ" in the traditional sense have some common characteristics. Before you speak, is good at "reading" people and "reading" the atmosphere. is a well-known one, but first, you have to be interested in people .
You're curious about people. It doesn't matter if they're introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. And you should be a good judge of character. Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness; the ability to read other people, know what they're about, and understand what they're going through.
You are very curious about people.Whether introverted or extroverted, people with high EQ are curious about the people around them. You should be a good character judge. Emotional intelligence comes mostly from social consciousness; the ability to read people, understand what they are talking about, and understand what they are experiencing.
It is difficult to be offended, and perhaps it is also the ability of people with high EQ. And even if you have this ability, staying away from "toxic people" is a compulsory homework.
You are difficult to offend. If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it's difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.
You can hardly be offended. If you have a clear and firm understanding of yourself, it will be difficult for others to say or do things that make you angry. People with high EQ are confident and open-minded, and then thick-skinned.
get your goat: make you angry
High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their own emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos.
People with high EQ control their interactions with disgusting people by controlling their emotions.If they need to face a nuisance, they will handle the situation rationally. They will recognize their emotions and will not allow anger or frustration to exacerbate chaos.
On top of this, euphemism is the most prominent feature of EQ . Obviously, the young people in the online emoticons and the elders who say "high emotional intelligence is important" have mastered the language tools of polite and polite.
But young people's ridicule and deconstruction of "emotional intelligence" means more: it not only teases the "euphemistic and twists" approach, but also strengthens the intention and meaning in the discourse. It is a "niche brand", but I just want to say "you can't sell it."
"High EQ" Differences in Chinese and English contexts
Looking back at the etymology, you will find that the emphasis on "social courtesy" itself is the localization of the word "Emotional Intelligence" in the Chinese context. Its meaning is quite different from emotional quotient (EQ) in the English context.
"High EQ" in the Chinese context is more group-oriented, paying attention to polite, talking, and euphemistic; although both emphasize "be friendly to others", the EQ in English is and Focus on personal mental health-not only care about the emotions of others, but also care about your own emotional management.
People with high EQ usually have vocabulary and are good at accurately describing emotions , so they can better deal with emotions.
You have a robust emotional vocabulary. People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” or “anxious.”
You have a rich emotional vocabulary.People with high EQ can master their emotions because they understand their emotions and use a lot of emotional vocabulary to do this. Although many people may simply describe themselves as feeling "bad", people with high EQ can accurately determine whether they feel "irritable," "frustrated," or "anxious."
The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it, and what you should do about it.
The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it, and what you should do about it. Emotions, what are the reasons behind the emotions, and how to deal with these emotions.
On their own, people with high EQ usually will not demand perfection and are good at withdrawing from pressure .
What’s more interesting is that people with high EQ may not drink too much coffee and sleep well .
You will find that high emotional intelligence is not just about treating people and things, but also taking care of your own emotions-a good sleep is certainly helpful for emotional management.
Emotionally intelligent people won't set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn't exist. You also disconnect by keeping your stress under control. You limit your caffeine intake. Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline , and adrenaline is the source of the fight-or-flight response.
People with high EQ will not tend to perfectionism,Because they know that perfection does not exist. You can also maintain distancing by controlling the pressure. At the same time, you will also limit the intake of caffeine . Excessive consumption of caffeine will release epinephrine , and epinephrine can provoke a "fight/flight response".
The fight-or-flight mechanism sidesteps rational thinking in favor of a faster response to ensure survival. This is great when a bear is chasing you, but not so great when you're responding to a curt e-mail. When caffeine puts your brain and body into this hyper-aroused state of stress, your emotions overrun your behavior. High-EQ individuals know that caffeine is trouble, and they don't let it get the better of them.
fight/escape mechanism It makes people avoid rational thinking, it provokes a quicker response to protect themselves. This is a good thing when a bear is chasing you, but when you reply to an e-mail with abusive language, the mechanism is useless. When caffeine puts your brain and body in this state of extreme excitement, your emotions will override your behavior. People with high EQ know that caffeine is a trouble, so they will not be subject to caffeine.
curt: short and disrespectful; abrupt and rude
Finally,Let’s review the vocabulary and expressions related to "high emotional intelligence":
tactful [ˈtæktfl]
adj
diplomatic [ˌdɪpləp ˈtæktfl]
adj Strategic
sophisticated [səˈfɪstɪkeɪtɪd]
adj sophisticated
suave [swɑːv]
adj strong and sophisticated [səˈfɪstɪkeɪtɪd]
adj Lida's
genteel [dʒenˈtiːl]
adj is polite; fake and gentle
high emotional quotient (EQ)
high emotional quotient p
p0 A variant of "Yin and Yang Weiqi", polite and euphemistic is the outer skin, and satire is the inside.But the euphemism itself is correct. For example, when a friend asks you to go out to play, and you don’t want to agree to it right away, and it’s not easy to refuse bluntly, you can say in English: "My schedule is flexible." (My schedule has room for adjustment.)
When making plans with friends or family, saying your schedule is “flexible”, rather than “empty” or “free”, is powerful. You can limit the length or frequency of any activities as well as appear more “in demand”, while not placing any hard limits.
When planning with family or friends,It's best to say that your arrangement "has room for adjustment", don't say "I'm fine", and don't say "I'm free", this is very useful. You can control the duration and frequency of any activity, and at the same time it can look like "busy" without really setting any hard limits.
Will you be outspoken or wrap your words with "emotional intelligence"?
Editor: Zuo Zhuo
Source: Insider
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