Tencent once conducted a questionnaire survey on 70,000 netizens, and the results showed that the incidence of extramarital affairs has reached 61.2%. The authenticity of the questionnaire survey cannot be verified, but news about extramarital affairs is common. So what psychological reasons have caused the proliferation of extramarital affair between men and women?
Emotional crisis is the biggest cause of women's extramarital affair. Before marriage, life is romantic and affectionate, surprises are continuous, and lovers are even more inseparable; after marriage, life is boring, disappointment comes one after another, and lovers are even more tired of each other. The gaps in real life and the quarrels of trivial matters catalyze the emotional crisis after marriage; home is no longer a harbor of love, and women do not want to go home, they do not want to face it, they just want to escape. A woman who is lonely, lonely and desolate in her heart, and encounters a tall, handsome and gentle man by chance, it is only a matter of time before the outbreak of an extramarital affair occurs.
primitive desire drives men to have extramarital affair. Desire is an innate instinctive impulse that people are born with, and a lot of evidence shows that men's desires are stronger, more frequent and more direct than women. In real marriage life, due to social environment, cultural traditions, living habits, religious beliefs and other issues, the couple's lives in most families are not harmonious. When primitive desires are often not satisfied, men will turn their attention to the lowest-cost extramarital affair.
Release stress is the biggest excuse for women to have extramarital affairs. In the workplace, women have to work harder and harder to achieve results and respect; in the family, women have to go to the hall and go to the kitchen for their husbands and children; in society, women have to get up earlier than chickens, eat worse than pigs, and work more than cows for life; over time, women will be physically and mentally exhausted, and they will not want to go to work, don’t want to go home, but just want to escape. It is only a matter of time for a woman who is physically and mentally exhausted to meet an understanding man when she happens to have an extramarital affair.
The pleasure of conquest indulging men in affair. Men are born to love conquest, especially the conquest of power, beauty and money, which has promoted the development of human society. After entering the 21st century, the economy developed rapidly, material wealth expanded rapidly, and social life became rich and colorful, which also inspired more men's desire to conquer beauty. The flags at home remain unfolded, and the colorful flags flutter outside have become the dream of many men, and the only shortcut to realizing their dreams is an irresponsible extramarital affair.
thrill seeking is the biggest lie in women's extramarital affair. Day after day, year after year, the work of following the rules makes a woman's mood like a stagnant pool; boring family life makes a woman's heart numb; lovers who lack interest make a woman's heart unable to feel a slight turbulence; however, temptation is everywhere, pop-up windows in the lower right corner of the computer, Momo in the mobile phone, posters in the streets and alleys, etc., if you see too much, curiosity and desire will take root. It is only a matter of time for a woman seeking excitement and hitting a man hunting for beauty.
The impulse of revenge instigates a man to have an extramarital affair. Chinese National People's Congress professor Pan Suiming concluded through a five-year national random sampling survey that China's cheating rate is the highest in the world, and one out of every 7.5 wives has ever cheated. Monogamy, from one ends, has become a common consensus among people, so no man can stand his wife cheating during marriage and betrayal of love. Anger, jealousy, and regret will make a man lose his mind, and he will use the simplest and most direct extramarital affair to revenge his wife.
extramarital affair seems to have happened by chance, but there are inevitable reasons behind it; it seems that you don’t have to be responsible, but in fact, the responsibility has been borne from the moment it occurs; it seems that the cost is the lowest, but in fact it has paid the most precious thing in life. It is only a matter of time for extramarital affairs, wearing the cloak of "love", doing things that are "unfeeling", satisfying the animal nature, losing human nature, and eventually being despised.
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