One.
My friend Zhang Shanshan has lost her love, which is really depressing for her. After all, we once persuaded her: "I was a friend before, but now I am a lover? Are you sure that the boundary between friendship and love is clear?",
Zhang Shanshan was fearless: "Not that person, just two people The identities are different. I believe we can.”
It turns out that they can’t.
Because I have the same circle of friends, I look at Zhang Shanshan and Zhang Shanshan's ex-boyfriend. Once again, I firmly believe not to fall in love with friends.
two.
Returning from a couple to a friend, this process is more difficult than changing from a friend to a couple. The difficulty of
is:
First, this emotional experience between the two people lies in front of you;
Yes, although they have now parted. However, how can it be so easy for the wind to pass without a trace, and the geese pass without a sound? As long as you are a couple, you will be emotional and manage your business with your heart. But in the end, they broke up, and the contradiction between the two was irreconcilable. Even if you don't turn your face, something bad must have happened.
When you are a friend, can your previous unhappiness really be wiped out? Take it for granted, but in reality it is difficult to do it. There is no psychological shadow, but as long as you think of the other party, it is inevitable to think of related past. It is conceivable that it is extremely difficult to be a friend.
Second, I became friends, but not as good as before;
Well, everyone cherishes each other's friendship. Unanimously agreed: From now on, we will still be friends. Do you think that this emotion is really let go and close when you say it?
Originally, the transition between friends and lovers was somewhat beyond the control range. Otherwise, who would cross the bottom line of "friendship"? Now, return to friends. Similar things may happen again.
Do you treat him as a lover? Sorry, he is your friend. Do you treat him as a friend? You also hope that he can do better...
third,The relationship between them is unclear and everyone is embarrassed.
Then is everyone's embarrassment, who used to know her girlfriend. It's not anymore, someone who doesn't know asks: "How is your boyfriend?" You said, how to answer.
Or, see you walking with other people of the opposite sex. Others may have misunderstood: look quickly look quickly, this man cheated. Turning to tell the ex-girlfriend, the ex-girlfriend has to tell you: "We broke up early, he loves whoever he loves."
3.
When couples return to friends, the most important thing to pay attention to is their mentality.
This is indeed a psychological problem for the parties involved. No matter how reasonable a person is, emotionally it is not easy to digest. A good mentality lies in "affordable, let go". Know what identity you are, know what identity the other party is. It's just a friend, and the other person's life shouldn't be too much involved; the other person's emotions shouldn't be too much to mind.
When your ex needs your help, it is incumbent. Besides, you are you and he is him. He walks his Yangguan Road, you walk your single-plank bridge. Everyone is different, and everyone is happy.
END.
Friends upgrade to couples, this requires fate. Couples return to friends, this is not a matter of turning back. "It used to be difficult for the sea to be water, except Wushan is not a cloud", because of love being together, and parting because of not love. Such tossing is done by human heart and soul-who is not uncomfortable.
Everything is the best arrangement, it depends on your fate. Acquaintance is also a gift. Break up, then bless each other. But the feelings of the past may be cleared overnight. Why not be friends and start over!
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