I seem to have a "disease", an incurable disease. Not only do I have this "disease", but you may also be reading this article. This kind of "disease" can be both mild and severe, and the mild one is harmless and severe persecution of the family.
Next, let me take you to learn about this "disease" - procrastination .
Many people have the problem of procrastination, and some people even say they are patients with advanced procrastination. It can be seen that procrastination is very serious in modern people. Procrastination sometimes is not physical laziness, but more like psychological uncontrollable.
I am a procrastination "patient". I am not stupid and can do it well as long as I do it, but I always delay it until the last moment to start doing it. At that time, there was not much time left, so I had to finish things hastily. The result is either that I did not meet my expectations or that I did not do it perfectly.
I remember when I took the exam for the professional title. I originally thought it was very good. I read the book earlier and tried to pass it once, but in fact it was far from as beautiful as I imagined. Later, I delayed until three days before I started reading the book. The final result is conceivable that I failed the exam.
If you think you will learn a lesson in this way and you will definitely read in advance in the next exam, that is wrong. The second, third, or even fourth time, I still didn’t read books because of procrastination, and I was delayed until the end like the first time. I would rather stay up late the day before the exam or stay up late to read books without sleeping all night than prepare in advance.
I wonder if there are many people like me? So what exactly is procrastination?
Procrastination is just a nickname. There is no concept of procrastination in medicine. Procrastination is more like a more common psychological phenomenon. It means that when the consequences can be expected, the plan should still be postponed later. It is related to personal personality and environmental factors, and is a universal, harmful form of self-regulation failure.
Some people with procrastination will feel anxious afterwards because of excessive procrastination and failure to complete the work in time, and will have a strong sense of self-blame and guilt, and will constantly deny and belittle themselves.
The specific situation analysis is as follows: 1. Procrastination in doing things: patients may be delayed due to lack of self-management. 2.Sense of guilt : The patient may feel guilty afterward because he has not completed the work, or has done it poorly. 3. Inferiority: patients may affect their studies or work due to procrastination, and in the long run, they may be inferior because of their own shortcomings.
So is procrastination a manifestation of depression?
This can be rest assured that people with procrastination cannot be determined to be depressed, but depressed patients may have symptoms of procrastination.
How to self-test whether you have procrastination and how serious is it?
Here I have prepared a self-test form for you, you can answer according to your own situation, and the final result will also be explained in detail.
Why do we want to study and work efficiently, but we always drag it until the last moment to get moving? Next, let’s talk about what to do if you suffer from procrastination.
1. First try to accept yourself having procrastination.
Most people will have procrastination. In fact, procrastination is most common among people who pursue perfection and do things seriously and responsibly. It is precisely because "either you have to do it, you have to do your best" that it leads to delaying again and again. This also shows that people who procrastinate are actually very smart. These people firmly believe that they can do things well in a very short time, but they often do not do as perfect as expected.So why not try to accept your imperfection as much as possible? Since it cannot be changed, lower your expectations and don’t let yourself be too painful and blame yourself.
2. Check yourself.
often ask yourself a sentence: "Are I doing the most important thing now?" This is the experience of Zuckerberg, the founder of "must die". He is very busy, but never procrastinate. He can complete many seemingly impossible tasks and plans every year, relying on this simple sentence.
3. Fixed time and develop habits.
can make some plans for yourself, or develop the habit of doing something at a fixed time. For example, from 7 to 9 o'clock every night, I sit at the desk without moving, not playing mobile phones or games, which is a bit boring, so I have to do something, right? Why not try to start working or studying! You will find that you can complete many tasks ahead of time, which will surprise you, and the more you do it, the more you feel more and more confident you will become, and the psychological burden will disappear.
Sometimes, as long as you start doing this yourself, you will stick to it.
4. Learn to distinguish between primary and secondary and prioritize what you want to do.
Category: There will definitely be some sudden and impatient problems in life. Successful people spend time doing the most important things, not the most urgent things. All work is divided into four categories: urgent, heavy but not urgent, urgent but not heavy, and no urgent or heavy, and completed in turn.
Decomposition: Divide large tasks into small tasks. Make your thinking clearer and do things easier.
5. Eliminate interference.
Turn off WeChat, QQ, turn off music, turn off the TV... isolate everything that will affect your work efficiency and do one thing with all your heart.
has no unnecessary things to do, and it is impossible to work hard or not.
6.Super each other.
Find some friends to overcome this bad habit, or ask friends to urge themselves to give them some tension. It is much easier to have friends help than to fight alone.
7. Set more specific goals.
You might as well divide the task into small targets that can be controlled. Dividing one thing into small frames, such as when your home looks like a garbage station, it may be unrealistic to make it spotless immediately, but it is not too difficult to clean the desk for fifteen minutes.
8. Don’t give yourself too long.
Psychological expert Fvalwal found that graduate students who spend two years completing their papers can always leave themselves some time to relax and rest. Those who spend three or more years writing papers collect information and write almost every minute. Therefore, sometimes the longer the working time is, the lower the work efficiency is.
9. Don’t beautify the pressure.
Don’t believe in wrong statements like “There must be a brave man under pressure”. You can set a schedule and set short-term, medium-term and long-term goals to avoid delaying everything to the last minute.
10. Seek professional help.
If procrastination is so serious that it affects your future, you might as well go see a psychiatrist. Cognitive behavioral therapy may be effective.
If you are also a patient with severe procrastination, you must try the above method! It may be a bit difficult to completely overcome procrastination when you act, but it can definitely be appropriately alleviated or improved. Don’t wait until something important is delayed before regretting it.
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