Today’s Q&A
Small question list:
can do things slowly, but what can do?
2. Family relationship issues, should I intervene?
1. Do it slowly, but how can you do something in your heart?
The student asked: Mingcun, I have a question. Today, I found that I had not done the exams of two companies, so I clicked to take the exams, but found that many questions were not available, because I did not watch the video. Then I started to be afraid of rejection and became anxious. It was so annoying that I would not do it. I didn't want to do it, but in fact, I only need to watch the video step by step, and then answer it.
A colleague of mine saw that she had already taken the test and helped me make one. I watched the video myself and made the other one, but when I watched the video, I was very irritable and impatient.
I think of when I was in university,This is my normal state. In fact, that knowledge point is not difficult, I just need to follow the steps, first read the book and then do the exercises, and then basically master the knowledge points. But I don't do it like this. As soon as I see that I am upset and start to set up obstacles on my own, I will definitely not be able to learn this and can't master it.
So I won’t go through the book first, look at the basics and then do the questions, I just don’t know what I don’t know. )
such a psychology, how should I adjust it?
Mingcong Answer: From the description, you may be resisting being forced by the outside world.
requires me to watch the video to do the questions, so I just don’t want to watch the video and don’t want to be forced to watch the video.
In your feelings, most of the arrangements given to you by the outside world seem to be considered "enemies".
For example, you can do questions only when you watch a video. I believe this arrangement is done in good faith. I hope that everyone really gains in the process of learning this course, rather than a random test and a waste of time. To treat it as an "enemy" is a bit wronged.
In fact, everyone's life is being persecuted, and there is always something "to do this", and these are not all "enemy". These things are not causing us pain, but the psychological state of resisting them is causing us pain.
Why do you want to make enemies out of thin air? Wouldn't it be nice to have more friends? After seeing it clearly, we can gradually try to reconcile with the outside world.
2. Family relationship issues, should I intervene?
The student asked: Teacher, my sister recently broke up with her boyfriend, I think my sister is a bit ruthless, I just feel sorry for them, because his boyfriend is very good and comes to our house for dinner every day after get off work , I have been with my sister, have done a lot for my sister and our family, and listen to my sister very much, but the last two people are divided. Although it was a few days ago, I now feel a little sad for my sister.
Now my sister has another boyfriend, but I feel that his current boyfriend is not very good. I am afraid that my sister will regret it in the future. I think this is a good thing or a bad thing for my sister because of me. Feeling that I shouldn't get involved in this matter emotionally, my mother said that although she feels very sorry, but my sister is also old, he decides his own affairs by himself, so don't regret it in the future.
Is the two of them still possible? In my heart, I hope the two of them can get back together, but my sister is indifferent after the breakup. What should I do?
Mingcong replied: My sister’s relationship has her own path, the true feelings between them,Indeed, only the person concerned can see clearly. If you like the boyfriend before, you can keep in touch with him and be good friends. You have the right to choose your own circle of friends.
and believe in her sister's own choice, she may also need some trial experience to know what she really wants.
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*Author: Ming Cong
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