read an article today. The author listed some clear views on autism one by one, and finally concluded: autism is not caused by nurture, and at the same time, it is not important to understand the nature and nurture!
Also, he believes that autism is hereditary!
Is that true?
First of all, let me talk about my children. When filling out the assessment form at the Sixth Hospital of Beijing Medical College at , one of the questions was to ask if any relatives in the family suffer from mental illness.
I admit, I lied when I filled this question, I didn't fill it!
Because, at that moment, I strongly denied that my child was a person with "mental illness", so I was very repulsive when I saw this, so why didn't I respond and depend on mental illness?
In order to prevent them from thinking that my child is a person with "mental illness," I was decisive, and even filled in the bad sign with a bit of anger.
In fact, one of my uncles has cerebral palsy and is mentally retarded, but this? Is it also one of the factors that cause my child to develop autism?
Although the later experts have stepped up to refute the rumors, saying that heredity is only a risk factor, not a pathogenic factor!
But think about it now, how many parents did not fill in the assessment form truthfully because of rejection like me?
If there are 30 out of 100, even if there are family members with mental illness in 20 families, can you still say that this is just a risk factor?
There is a person in that article that I agree with. Everyone has this trait in their genes, such as cancer, everyone has it, but some people are dominant, some are recessive, and dominant. Gene plus many coincidence incentives, so you become the winner.
and our house,Just take us as an example. My uncle has cerebral palsy, and my child's father is not good at socializing, and his personality is more introverted. In some ways, his personal thinking logic is different from that of the general public: he is sensitive and suspicious, and he does not like to communicate.
So, there are two possibilities for autism in my child’s genes. My uncle has cerebral palsy, and my mother’s genes should also have this ingredient, and so on, I also have it, but fortunately, None of them have grown into dominant and susceptible here.
Unfortunately, my son inherited the shortcomings of me and his dad, and also magnified them.
at the same time! Note that at the same time, I suddenly left my son when he was three years old and went to work in another place.
Having said that, some people might say that there are many left-behind children, and they haven't seen a few of them with autism.
When I finish speaking, my departure is only one factor.
And the person who raises the child becomes the key!
My son’s grandmother, my mother-in-law, speaks very little all day long, and is illiterate. I don’t have a strong curiosity and thirst for knowledge about everything in the new era. There is a lot of Buddhism every day. Eating and drinking is enough to be content and happy. Although she loves this only grandson very much, the old lady really can't come up with any tricks to coax her son to play with her every day.
has never told a story, even has no interaction, even joking is extremely rare, my son is not thirsty or hungry, does not cry, does not make trouble, watch dozens of times a day and bald strong , her elderly feel very worry-free , And so happy, so the cycle goes back and forth for a year.
My departure also caused harm to my son. He threw away his chopsticks and stopped eating as he thought I was eating. He kept thinking about my mother.
When it comes to this, I hate myself too much! The intestines are all regretful.
thinks of how he misses me, thinks of his year without any fun, thinks of his process of gradually aphasia ,I am extremely sad.
Because when I leave, he can still talk, care about me, and express his misses. Although there are signs of autism, I believe that if I am by my side, I will bring The security and game entertainment given to him will defeat these signs, even if it will not be completely eliminated, at the very least, he will not aggravate them.
I still think so, no matter how comforting others are, even if the doctor says it, it has nothing to do with this.
With this kind of guilt and thinking, I have gone all the way to the present, and I have seen no less than 2.3 hundred pedigree children, visited four or five institutions, and from the information revealed from the mouths of many parents, I gradually I firmly believe in certain points of view:
Lack of security, fun, and game interaction at an early age will indeed accelerate the possibility of children with autistic traits becoming autistic.
And above, our family members have so many "suspicious" causes. You say it's a coincidence, or you deny the formation of the day after tomorrow, but does it matter?
Doesn’t matter whether it’s acquired or congenital?
is too important!
At the very least, we can let parents or family members who don’t pay attention to children’s preschool education know that no matter who you raise your children, you only ask for food and clothing, and don’t care about the others. It does make your children have personality defects. The more serious ones are to induce self Autism.
Of course, this refers to children who have the dominant gene , which means that they have autistic characteristics.
Even if your ancestors have no mental illnesses in eight generations, even if you and your wife are both optimistic and cheerful, if you put your children in such an environment, it will more or less cause them to have some problems Appear.
This is the so-called "native family" environmental impact.
Finally, let me summarize my hypothesis: (contributing to the cause of autism)
First: There are patients with similar diseases in the family
Second: One or both of the parents are sensitive and introverted
Third: Toddler Period of insecurity and game interaction
The above three points are more aimed at retrogressive autism.This is the so-called acquired child with autism.
I want to make one point here: the acquired child may not be completely without signs and signs. For example, my son, before I left him, he already showed non-response behavior, but we don’t think it is " Problems".
So, at the end of the day, autism is more likely to be born with autism, but the day after tomorrow, if you don’t give him incentives and don’t give him a chance, maybe some mild children and marginalized ones will never induce autism. , This sentence is not what I said, and the point mentioned by Professor Zou Xiaobing in a speech.
If anyone is fortunate enough to read this article, quickly reflect on whether your child is experiencing a boring and single childhood, whether your child is experiencing such signs, if so, immediately, immediately! Correct and improve the way of raising, and try to turn the possible into impossible.
Also, if your child has been diagnosed with autism, please don't be discouraged and hopeless. I will tell you the good news. My son has recovered from the initial moderation to marginalization.
Simple communication from no language to the present
From not responding and not seeing to responding to seeing completely normal
From repeating from stereotype to now almost no longer exists
From not understanding anything It’s not a big problem to understand
from nothing... to almost everything...
In other words, there is no so-called golden interference expectation, that is, there is, after that, there is no need to worry about not improving, just your way The method is right, as long as you stay with him forever and do the right thing to promote his growth, the child will not let you down.
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